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So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

Maybe you're the same as me, we see things they'll never see.

Your post made it sound like it was your mum plus a number of siblings. So actually, she’s just gone to a concert with her son and his partner. It’s not a big family gathering.

Yeah I got the impression it was a few siblings and the parents but turns out it's just the parents and one sibling with their partner and OP isn't even an Oasis fan so seems a bit of an over reaction

Yes, i doubt it was some masterplan by the family to exclude OP

I don’t think mum should have gave up her ticket but maybe dad should have, or at least considered me. We aren’t all the same though

You sound very entitled. Why should your dad not go? You are not considering him either so maybe you are the same as him.

I wouldn’t have took it, I suppose I just wouldn’t want my child to feel left out

But you aren't a child, OP. You are a grown adult who needs to figure these things out for herself.

You think your dad should have given up his ticket so that you could go, when you aren't even an Oasis fan? Wow.

Did none of them discuss in advance that they were thinking of getting tickets? They were widely known about for a while before going on sale. 4 was the max you could buy anyway so someone was always going to miss out, unless 2 people got lucky and managed to secure tickets.

We could only get 4 tickets and there are 5 of us. So I chose not to go. Unfortunately that’s life sometimes.

Are you talking about the band Oasis or an indoor water park type thing?
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Yes, I wouldn’t have gone instead of anybody, I just know if it was the other way around I wouldn’t want somebody to feel left out

Yes. You could only buy 4 tickets at each attempt and I think there is something in the four ticket theory. Are four of them going... and they have just said.. Oh we knew you couldn't get childcare (with only a year to go)

It's hard OP but maybe if they could have bought five they would have.

Glad to see you've dusted yourself off. Good luck with planning some nice days out for yourself and also some with your DC.

It will be old news next week and as I said, Noel and Liam will probs return to playing separately again.. New music with just a few of the old Oasis tracks thrown in. It will still be good to go to.

Well, I think this is the real problem. They left you out from the off, assuming you couldn’t get childcare and not even giving you a chance to try. That’s really shit.

Your dad’s a person too; YABVU to be so pissed off that you’re not there whilst at the same time thinking someone else should have missed out so they could look after your children and you could go in his place

Sorry OP, you gotta roll with it

I wouldn’t expect my whole family to miss out just because I can’t arrange childcare 🤷🏻‍♀️ that sounds like a me problem! Why can’t you arrange childcare?

I know it must be annoying as you want to go and experience it all with your family. However please try not to be angry and bitter, esp as exDH is going too.

firstly aim to picture your Mum enjoying herself, be happy for her and you never know you might get a tshirt! Also turning it around you are very lucky to have children to care for and a loving home. cherish that and then go on See Tickets and see if you can get a ticket for another day.

You're being ridiculous.

The self pity is nauseating.

I think it’s pretty shitty too. Folk on here are just fucking mean and unnecessarily bitchy. Folk in your family, including your EXHUSBAND (??) are all going without you? Any decent loving mother who wanted her daughter to share in this epic experience would have told the ex to kindly sit this one out and look after his kids so you could go. Haven’t they heard of loyalty?

Read the thread again.

The ex hasn't gone with her family.

He's gone with his gf, on a day he doesn't have the kids.

Could you not do something else to celebrate with your mum? It's ok to feel what you're feeling, but not worth holding on the resentment. It's one afternoon/evening, have time out with your mum a different time.

Please RTFT. This is a big concert. Ex is going. Family are going. Not together.

I think it’s a bit shit. My mum wouldn’t leave me out like that.

But you did say you think your dad shouldn’t have gone because you were left out, so you expect to go in place of him?