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So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

This. Sounds like the OP is quite young and this is maybe the first time the reality that mum doesn't have to prioritize her is hitting home. Doesn't help that she is a single mum and ex is going. Understandable she feels like she does, even if she knows it's somewhat unreasonable. I would plan to take Mum out for a fancy lunch. Just her and me. Give you something to look forward to. Please don't let your Mum know your upset and ruin her birthday.

You are their ADULT child now though. With a child of her own. Your mum and dad should definitely be prioritizing each other over you.

They were right though, weren't they?

You say you wouldn't be able to get a babysitter.

He's not going with her family. He's going with new gf. It's her week to have child.

He probably didn't even know her parents were going when he booked the tickets. It was his child free weekend
I have no idea what my in laws are doing this weekend and I'm married to their son still.

See, I'm the opposite. I wouldn't want loved ones to miss out on an event just because I couldn't make it, especially if it was a band I wasn't even that fussed about.

I'd be shoving them out of the door and telling them to have a great time.

It's her mum's birthday.

You’re being silly unfortunately. If you wanted to go, you could have tried to find a ticket within the year you’ve had and arrange child care. Do you always act like a victim?

I honestly thought I must have dreamt this batshit, self indulgent, martyrdom whinge last night, along with the equally crazy responses as No the OP's ex isn't responsible for HER, but he IS responsible for his children. Obviously preferred to fuck off out to a concert, to being with his children. And in doing so, he made sure the OP - the mother of his children - couldn't go to said concert with her family, which was also a big family celebration. He is absolute, selfish, thoughtless, bell end....
But nope, it's here!
MN Madness at its best!! 😆😆

See that wouldn't bother me. I would be thrilled they were having a great time, and actually ask for them to send me photos. Sure it's disappointing to miss out sometimes, but that's life.

Good grief woman, use your voice and be pro-active. You could have said “oh I’d love to come”, bought a ticket for yourself, asked around for a babysitter and if you failed to find one, sold your ticket. You have enough time between the tickets going on sale and the actual concert to organise babysitting. You sound very passive.

You could only get 4 tickets at a time. Maybe the son paid for the tickets as a treat for his mum even. Tickets were expensive too, so maybe they felt it would pressure you financially, I know when I had young children concert tickets were not in our budget.

When you have small children, you really do have to accept that your flexibility to go out and do stuff is temporarily very diminished. Your mum probably made those sacrifices for you when you were little. Now she doesn't need to any more. Now it's your turn to have your freedom curbed. I'm sorry but you need to get your priorities right and stop wasting energy on this.

Such is life
they will tour again when they want some more money

That had occurred to me but I assumed she was a fan. She's overthinking this. Or in a strop about it. Or, since not a fan, completely unaware how difficult it was to get tickets! (e.g. I had no real idea.)

Totally unreasonable to expect them all not to go, or for your dad to miss out so he could babysit. You could have arranged a paid babysitter, as you had enough time given the tickets were on sale last year. If you were 15 i’d get it, but as an adult it’s completely unreasonable. Yes you can feel upset, but to be bitter about them all going is a bit off.

Sorry but I think this is one of those situations you have to suck up. You have kids and don’t have the freedom others do. You can’t expect other people to not go just because you can’t. It’s what you signed up for when you have kids

I can’t go to concerts any more for a health reasons so I can’t go and see anyone.
You have a choice, at another time when you can get a babysitter, to get tickets for something else. Might not be Oasis, but there’s still a lot of choice.
I get it. It’s FOMO. I’d loved to have seen them again, luckily I went several times in my younger years, but that’s life.
This is what I did. I got the set list. The night after their first night in Cardiff I ‘did the gig’ at home on my big telly in the lounge. Went on YouTube and worked my way through each song and sung my heart out.
One of the big media giants is filming it so at some point it will be available to watch.
Pick another band you really like, and go and see them next time they are on tour.
It is just one night, yes it will be great for anyone attending, but it passes.
And pick a band or artist that you don’t have to wait 17 hours to buy a ticket for and don’t have to pay £400 to see.
Which reminds me first time I saw them was in a venue for £6.50 and there were 900 of us. Best night I ever saw them once it got so big I stopped going.
I think seeing bands in smaller venues is just the best atmosphere. All you see at stadiums is a screen….

Unbelievably selfish.
why can’t just be happy for them? You seriously need to look at yourself. I keep thinking about this post and can’t understand it at all. I’m a pretty jealous person, so I get the jealous part, the sheer selfish part, I can’t get my head around. Just be happy people you love get to do something they love.

So do you invite your mum (and whole family) to everything you do and vice versa? And do you not do something if a single other person can’t make it? My god, I feel claustrophobic even thinking about that!

I’ve just seen you are not even a huge fan.
Oh my days, I am without words.
It is like the Richard Ashcroft Shazam situation.

I can no longer fly long haul…….but I wouldn’t stop my family travelling to anywhere in the world they chose to visit.

Is no one else suspicious?

School holidays has begun for some already.

Exactly. As an adult you should definitely have your own life, (ideally before that actually). Most families do things in different groups according to interests and circumstances, especially bigger families. No big deal.

Her parents are probably big Oasis fans too as they would have been young when they first came out. Probably waited years for this reunion.