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[Guinesss]

So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

Words fail me. FOMO for a band you don’t even like🤷‍♀️. And the thought that if you couldn’t go no one should be able to go, which would be the mentality of a 10yo frankly. I now get the sense of what your parents must endure.

I have adult kids and no way I would miss a concert I wanted to go to because one of them couldn’t go. How bizarre. In fact, last year for a concert we all wanted to go to, tix sold out quickly and I could only get 3. I said I am definitely going. DH will definitely be going and sort the last ticket out between the lot of you. Play rock, paper, scissors, kill each other for it 🤣, I care not as I have mine😁.

Have you ever thought of all the stuff your mum and dad missed out on because they had you as a caring responsibility when you were younger? Lots. Yet, you still want them to miss out now on a concert because you, as an adult, can’t go as well? You’d rather they sat at home staring at the wall. Speaks volumes.

@Zov No the OP's ex isn't responsible for HER, but he IS responsible for his children. Obviously preferred to fuck off out to a concert, to being with his children. And in doing so, he made sure the OP - the mother of his children - couldn't go to said concert with her family, which was also a big family celebration. He is absolute, selfish, thoughtless, bell end

You missed out the bit that it was not his scheduled contact time. He didn’t fuck his children off to go to a concert! He was not scheduled to have the children, OP was. Do you also think OP should never go anywhere/do anything on her childfree days where her ex-DH is scheduled to have the kids, or she would be a selfish, thoughtless bell-end, or is this only relevant one way for men?

@Guinesss I get it.

It's not even really about the concert, is it?

It's the fact they've all been somewhere you weren't able to go, without you.

It's crap of them. I hope you weren't bombarded with Snapchats or anything thoughtless from them. My sister did that with Luke Combs - we'd all tried to get tickets and none of us could - we usually go to concerts together and we all go on and try to get, whoever gets in first lets the other know - anuway, we all missed out, but then her husband got 4 from a supplier and rarher than offer them to us, they took their son and his GF.

We'd come to terms with that but then on the night she sent me about 60,000 videos
.... salt, meet wounds

There was a 4 ticket per person/household limit and most people weren’t able to get a chance to buy any at all, so they couldn’t get you a fifth ticket just in case you could go. Nor is it remotely reasonable to want one of them to stay home so you can go when you don’t even particularly like the band.

When we grow up, marry & have out own kids it changes the family structure. Your nuclear family is now you and your child(ren). Parents going to an event with one of their adult children and his spouse is perfectly normal and reasonable.

Did your parents initiate this or was this your brother arranging to take your parents to the concert?

You do realise that your parents are people in their own right? I can't help feeling that if you had been got a ticket and childcare didn't happen then you would have expected to not be the one to drop out.
Oasis might not play again, your parents health might change and they don't get to do this again. Your Mum is entitled to have the birthday she wants. Now you are adults, with your own children, you don't always have to do everything together. In a way it frees everyone, because it means if your life moves on, you don't have to make yourself available every Birthday/Christmas. Cultivate a friendship circle.

Why do pwoplw think as soon as they have children others people's lives have to revolve around them, they are adults they are entitled to a life

My family all flew on Concorde before it was decommissioned but I didn't because I couldn't afford it. That's just how life is sometimes. Why should they miss out because you can't go?

Is this a joke? Stop wasting our time.

You are responsible for your own circumstances. If you don’t know how to get a babysitter or don’t have the resources then you don’t get to do things like Oasis concerts.
how old are you? Stop expecting your parents to give up a ticket for you. Be independent! Not a victim!
your life is what you chose to make it. Take this as a learning to be in control of what you do with your life. If you want to have this kind of freedom and availability then work out what you need to do to achieve it so next time you don’t miss out.

Fine to feel jealous, but move on now. You know that didn’t sort other care options like a baby sitter or get a ticket anyway. Maybe do something fun yourself in the near future perhaps. I think it’s pretty standard procedure if you have kids that you won’t always make everything. Definitely don’t be petty and bitter and pull a face if anyone mentions how great the concert way.

What if the concert is on a day that he doesn't normally have the kids? My daughter is with her dad tonight; I could have gone to a concert or a movie or whatever tonight, and I wouldn't have thought to check with him first to see if he wanted to go before I decided to go. Why would I?

Are you suggesting that your mum should give you her ticket? Not a chance!
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Why is he an asshole from wanting to go to a concert?

So he purchased a ticket for a concert that's happening on a day that he wouldn't normally have his children and that makes him an asshole? Because he expects her to have the kids on a day that she would normally have them?

OP's post at 2pm yesterday:

Guinesss · Yesterday 14:00
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I’m ok now, dusted myself off. All good

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I see you're not letting common sense get in the way of a pointlessly misandrist rant.

Utter nonsense.

Lol. This is a joke, right? Cannot imagine wanting to strip people I am supposed to love of their joy so I could sit around and enjoy them missing out alongside me. Horribly unreasonable. I hope they have an absolute blast.

Lol! By that logic her mum shouldn’t have gone and should have stayed with her child because it was her lifestyle choice to have the op.

Er, no, OP is an adult, not a child.

You're not that keen on them anyway?

Is she?

You're being unreasonable. You're an adult suck it up.

I was with you til this - why would he miss out then?

But also how old are you, OP? This feels a bit on the immature side, many, many people didn’t get tickets (me and my bf included, his whole family went as well).

Hmm. Well, ostensibly.