Partner got really funny about swimwear I wore to work away day

[JadeHoliday]

We had a two day work ‘away trip’ last week where one of the bonding things was going to an indoor swimming complex with slides etc. Really fun!

When I got back from this, my partner said ‘you didn’t wear a bikini did you’- which I said I obviously did.

He thinks that’s disrespectful and I should have worn a swim suit ‘rather than have my arse out in front of colleagues’(!)

I told him he can’t control what I wear and he got the hump. He thinks I was trying to make myself attractive and impress colleagues..

Would you say I should have ‘covered up’ or is he being unreasonable

I get the impression this office doesn’t have to deal with such worries.

I know! Why ever, but a work event?!!!

I don’t believe this is real!

Work trip to a water park. Requiring swim wear. Surely no work place would think that was OK?
If it did, surely no one would think a thing was suitable?
I think we're all being taken for a water ride by OP.

Something that both covered her arse and contained the same volume of tit that a vest top would.

A standard bikini. A tankini. A swimming costume.

Or rather, she can of course wear whatever she wants, no matter what her partner and a load of randoms online say. Her body, her choice.

People are free to question the wisdom of/motivation behind that.

I was with you until I read “thong bikini” - no nope nada

Yeah this! A thong bikini on water slides??? 🤣👏🤷‍♀️ might need surgically removing afterwards. Wasn't OP worried it might fly off her completely whilst going down the slide. yikes. Talk about friction burns 😂

Why has mumsnet removed the laughing emoji? but yes this 🤣👏

EDI training would absolutely encourage managers not to suggest swimming parties where questionable clothing choices are likely to be made!

I don't give a shit about getting my arse out infront of the general public, and don't care if the general public get their arses out infront of me. But a work event? Just no.

I came here to say he’s got no business policing what you wear, but then you lost me at ‘arse out in front of colleagues at a water park’. I mean - is that not a health and safety issue aside from anything else? I’m not a prude by a long shot and I’m not that much older than you, but the current obsession in younger women of a) making their arse as enormous as possible and b) getting it out as often as possible is honestly baffling 😳

No, because there is a lot less material it just doesn’t move, and the string is supposed to be between your buttocks. That’s why it doesn’t move about like a normal bikini. Why would you pull it out?

My first thought on reading your thread was “fuck me the last thing I’d want to do is get in my swimwear in front of colleagues” and then saw you wore a thong bikini?!? Fucking hell 😂 Your partner has a point tbh, no way I’d have got my arse out in front of my colleagues (and tbh not sure this type of swimwear is ok for a pool (especially with flumes surely there’s a big risk of showing much more than your arse!), and definitely wouldn’t want too see any of my colleague’s bums either, I wouldn’t know where to look!! Surely you were breaching the dress code anyway! 😂😂😂😂

Fabulous I’ve been reading this to my 90 year old Mum, we’re laughing and laughing!

on another note went to a work do a few years ago (dinner in casual pizza type place) and one of my colleagues turned up in a swimsuit.

wildly inappropriate for our work in case anyone was wondering.

shortly after my other colleague left his wife, colleague 1 and 2 both lost their jobs and are now shacking up together. We all still talk of swimsuit woman!

Sure this happened. Just like all the other posts from 'Jade something' happened

Perhaps there are no Muslims, for example, in the office.

Where I work it isn’t uncommon for colleagues to organise day/nights out together amongst ourselves. We don’t need HR or employer approval.

His possessive feelings are off the mark.

A work event on swimwear sounds like a nightmare. I think most people would choose fairly conservative attire in an attempt to maintain some professionalism.

did anyone else wear similar?

Wearing this is clearly to garner male attention and it is disrespectful to your HB. I am unsurprised this has caused an issue

🤣🤣

On the one hand being in a thong in front of colleagues is weird, but on the other hand if I looked okay in a thong I would wear one all the time. Enjoy being young, YANBU

If I search this user name am I going to find that this is the only thread the OP has posted on? I am aren't I? <sigh>

I do not believe that a company would use a water park/swimming pool for a team bonding day. It's not appropriate or very inclusive, for a start.

That is weird. A thong bikini is different, but a bikini with coverage is just the same as a one-piece with coverage. I'd understand if he said he wished you wore a one-piece so that your midriff wasn't out. I mean, I wouldn't agree – I think it's none of his business – but that would at least be a meaningful distinction.

I always assume people are in similar jobs to myself and are all professionals. The idea of going to a team building swim event, let alone in a thong, is entirely bizarre in my line of work. In fact, if I did venture out in a thong bikini on any such trip, I’d probably be sacked soon after.

I forget that there are lots of lines of work and not all of them require the same level of self awareness and professionalism.

Neither would I post images of my thong clad backside on Instagram, regardless of how glorious it’s looking right now. But then Instagram is a pile of rubbish anyway.

I don’t think wearing a thong bikini to a work event is appropriate. How old are you op?

Oh no it's alright. All OP's young colleagues have their bumholes out on Insta