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[Guinesss]

So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

A babysitter would cost approx £50+ for an evening. That would make an already expensive evening incredibly expensive. Unless of course you have a lot of disposable income.

It's natural to be dissapointed you're missing out.
But if you work out childcare options then next time you can get involved.

But that’s the point, isn’t it? If you’re already prepared to spend around £250 on a concert ticket, that suggests a certain level of disposable income. Either that or the concert is your dream event and you’re willing to make sacrifices elsewhere.

Can you not find a local babysitter or ask one of your friends/neighbours?

Think ex should have made an exception had the kids & let you go instead . Decent & caring thing to do tbh.

How would ex have known that OP might want to go when he was booking tickets? And how would he have known which date OP’s family were going on? It was stressful booking tickets, people take what they can get.

So he's supposed to be psychic now as well?

What are you talking about. You seem to have your own agenda here.

You’re not a child anymore sweetheart. You’re an adult and a Mother

your dad should not have given up his ticket to look after your kids.

behave . and learn how to source babysitters

She’s making the same point I did. How would ex have known that OP might want to go when he was booking tickets? And how would he have known which date OP’s family were going on? He couldn’t have known because he’s not psychic.

Why? He’s her ex! Do you make sacrifices for your ex - someone you’ve actively chosen to no longer have a relationship with (or vice versa)?

Sorry to say but defo bitter and jealous. Not their fault you can’t get childcare unfortunately

Why should he? They are no longer together, how would he even know that the OP wanted to go (bearing in mind she isn't fussed about Oasis anyway). Does he need to check her plans before he books any event for himself, or just this one?

How old are you?

Couldn’t you have arranged your own tickets or asked if anybody in your family was going? You’re an adult.

Why?

He is going separately. Why would he randomly call his ex to check if she planned to go to Oasis and if so did she want him to have the kids?

That’s just bizarre.

It wasn’t his time with the kids so fairly irrelevant.

That’s life with kids I’m afraid. Missed out on things when mine were little as couldn’t get child care. They’ll be grown in a flash and then you can go to as many concerts as you like. You’re just going to have to suck this one up.

you can’t expect your entire family to miss out on something because you can’t get child care.

But it is also a very human and normal emotion.
I think putting down someone who can admit they feel jealous is not very nice either, so maybe give yourself a nice long look in the mirror.

This is crazy! He and his partner have probably been looking forward to it for months, why should they miss out? They actually like Oasis (unlike OP), went to all the effort and expense of buying themselves tickets (unlike OP), and are not scheduled to have the children that night (unlike OP).

Are you really suggesting he says to his current partner “sorry love, you’re going to have to go alone because my ex is having a wobbly so I’ve got to cancel and look after the kids”?

And OP doesn’t even have a ticket so she couldn’t go anyway, unless you’re suggesting he gives her HIS ticket and she goes with his new girlfriend??? Would that be the “decent and caring” thing to do to his current partner? Would you think so if you were her?

It is not on him that OP didn’t buy herself a ticket to a concert, or arrange a babysitter. She’s had an entire year to sort it out so that she could go if she really wanted.

You won't be missing anything then, they're tone deaf, obnoxious and look like they need a good scrub. Save your money for something better.

Do you have any friends at all that would help you out? Perhaps you could return the favour?

Grow up.

you’re annoyed they’re going to a band you’re not even fussed about. It’s not “all your family” your children aren’t going either.

jeez. You sound hard work.

The tickets were bought some time ago so as an adult at that point you would have said, yes I’ll go it gives me plenty time to sort out a babysitter. Then had a year to sort out arrangements.

The problem here is not that you can’t go due to a lack of childcare but that your own family just booked a family effect without even asking you or giving you the opportunity to find childcare, AND included your ex (who could have had the children) ahead of you?!? Fuck me. I’d be really pissed off; you are completely justified in being hurt and upset. That’s really shit of your own family.