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So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

YABU but it's understandable.

I think it's really normal to feel a bit bitter and upset you can't go, especially if ex husband is going! Feels like if it's your mum he should have the kids so you can go.

Hope you can get in a better headspace and maybe throw an oasis party at home with the kids or do something nice so you don't feel you're missing out too much and still make a nice memory. Alexa! Play wonderwall!

If you have more than one kid they might end up arguing just like Liam and noel anyway!

Kids are so worth every sacrifice, but it doesn't mean you're going to relish every missed event.

Just because you have a cob on due to no childcare you think the rest of your family should miss out? Are you and adult or a sulky teenager? My 9 year old often has sulks like this when she doesnt get her own way.

Exactly this , i was only saying the other day ive had one night out in 10 years i just dont have any childcare but thats the way it is
My mom was the same when we were growing up she never had nights out until we were older

Pay a childminder? If your family is your only childcare how do you expect to do things with them?

It's your mum's birthday it's a treat for her not for you.
It's a shame you can't go and I'm sure your mum would prefer it if you could but I see no reason why they shouldn't go and enjoy themselves.

And thats the adult way to see the situation
The op sounds very childish

I get the sentiment that sometimes it’s about just being asked and showing you’ve been thought of rather than the actual going. For being upset that you weren’t even offered the opportunity to join them YANBU.

For actually expecting them not to go because you couldn’t, especially when its something you’re not that into anyway YABU.

You havent been "left out", you were invited and cannot attend. 2 different things.

You obviously want your mum to look after your kids and give you her ticket which is a completely unreasonable ask, especially ad it appears this eventis for an occasion for your mum (although hard to tell as there are some words missing from "for my mums" )

If anything your ex should feel guilty more than your mum!

She wasn’t invited! They just presumed she couldn’t go.

Or wouldn't want to go as she doesn't like Oasis?

OP hasn’t said that. She said she’s not a “huge fan”, not that she doesn’t like them at all. She quite clearly wants to go. I know reading is hard for some people.

Why?

Lovely to see you went back and edited your post to add a snarky comment!

Because your comment wasn’t snarky either was it 🙄

Why?

All her family and ex are going. Not everyone can afford the prices of a babysitter and not everyone has friends that are free to help out.

I'd have offered to look after everybody's kids rather than go to an overpriced concert of those idiots. It'll be on YouTube soon enough and you can get your ex to have the kids, get in your favourite takeaway, lots of you favourite drink, dress up and rock around your place watching it. Happy in the knowledge that you didnt pay an extortionate amount of money to go see some second rate twats were probably too far away to see anyway and will probably end up fighting and being dragged off by security half way through. Oh and I dont even like kids that much but I'd prefer spending time with them than Oasis 🤣🤣

Not wanting to seem unsympathetic, but no one who can’t afford a babysitter could afford Oasis tickets!

What's your take on Oasis got to do with OP?
She clearly wanted to go and is upset not to.
Just because you wouldn't go doesn't mean not one else would.
People like different things.

Hope you've got over it OP. Be happy for them and maybe plan something for another time.

Your feelings are valid. You feel hard done by and missing out which I think is understandable. order a Chinese and crack open a bottle, you deserve it

Seems a bit off if your ex is going & not you
He should be the one doing childcare while you celebrate with your mum. What a ! for not offering . Or did he & you declined.

Why should he? It's not his time to have the kids.

This is the bit that sucks. They could have at least consulted you, given you a chance to get a babysitter, or chosen to go on a day when your ex has the children .
That is hurtful and I think you could reasonably discuss it with your family.