To be angry

[Guinesss]

So all of my family are going to Oasis for my mums but I couldn’t go due to childcare, I would feel so bad as a parent leaving one of my children out and would probably not go myself. Maybe I am just being selfish and bitter because I am jealous.

It’s a huge tour, the hype around it was massive. Feel sad you can’t go but don’t blame people who can.

I can understand why you're upset. The tickets have been on sale for a year or something. They didn't even consider that you could have found a babysitter in all that time. I'd be gutted if they just assumed I couldn't make it and didn't get me a ticket. You had loads of time to sort out babysitting options.

I made the choice to have a child and that was your life style choice your mum is aloud to go to a concert without you your life style choices should not effect your mum's decision to go to concert or not

Even if they just got the ticket and sold it as I couldn’t go in the end. What goes around comes around I suppose

I would just want both of my children there instead of just my brother and his partner. I would feel bad I think and would have tried to make it happen.

So you don't even like Oasis but are not happy that other people (who presumably do) are going to see them? Grow up.

Real fans have been unable to get tickets, probably because of people like you who think they are missing out on something.

I just wanted to be with my family on a special occasion

YABU to rate Oasis.

But it isn't a special occasion, its an Oasis gig!

They bought the tickets last year but just didnt bother with one for you?

Id be upset too. Thats months to find a babysitter. They could have asked you if you thought you could find one.

Is Sitters still going? They have teachers, teaching assistants etc on their books.

You could have hired a babysitter with that much notice.

OP, kindly I think you have fallen into a bit of a self pity slump.
YABU, and I think really you know this but just have FOMO.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, wish your family a nice time and force yourself to move on. Wallowing will not make you feel better.

They didn't even ask you? Well that part is shit definitely (maybe)

Where is your kid’s dad in all of this?

Why can’t he look after his children?

They probably didn't ask her because she isn't an Oasis fan so they wouldn't realise that she wanted to go!

God, imagine leaving your kids with some random from an app. No way.

I get what you’re saying, it’s not about oasis, it’s not about a concert or childcare, it’s that it’s a birthday for your mum and whatever they were doing would sting for you not being able to be there to celebrate.
You aren’t being jealous or bitter, it seems like quite a deep hurt. Have you been left out before? Or generally feel less important than your brother? You’ve said so many times you wouldn’t feel comfortable doing it when you’re older.
Unfortunately, other people aren’t us, they don’t behave the same or have the same feelings. Just take from it that non of your children will feel like you do right now, you’ll likely go to the ends of the earth to make sure they don’t.

Sexism presumably. Couldn't expect HIM to miss out by looking after his own kids! Even though he's not even family anymore.

Read the fucking thread.

Is this a wind-up, and you’re actually one of the children upset that the adults are going? Because I can’t imagine someone old enough to be raising children to be behaving like this.

Ah ok. I hadn't seen this.

You clearly love your children more than everyone else @SunflowerLife 🙄

People obviously use this service, otherwise it wouldn't exist.

Welcome to life as a mother.

yes, it would just be nice to be considered sometimes

Presumably the OP would have had a whole year to get to know and trust this random from an app. Or ya know find friends or responsible older kids of friends, or any number of possible babysitters.

@Guinesss yes I’m sure it stings but you also have agency here. Lots of time to get a ticket, find a babysitter, and make arrangements to go.

You arent bothered about the band. The tickets are very expensive, your mum probably called it her big birthday celebration so she didnt feel bad about spending the money and as she couldn't justify additional celebration. Your family know the dynamic and that you have no other childcare.

Sounds like you are a close family. Yes it is disappointing you can't go but dont twist it into something your mum should feel guilty about. Mums give themselves enough mum guilt.

Bake a cake with the kids and have them all over for tea and cake the morning of the concert or take your mum for lunch a different day when your sibling or dad can babysit.