WIBU to fly abroad with pneumonia and DC with a chest infection?

[OreoBiscuitPie]

We are due to leave on Wednesday to go to Canada. DH’s sister lives there, he hasn’t seen her for 15 years and has never met his niece and nephew who are 11 and 4. There’s a long complicated story as to why it has been like this but basically his family are from a poor country in Eastern Europe, managed to emigrate to Canada eventually, but DH’s mum couldn’t get residency so they all got deported and essentially banned from the country, the sister was allowed to stay as was an adult had a Canadian partner by then. DH was only a teenager at the time. After years of fighting with the Canadian immigration system and an appeal involving an immigration lawyer we managed to get the ban overturned so he can finally visit his sister for 2 weeks. We don’t earn particularly well and it took a lot of saving.

We’re going with our 3 year old. This trip has been planned for 2 years. Sod’s Law, we all caught Covid about a month ago. DH recovered very quickly. Me and DD recovered quickly too but have since both developed chest infections. It seemed to go away then come back. DD has been checked out at a walk-in centre a few days ago and now on treatment, she is recovering and only has the lingering cough now and no temperature or chills but she’s still not 100% herself.

I went to GP yesterday to finally sort myself out. I’ve had the cough, green mucus and headaches etc but I’ve not bothered about myself as I’ve been so worried about DD. With her finally on the mend I’ve finally found the energy to get myself seen. GP didn’t like sound of my chest and sent me to walk-in centre where I was diagnosed with fucking walking pneumonia. Advised by doctors that it’s not recommend to fly but that if absolutely necessary then I can.

I was so excited to meet DH’s sister and kids and vice versa. DH desperate for his daughter to meet his sister. I feel as though we have to go, and I want to, but my family are worried and telling me not to. I feel there’s no choice. We’ve been advised we’re not contagious to others. In a way I think it might help me recover as we’ll be guests so I can take things a bit easy and have someone cook for me, not be cleaning or cooking etc like I would be at home, so maybe it will help me recover? AIBU?

I wouldn't risk it for yourself. You are berating your co worker but how about you giving it to other passengers?

Travel insurance will cover cancellation for medical reasons. You will probably need to get some sort of GP letter.

You won't be insured if you fly. You could fall over and break your ankle whilst there and you'd be limbered with the costs. As upsetting as it may be, you need to cancel you and dd if she's ill.

If you have already struggled to afford the flights you really can’t afford to end up in a Canadian hospital not covered by insurance. That could cost you hundreds of thousands.

I don't understand why you cant claim the whole trip on insurance because of illness and go another time.

And?

is he the only person who sneezed in your vicinity in recent times?

Because DH's sister and her partner have taken two weeks off work, and their kids will be off school. OP has said they don't have any more annual leave for the rest of the year, so it's really now or next year.

I don't know why you're asking the question as you appear to be set on travelling. I've had viral pneumonia and was unwell for 6 months. I had to look up walking pneumonia which clearly states how contagious it is particularly as you're only recently diagnosed.
You know you'll be contagious but you do what you think is right

Very silly.

Cancel on basis of your illnesses and claim the costs on travel insurance, that is the point of it. You are not making much sense TBH if you cannot see that.

Yes i meant surely your insurance will cover you changing your flights and not travelling on the original dates given you have pneumonia rather than surely your insurance will cover you for medical treatment if you knowingly travelwith pneumonia?!?! which would be ridiculous

I think other posters saying "surely your insurance will cover it" meant the same as me amd were assuminng they wouldnt cover canvelling or moving your flights....

Call them and just move your flights.
You'd be crazy to go as originally planned

Oh and last person I knew of who went abroad with a chest infection returned with it much worse and died in hospital shortly afterwards, aged early 30s.

Don’t mess about with this. You could
make yourself so much worse. Stay at home and rest. The latest Covid strain is causing lots of issues with long Covid and post viral fatigue. You don’t want this - you could be ill for months or years.

Don't do it. What if you have an embolism or get worse out there, you would have no insurance and could end up bankrupt or homeless from gargantuan medical fees. It's too much to risk, you just can't.

DH going to call the insurance company now.

he’s devastated though, it’s our second attempt at going that has failed and it just feels exhausting. It took so much fighting to get to the point where he could even legally go to Canada in the first place. It took years of paperwork to get him unbanned and failed attempts. We had to get a lawyer to help. He got deported as a child due to the mum’s failure to sort out paperwork meaning they overstayed the visa. I feel so sorry for him. We tried when DD was 4 months old having been told he had been unbanned but they hadn’t updated it on the system. 13 hours we waited in the airport with a baby to see if they could sort it but they didn’t.

I’ve told him he should go if he wants too but he can’t face going without DD because they whole point is that him and his sister can finally see each others kids. DD would struggle too much going without me.

Have you got travel insurance??

DD would struggle too much going without me.

Would she? Or do you just not want them to go without you?

Your travel insurance should cover the cost of your flight (or rescheduling it) if you are declared unfit to fly. They absolutely won't cover any costs if you're flying against medical advice. It's pretty risky to do so; I personally wouldn't.

I would contact your insurance Monday and find out what documents you need, and see your Dr again Tuesday and see what they suggest about you flying in a few days time. My vote would be for DD travelling with your DH as scheduled and you joining them later if you're declared fit to fly.

Maybe your DH needs to calm down, take a few breaths and get some perspective. Its been years... 2 months wont make a difference and frankly... your health is more important

Fgs your dh…. Is he putting pressure on you op?

I been a SAHM, only recently gone back to work part-time, DH usually works long hours. 90% of her time is spent with me. DH is a brilliant dad and adores DD and vice versa but majority of time is spent with me as DH has an exhausting job. If she was well she’d probably be fine after a couple of days but she isn’t 100% herself. God forbid she takes a turn for the worse out there and doesn’t have her mummy.

anyway, folk on this thread have made me realise it’s madness to go, just trying to allow myself to be sad and complain about the situation. I need to vent. My poor DH

DH hasn’t pressured me!!! I just feel sorry for him. He’s gutted but understanding. It’s just things I take for granted I think…seeing family every week and yet it’s been hellish for him to arrange to see his

I just don't understand why your DH doesn't go and see his sister alone. You can then put the money you get back from the travel insurance into savings and arrange another trip next year.

As the airline have told you flights can be rearranged, and sil etc have 2 weeks booked off already, what are the chances of switching the flights so they come to you instead of you going to Canada?

Not that I'd fancy hosting for a fortnight with pneumonia, but it'd be preferable (to me) to flying with it.

Totally understand the disappointment @OreoBiscuitPie but you'd be mad to risk it and potentially end up more unwell imo.

If you go and you need any sort of medical help even something unconnected to your pneumonia you will find your insurance won’t pay out as you have not declared your condition.

With pneumonia you’ll probably get worse with the flight particularly as it’s a long haul. You will also infect other passengers and ruin their holiday too.

Do not go, claim on insurance and reschedule. Let DH go with DD. He needs to take his turn and if you think she’ll cry without you as she is poorly, then she is also too sick to be on a flight !