FGS wrong wine wrong pizza

[Missrosie123]

Just as the title says really. A busy day. I was going to do a Deliveroo order for pizzas and my favourite wine. DH insists on going to the shop. Comes back without the wine. Goes back for it and gets right brand but wrong type. Come to cook pizzas. Asked for two. He got both the same. The one type of pizza I don’t eat.
Im being pathetic as I’ve not even said anything. I can’t cope with his inevitable ‘I’m so rubbish at everything’ downward spiral where I then have to pick him up. Sick of carrying the mental load for everything. He is a good man and a good dad, it’s just not enough.

No it isn’t. It would be if she kept nagging him to go to the shops all the time but it was HIS idea

women on here are so anti men 🫠

Only the rubbish ones.

The whole ‘woe is me, I’m such a terrible person’ act is emotional manipulation.
Good, kind men do not emotionally manipulate their partners.

We don't, but most of us are not so fixated on particular wine and pizza that another sort would throw us. Mind, if it's pizza with pineapple (sooo wrong) I sympathise. Other than that any pizza will do.

I love men, me. Just have no time for male bullshit.

That sounds very hard.

Ever hear the phrase that two choices is a dilemma?

Add more choices. You could try counselling. You could have a trial separation. You could ask him to see a counsellor/therapist, if he is unable to handle criticism or the occasional argument. You could have an affair. You could run away. You could have him replaced with an automaton.

Obviously some of these are unlikely, but the point is that you do have options.

In the end, it is your choice. You don't know that it will 'destroy' him. And it may hurt your child, but children are resilient, and most children want happy parents, not just parents who are gritting their teeth and struggling on.

Lastly, do you have close friends, family, who you can talk this over with?

All the best, OP.

Who's we?

Excellent point.

And it is possible to have a breakup that minimises the impact on children.

Oh, ffs!

I'd mind. If I wanted xxx and yyy, I'd be pretty fed up to be told no don't order it I will go and get it, only to be presented with AAA and BBfuckingB and to KNOW that if I said a word, I'd get the "poor me I am so terrible" act.

She wasn't fixated on one particular pizza, she literally said he bought two of the only pizza she doesn't eat. This is her anything other than that pizza.

Your child will survive divorce.
They won't survive their mums broken unhappiness.
You deserve better.
This is why so many women prefer being alone.

You need to have a hard conversation, and tell him how you really feel and how close you are to not wanting to be in the relationship. Then find a counsellor to guide more in-depth conversation. It’s not about the wine (or blasted deliveroo that seems to have overtaken the conversation!). Hopefully, you can find your way forward positively.

Why is it your responsibility to sort out his self-flagellating tantrums?

I see the point you're making, but of course the child will survive an unhappy mother.

It's not really helpful to increase the pressure OP is already feeling.

OP has various options. One of them is to stay, or to stay for a period of time, and be unhappy.

Then he's a daft 'appurth or trying it on. I keep the wine I like in the house - wouldn't go out to buy a special one, I find that a bit odd.

I suspect I am what gets called neurodivergent - however, I hate labels and just consider (with all my family) that I am tactless.

Dunno. The people you think are being unfeeling, I guess.

Why do so many women marry impossible men?
It's not the wine that's the problem here!

@Grammarnut , I don't but if I wanted a pizza, I'd want the one I like not some random one, and I'd choose wine that went with what we were eating.

It's not about the pizza and wine.

Let me guess. He went so he could
avoid ffing bed and bath time? And then ff’ed it up.
on those grounds alone I’d be losing my shit to an extent that he’d be saving my order on the Home Screen of his phone in lieu of a tattoo ! He’d certainly be going back out with a flea in his ear and screw the woe is me, I tried vibes. Try ffing harder.

I am not so sure it is weaponized incompetence. Some people really are that...I don't know what the word is...bad at processing the instruction?..but I have inlaws who hold responsible jobs at work who have to be sent images of groceries to their phones in order to return with the right thing. It's infuriating.

The more I read Mumsnet, the more I feel sorry for men.

Could it possibly, maybe be that man may actually have just made a genuine, innocent mistake?

Yep. I feel sorry for men.

nailed it!