Partner got really funny about swimwear I wore to work away day

[JadeHoliday]

We had a two day work ‘away trip’ last week where one of the bonding things was going to an indoor swimming complex with slides etc. Really fun!

When I got back from this, my partner said ‘you didn’t wear a bikini did you’- which I said I obviously did.

He thinks that’s disrespectful and I should have worn a swim suit ‘rather than have my arse out in front of colleagues’(!)

I told him he can’t control what I wear and he got the hump. He thinks I was trying to make myself attractive and impress colleagues..

Would you say I should have ‘covered up’ or is he being unreasonable

Anyway, I wouldn't choose a thong in that environment but if your bikinis end up like one anyway then it doesn't really make any difference unless it's a literal g string!! That is most definitely not ok!

I am absolutely horrified that anyone thinks a work do at a waterpark is in any way acceptable. I could not think of anything worse than my colleagues seeing me in any sort of swimwear, thong or otherwise.
I wanted to go swimming on my lunch break but couldn’t as I knew a colleague who used the gym and was horrified of the thought of him seeing me.
More than happy for strangers to see me half naked but not a colleague 😱

I can't see the attraction of wearing a thong, which splits your difference and cuts you in half when you bend over. Why not just use a sticking plaster over the gynaecological details.

I am with your DH on this one and I’ve just asked my DH how he would feel if I went to a pool party with work colleagues I’d say it’s a 50/50 of men and women he said he wouldn’t be over the moon about it especially if I was wearing a bikini as he wouldn’t want work colleagues seeing me in that way his words were your arse is out your boobs are out I’ve got to be honest I agree with him on this.
The thought of returning to work the next day or next week knowing they have all seen me in very little clothing, I couldn’t do it
(he knows this would never happen because I’m on the larger size and very body conscious and even using the pool at home I’m always very well covered I have swim dresses) each to their own but not something I would do and I totally understand your DH

I honestly think things in public are gross no matter how gorgeous you are but especially at a family I door water park on a blooming work trip.

I agree, however, he has no business telling you wlhat to wear.

Life is too short not to wear a bikini if you want to wear a bikini. You were in the water on a hot day.

I don’t get the fuss between full coverage or thong bikini.
I couldn’t wear a thong bikini because I don’t have the confidence but it’s only bum cheeks. It’s not like everyone else was zipped up in full on ski suits with masks, gloves and bobble hats.

Not RTFT but I would have thought a thong bikini would mean too much friction on a water slide. (Misses point).

You knew what you were doing. You wanted attention and validation. Who wants to see someones b or v out just so you can post on your socials?

That’s just weird and inappropriate for people you work with. They’ve now seen your arse and probably made people feel uncomfortable even if they were too polite to say!

“He thinks I was trying to make myself attractive and impress my colleagues”
I’m not really sure what I think about that statement, whether that’s exactly what he said, or whether that’s the OP projecting her own thoughts onto her DH.
I DO think that a thong bikini is entirely inappropriate to wear to an official works outing. However, if this was just a bunch of work friends hanging out together then my opinion might be swayed the other way. I suppose I kind of see it as the equivalent of a man turning up in speedos.

Ew. Thong bikinis are just so grim and there is no way they're ok for a work event.

My work does this kind of thing too, abroad weekends etc although there is no obligation to participate. If swimwear is needed I always wear a nice classy swimsuit that looks flattering but isn't too revealing and covers my arse. I have a good arse and body, but my colleagues don't need to see it. We work in a very professional environment.

Never mind the appropriateness of it, i'm cringing at the thought of wearing a thong on waterslides, OUCH 😫

There have actually been cases of internal injuries

https://www.npr.org/2023/10/05/1203732797/disney-world-water-slide-lawsuit-wedgie www.npr.org/2023/10/05/1203732797/disney-world-water-slide-lawsuit-wedgie]]]] this isn’t the only such story

He's effectively saying that he wants to supervise (men) people who might notice you because it will give his ego a boost and make him feel good. What a miserable little man!

I don't really think a swimming event for work colleagues is appropriate personally, and if my with suggested one, I think I would be busy or ill that day, I couldn't think of anything worse than wearing a swim suit let alone a bikini in front of my work colleagues. I agree with your other half, presumably the event wasn't lounging around too get a tan, so a swim suit would be more practical and appropriate.

If you have bikinis that are bum covering but opted for the bikini thong, then I think it was for attention. I can see your other half's pov definitely and see why he feels upset that you felt the need to be validated by others

Oh God the thought of water slides while wearing a thong is grim, mainly because flaps + friction are not a good look for work and must be quite uncomfortable to say the least. I saw a young woman on the beach last week who had a hungry arse as the thong seemed to disappear whilst she was running down to the water, also looked uncomfortable. I'll wear an arse in bikini or a full cossie but not thongs as I like to be comfortable

A thong bikini is a very weird thing to wear for a work team building day 😲 very inappropriate I would say and can see why your partner would be upset.
You would of put all your work colleagues who don't wish to see your bottom in a very uncomfortable position..

As the OP hasn't been back I suspect this is a wind up.

It’s not that it’s too sexy. It’s that trying this hard to look sexy on a work bonding event is weird. I would laugh at both a male colleague and a female colleague if they were trying that hard to show me their body.

Also. Trying this hard is not sexy, at all. Thong bikinis on the beach, golden sand stuck to oiled tanned skin…HOT.

Thong bikinis at Waterworld as screaming kids push past you up the stairs to the slides, while you stand there shifting your weight from leg to leg so Gary from Accounts looks at your arse… not so much. Last time I went to an Aqua Park, it was evacuated because a kid was sick in the pool. You need wetsuits in those places, not bloody things.

@Bloozie Exactly. A woman was at my local swimming pool in one recently. Everyone else was in their sporty one pieces and there she was with her entire bum hanging out and a tiny string bikini top that barely contained her nips. It really stood out in a place where everyone else was either focussed on exercising or playing with their kids. And honestly, everywhere I looked I felt my eyes being drawn to her butt. Imagine if I was one of her colleagues… or her boss.

Time and place.

This is why I don't believe the OP. I think it's s msn getting his rocks off in a way that I don't understand but involves some sort of cuckhold shit

I cannot imagine a scenario where the OP wasn't a male

Where do you work??
A thong bikini is definitely inappropriate at a work think, but personally I wouldn’t want most of the people I work with to see me in any type of swimming costume, thank god this scenario would never happen where I work, if it was even suggested I would think I was in some sort of fever dream/nightmare.
I can see your husbands point.

This is not comparable. The primary aspect of attractiveness for men is physical appearance of a woman, for a woman it is the status of the man. The equivalence you are trying to draw here is flawed as you have not accounted for this fundamental difference.