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So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

How old are your DC? Don’t you have any friends who could have looked after them?

I don't understand this - it was a nightmare to get tickets. You couldn't just tell people "I'm getting some Oasis tickets do you fancy one". My son managed to get 3 - he wanted 4. None of his friends managed to get any. Surely the OP understands this - the news was full of sad facing disappointed fans at the time.

Yeah, also wonder if the parents are using this as an opportunity to spend some time with their son alone as I bet he is more independent.

Eh, I've missed out on oasis because of money but my ex/kids dad is going. I missed out on sabbath recently too because my ex was also going and I couldn't sort childcare. I'm not bitter I'm happy that he's managing to do it. But he owes me next time My chemical romance are in the UK 😂. When my kids were smaller we left them with my mum, youngest was about 9 months. My mum called during acquiesce (Liam Gallagher tour) to tell me I needed to come home as she was not settling at all and wanted me. Life of a parent haha, be frustrated but don't let it eat you up.

I think it's mean and thoughtless that whoever organized this didn't invite you, especially if it's supposed to be a family celebration for your mum. As for the "welcome to being a mother" posts here normalising leaving out parents of young children, that "logic" is kind of undermined by the fact that the children's father is going, apparently without a second thought.

She invited you and that's the main thing. I don't see why she should have to miss out because you don't have childcare. Maybe she could do something else which is easier for you to attend in addition to going to oasis but I think it's fair enough that she wants to go.

Yes, you are absolutely being ridiculous. You need to grow up and give your head a wobble. If anything, be annoyed at your ex husband for not having the kids to let you go. It’s okay for him to go but not your mum? Even though the kids are his responsibility? Need to just roll with it! 😏

She wasn't invited though, that's the reason she's upset.

I’m sure your children will bring you far more joy than the Gallagher brothers. I really don’t understand all the hype around Oasis. I think you got the better end of the deal hanging out with your kids. Do something nice with them while your family is at the concert.

I doubt you do either, considering how vile you sound.

You just said your dad should’ve given up his ticket!

No one has done anything wrong 🙄🙄

It wasn’t her ex husband’s day to have the kids, so he made plans with how own partner.

Yes because it's not his contact time!!! Maybe the OPs parents could have asked her when she's free to include her but this is nothing at all to do with the ex who is going out on a day when he has no responsibility for the kids. That would be equally true if it's a 50/50 arrangement or EOW.

Oh fair enough, I read it as she'd had to decline because she didn't have childcare and they were all going without her anyway and that's why she was bothered. People should always invite you even if they think it's unlikely you'll be able to come, otherwise you are being excluded which doesn't feel nice.

I’m still shocked that she expected her dad (who actually bothered to get tickets), to miss it and babysit her kids so she (who didn’t bother getting a ticket) could go in his place.

Her mum and dad have probably been Oasis fans for thirty years, it might well have been their dream to go to see them together - and OP doesn’t even like them!

I feel like she’s still in the child stage of not seeing her parents as real people with their own interests.

Completely ridiculous thread. You’ve said yourself you’re not even really a fan. You’re coming across as incredibly childish. You said you wouldn’t go somewhere if one of your children was left out, but you’re not a child any more. You’re an adult with responsibilities. Your family, correctly, knew you wouldn’t have childcare. Do you expect them to all stay at home because you can’t go? Bizarre.

My kids dad is going Saturday, I'm gutted because I was the one who got him into oasis LOL but he and his gf are going and I'm not, is what it is. I would loved to have went but couldn't afford those prices sadly 💔 both my kids have oasis inspired names, I have a live forever tattoo and seen both Gallaghers multiple times solo so that'll suffice 🤣

Was it really a "big family celebration" or did it happen that one of the shows was on your mum's birthday as a happy coincidence so they went on that day as an extra?

Tickets were like gold dust, and there was a maximum of four per household. Mum, Dad, brother, his partner.

If one person booked they would have been fighting to get ANY ticket, and couldn't have got you one anyway - unless you went in place of someone else.

My gut feeling is: parents and brother/partner are Oasis fans. When tour was announced they said "Let's go."

When tickets came out it was "Oh, look, it's your birthday! Cool!"

Limit was four, booked four for the four people who like them.

"Am I not invited?" "It's, Weds, you wouldn't be able to come, and you don't even like them."

This has now, in the Op's head, been turned into a "big family celebration" when the reality is that it happens to be on her mum's birthday.

When you have kids you sacrifice having the free time to do these things. Why should everyone else miss out just because you don't have childcare? You've had nearly a year to organise childcare and get a ticket (and yes, viagogo tickets do work -they're just expensive - I used them myself for Oasis last weekend)

Just tell your family to have a brilliant time, be happy for them, and be better prepared for any future events.

You're not even a fan so why are you so bothered. Grow up. You sound like a spoilt brat.

My family all went last week without me. It was pure bliss! I had a lovely pamper night and treated myself to champagne. No 3 hour journeys and standing for hours on end waiting for the dirty loo and getting beer sprayed on you for me!

The price of parenthood is high.
YABU to expect your family not to go though.

Is there a history with you feeling left out??

Be glad you family will be having a good time and enjoying themselves. Being jealous will just make you feel bad. Very negative. There will be lots of other things to do in life