Crap friend

[PerkyOchrePeer]

I went on holiday last year and met up with a friend of a friend. I didnt really know her but was grateful that she offered to show me around. We didnt have much in common but rubed along ok. I thought she was a bit full on with her behaviour and wondered if she was gay. After the holiday, we went our seperate ways and i sent her the odd fìendly wassap message to which she replied to but in a cold polite but not that friend manner. The last couple of messages she totally ignored so i have now deleted her from my phone and wont be messaging her again.

I was annoyed at first because i have made an effort to remain on friendlý terms

It's not a wind up. It's what I genuinely think of the people who give so called advice and think they know enough about the person to suggest they are lonely 🙁

You said you were going to leave. Then you came back.

It's confusing about which 'friend' you are on about. You don't listen to anyone on this thread. Apparently we're 'bullies' for not validating your way of thinking, whatever it is as it's not clear to me.

Do you not think you would benefit from a professional environment to go through everything?

And all the great advice you have had that people have taken time to post, which you've ignored?

You've taken none of it on board, you are extremely frustrating and it's really not hard to see why you struggle with friendships. Harsh? Yes. True? Also yes

What about my dad? I don't recall writing about hin

What about my dad and his mugno that was posted by someone else. My dad died 14 years ago and my mum died 8 years ago

Also my parents never used mugs. Only cups abd saucers

See to me, this is a weird way to answer.
Rather than say someone else was posting about your dad and good mugs.... surely the reply is... That's not me. Someone else has a similar user name.

I don't think you and that poster are one and the same person. I do think you both need therapy to discuss issues with social interactions.

Dear all in this thread. I am sick of your snide comments. You are all bullies who nèd to watch how you treat people. You think this affects me, well it doesn't. I. Having a good laugh. I feel soŕy for you all. Good riddance

Mumsnet can you remove this thread pls.

I'm sorry you feel that way.

I think if you re-read the thread again in a calm manner, you will see that most people are only trying to help. But first of all you need to help yourself. Calling people names and stropping off isn't helping at all.

It really won't help her staying?? She doesn't like the idea of going through things in a professional setting

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Thank you 😎

Everyone can feel lonely sometimes OP, it's not an insult at all.

I've never struggled with making friends, or had issues understanding people and their intentions.

This is because the world isn't black and white, it's nuanced, it's a shame you struggle with understanding relationships - lots of people here have tried to help you so maybe once you feel calmer you can read the thread again 😀

I do not want to read them again. I did not like the comments. It's not a question of being calmer, it's a question of liking what people are saying. The comments that I felt were not good have been deleted by mumsnet and the last two comments I felt were not nice so I reported them and they got taken off. I stay away from people in real life who I feel just have a go and that includes family members. Life is too short to put up with verbal abuse whether online or in person

I realise people can feel lonely but I do not like to be told I am lonely when I'm not. I am the only one who knows how I feel. I've got people I hang round with in groups and do activities with them so I am not lonely.

The word lonely seems to have massively triggered you and you need to ask yourself why that is. It’s not a dirty word. Robin Williams once said something about being lonely even in a roomful of people.

Multiple posters have commented the same and almost all of them have agreed that your thought process isn’t helpful to you and is causing your issues.

You probably won’t like this response and I’m sure MN will vanish it away on your request but you posted on here, by choice, you don’t get to police the responses and opinions posted in return just because you’re hearing something hard to hear.

If you are like this in real life it will explain a lot of why you are struggling to read people and their intentions and interactions correctly.

The world is not that black and white.

I've asked for thus reply to be removed