FGS wrong wine wrong pizza

[Missrosie123]

Just as the title says really. A busy day. I was going to do a Deliveroo order for pizzas and my favourite wine. DH insists on going to the shop. Comes back without the wine. Goes back for it and gets right brand but wrong type. Come to cook pizzas. Asked for two. He got both the same. The one type of pizza I don’t eat.
Im being pathetic as I’ve not even said anything. I can’t cope with his inevitable ‘I’m so rubbish at everything’ downward spiral where I then have to pick him up. Sick of carrying the mental load for everything. He is a good man and a good dad, it’s just not enough.

Write him a list.

Like a good mummy

It’s about consideration for the other person really isn’t it.
It’s not “buy pizza and wine” it’s “buy the pizza my wife likes and buy the wine she wants”.
The insistence of the DH that he was going to the shops (unnecessarily but as some kind of gesture?) but then do so with a total lack of thought and care, is understandably infuriating.

My husband has made various mistakes like this in the past. Initially I’d try and be cool about it but life is too short to eat pizza and drink wine you don’t like. Definitely Deliveroo what you want.

Absolutely painful, I realise but maybe take a picture of the things you like to send to him.

Aww, these poor men who cant remember anything. We must make them lists and remind them with pictures...

Yeah, saw that coming and I did start with 'I know it's painful'. In the long run it may be simpler. Why this lummox can't/wont remember two things I don't know but if I wanted the pizza and wine I particularly liked, that's what I'd do.

This sounds exhausting. Is he a bit thick? Or a bit disinterested? The fact he got both things wrong rings alarm bells for me. Was it done spitefully?

Does he do this stuff a lot? Is it weaponised incompetence? Is it meeting a need for him somehow?

To be honest it's giving me creepy vibes of an ex who was a narcissist. He was the hero and the victim in every story.

"I'm just trying to be a good husband and got you pizza and wine and whatever I do it's not good enough" vibes.

No mate, I could have l ordered a delivery and got what I wanted without any drama.

Poor you. And poor any woman putting up with this sub par behaviour. You do not have to be grateful.

DH is a fair bit better now but Oh God I used to hate the “ I can’t get anything right” reaction!

Write it on a note for him next time - in CAPITAL LETTERS

Perhaps next time write him a specific list ... men are not known for getting shopping right, despite their best intentions!

She's his wife, not his mother. Write the poor baby boy a list because he's not capable of getting 2 items from the shop? Why do so many women feel like they have to put up with this pathetic behaviour from their men?
The wine I could understand maybe if he doesn't drink it but he certainly knows what pizza she does or doesn't like. He couldn't be arsed.

Nobody is suggesting he deliberately got the wrong stuff - it wouldn't be a mistake, then, would it? It obviously was a "genuine" mistake so you're hardly suggesting something groundbreaking.

Making one "genuine, innocent" mistake is understandable. Having a background in constantly making "genuine" mistakes, then making 3 in a row when doing an incredibly straight forward task and then turning it back against op by doing the self pitying "I'm so useless" routine rather than just saying "ah sorry, my mistake, I'll run out and get the right one now" is the issue

Do you really think that if the DH was otherwise helpful and an equally contributing parent she would be this annoyed about a pizza?

Nobody is suggesting he deliberately got the wrong stuff - it wouldn't be a mistake, then, would it? It obviously was a "genuine" mistake so you're hardly suggesting something groundbreaking.

Making one "genuine, innocent" mistake is understandable. Having a background in constantly making "genuine" mistakes, then making 3 in a row when doing an incredibly straight forward task and then turning it back against op by doing the self pitying "I'm so useless" routine rather than just saying "ah sorry, my mistake, I'll run out and get the right one now" is the issue

Do you really think that if the DH was otherwise helpful and an equally contributing parent she would be this annoyed about a pizza?

All this make a list Talk has made me remember this:
https://www.tiktok.com/@ilovefarideh/video/7307362460007189766

Maybe she should also wear a name tag so he doesn’t forget, and label his shoes left and right!