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AIBU to think that MNers are excessively hateful towards trans people?

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Wordsmithery · 13/07/2025 08:50

I accept that there are huge areas to be addressed when it comes to trans/non-trans rights: toilets and changing rooms, sporting events, prison accommodation, to name but a few. Government has a lot of work to do, listening to people's genuine concerns and drafting laws that protect everyone. And of course biological men masquerading as trans to prey on women are scum.
However, reading some of the many MN threads on trans people, it feels like there is a terrifying level of vitriol at the right of trans people to even exist. I emphasise, this is not about toilets/safe spaces etc. It's about Will's right to identify as Jill, or vice versa. Why does it really matter so much to us - are we scared of people being different? Are MNers failing to speak out because they're terrified of being shot down in flames? How is it hurting any of us if someone chooses to identify as their non-birth gender (beyond the caveats in my first paragraph)? What is the opinion of MNers with children or siblings or best friends who announce they are trans ?
Asking because I'm alarmed by the lack of trans allies (or even trans tolerators) on this forum. And I'm even more alarmed that there may be a reassuring number of trans allies on here but we never hear from them because they know what response they'll get.
No hate please. We seem to have enough of that already.

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SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:03

Cr01ssant55 · 14/07/2025 08:31

Reposting posts you have just reported for being vile, purposefully inflammatory and full of hate is a ridiculous thing to suggest as any quotes will also be deleted and actually the reason for reporting is people don’t want to see it.

Re going on to accuse me of being a misogynistic woman hater for doing so is again inflammatory nonsense.

Well if you are not a misogynistic woman hater you would stop defending males destroying females boundaries and you would actually defend females. For once.

RetiringRita · 14/07/2025 09:03

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 08:58

do let me know when you have an argument for why a self selecting group of men should be considered women, in England, Scotland, Transnistria or on the moon.

It's not about your total lack of awareness that others think differently.
Don't both to answer because you can't accept being wrong about anything including geography.
I bet you write in green ink too.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 09:03

Literal LOL at the flailing desperation of some posters.

SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:05

RetiringRita · 14/07/2025 08:34

I have repeatedly said England in my posts.

Oh, so now it's England only. Because womens rights don't matter outside of England? Scotland is in the UK. In case you didn't know.

Nagginthenag · 14/07/2025 09:06

And Scotland, under the SNP have had to put up with so much crap.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 09:06

Those 71% of posters, they see through the utter nonsense that’s been posted on this thread, without one single argument that doesn’t rest on misinformation, lies, insults, smears or emotional blackmail that men can become women. They aren’t buying it. Like most people don’t.

ArabellaScott · 14/07/2025 09:06

RetiringRita · 14/07/2025 09:03

It's not about your total lack of awareness that others think differently.
Don't both to answer because you can't accept being wrong about anything including geography.
I bet you write in green ink too.

Eh?!

SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:07

HonestAquaMember · 14/07/2025 08:35

Good luck @Wordsmithery - we are here, but like someone already said, most of the posters here are an echo chamber of the anti-trans brigade. Anyone supporting trans people are 'captured' and 'don't care about real women'.

But we're here, don't worry!!!

Womens rights are not 'anti-trans', @HonestAquaMember , unless you are admitting what we already know: to be pro trans is anti women, if being pro women is anti trans.

AIBU to think that MNers are excessively hateful towards trans people?
AIBU to think that MNers are excessively hateful towards trans people?
ArabellaScott · 14/07/2025 09:08

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 09:06

Those 71% of posters, they see through the utter nonsense that’s been posted on this thread, without one single argument that doesn’t rest on misinformation, lies, insults, smears or emotional blackmail that men can become women. They aren’t buying it. Like most people don’t.

I've been accused of many things, but never of writing in green ink! 😂

SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:10

BIossomtoes · 14/07/2025 08:36

Scotland is absolutely a different country.

Are womens rights limited to one country?

Face it, they simply don't want any answer. If there are cases in England, then they'll still find something wrong with it. It's childish and disingenuous to say 'give me evidence but...OH! only for this country'. No, they don't get to make demands.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 09:10

I dropped geography at GCSE. At least I know what a woman is though.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 09:11

SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:10

Are womens rights limited to one country?

Face it, they simply don't want any answer. If there are cases in England, then they'll still find something wrong with it. It's childish and disingenuous to say 'give me evidence but...OH! only for this country'. No, they don't get to make demands.

As I said, no one is buying it, outside the echo chambers where everyone thinks (or pretends to) that some men are women.

RhymesWithOrange · 14/07/2025 09:12

Can you be "excessively hateful" towards paedophiles? The thread directly below this on one my list is about a serial paedophile who dressed in women's clothing to carry out attacks.

How does one distinguish in the moment between a predator and a man who just wants to wear a dress?

Waitwhat23 · 14/07/2025 09:12

ArabellaScott · 14/07/2025 09:06

Eh?!

With the use of 'green ink', the poster seems to be expressing the view that you send letters to the Editor written in the way that Agatha Christie describes letters written by old ladies in her books - overwritten, heavily underlined and full of initials.

It might have landed better if that post itself was 1. better written and 2. made any sort of sense. I'm surprised there wasn't multiple exclamation marks at the end, to be honest.

SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:12

RetiringRita · 14/07/2025 08:45

I said England.
And you are referring to the UK.
Scotland is not my area of law.

You don't get to make demands.

Scotland is in the UK. And is affected by the SC judgement.

SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:14

Cr01ssant55 · 14/07/2025 08:48

What support and respect trans people alongside thinking they deserve to live in peace. I would hope most people do share that and at the very least MN. If not work needs to be done and MN needs to be more honest.

What about supporting and respecting females and thinking we females deserve to live in peace?

That's right, it's not about females rights, is it. Because it's a mens rights movement. The fact you won't say a word to defend the oppressed sex, says it all.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 09:15

The Supreme Court judgment was brought by For Women Scotland about Scottish law originally. The Equality Act 2010 is law in both Scotland and England so it was involved at the high levels as it progressed through the courts, as the Scottish government said they were adhering to the EA. Hope that helps the geography fans.

potpourree · 14/07/2025 09:16

Is this genuinely all the arguments people have to defend the idea that the only difference between men and women is a feeling and sex is never relevant?

Come on, where's the thing that will persuade the woman on the Clapham omnibus that you have a point? Give it your best shot. What makes someone (male or female) a woman, in your view?

Surely it would help trans people to know this too - what people would consider in order to perceive someone as a woman, if it's not the sex of their body?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 09:16

potpourree · 14/07/2025 09:16

Is this genuinely all the arguments people have to defend the idea that the only difference between men and women is a feeling and sex is never relevant?

Come on, where's the thing that will persuade the woman on the Clapham omnibus that you have a point? Give it your best shot. What makes someone (male or female) a woman, in your view?

Surely it would help trans people to know this too - what people would consider in order to perceive someone as a woman, if it's not the sex of their body?

Exactly! We’ve been asking this on here for years.

SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:17

SugarSoiree · 14/07/2025 08:53

"Transperbole" 🙄

Made up words don't make you seem mature or reasonable.

Just lie 'cis' and 'heteronormative'. 🙄

Oh, but when we complain they just say "all words are made up" and "language evolves".

Waitwhat23 · 14/07/2025 09:17

SamiSnail · 14/07/2025 09:12

You don't get to make demands.

Scotland is in the UK. And is affected by the SC judgement.

Well quite.

The main reason the GRR bill was stopped under Section 35. was because it went against the UK wide EQA2010 legislation.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 09:17

And as pointed out, it hasn’t convinced the woman on the Clapham omnibus, because it’s unfair and absurd.

RetiringRita · 14/07/2025 09:21

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2025 08:59

I see this is the best the genderists have for an “argument”.

Don't you dare call me a genderist.
I belive in female and male.
You madam are a nasty piece of work who hijacks every thread with the word trans in it.
Go and read an atlas.

AnSolas · 14/07/2025 09:21

RetiringRita · 14/07/2025 08:45

I said England.
And you are referring to the UK.
Scotland is not my area of law.

Karen White

The in prison sexual assaults were committed in which part of the UK?

PencilsInSpace · 14/07/2025 09:22

RetiringRita · 14/07/2025 08:45

I said England.
And you are referring to the UK.
Scotland is not my area of law.

Scotland is bound by the same Equality Act as England.

Human rights are universal.

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