'Use your words' GET TO FUCK

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Directed at the twats on here who patronisingly say it to posters
"Why did you not use your words"
"Use your words"
Use my foot up your arse you patronising twat

Oh dear
Not low class
Oh no
Whatever shall I do

Well not moan for a start. Weren’t you moaning about young people being rude for not buying gifts for people’s who job it was to teach them? Then got pissy in the comments with everyone who disagreed with you? Okay 🤣

ooh pissy is a very low class word

Be careful you don't end up among the proles with that language

Yes to all these.

And ‘you must be fun at parties’.

Instead of ‘use your words’ why not say, ‘tell them you feel that way’. Much less patronising.

I also dislike ‘unalived’. I see it a lot now.

Yes I hate that. I hate all this childish nonsense.

Adults who talk about x number of ‘sleeps’ till their holiday etc make me feel intense rage.

Unalived might be a way of getting round automatic blocks triggered by certain words on social media.

The horror! 😱

<clutches pearls wildly whilst reaching for the smelling salts>

Oh god yes, don't give me more rage!!
At my work, we are often told "2 more sleeps" before people's holidays/weddings/weekends/whatever

Also a woman I work with goes to Disney once a year and she calls it 'going home'

I was on the train across from a group of 20ish yo girls. Honestly they were like walking cliches. Everything they said was "My heart is full", "literally", "like" in between every other word.

They were "using their words" but not half getting on my wick. I must be getting old.

Is she goofy?

Sorry. Couldn't resist.

I think this nails it really. You don’t mind the sentiment of ‘use your words’ but don’t like the term as you consider it infantilising.
Some don’t mind the sentiment of ‘Get to f**k’, but don’t like the term as they consider it crude and ‘dumbed down’.
Each to their own!

It’s incredibly annoying, I’ve only seen it used on here recently, nobody I know says this in real life. Isn’t it something people say to toddlers ?

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Can I add this to the list:

"You dont get to...."

As in "you dont get to decide how I feel about this".

I dont have a problem with the intent but the "you dont get to" sets me teeth on edge, like the speaker is a 16 year old American girl and not a 45 year old woman from the UK

It is really fucking annoying. Along with 'no is a complete sentence' and several others.

Oh yes that’s another one. 😡 They might as well say x number of dinners, it’s that stupid.

It remimds me of teachers telling off primary kids. There are less patronising ways of saying ' you really should have said something at the time'

I never really understand this one as it sounds so rude. Would you like to come over for coffee tomorrow? No!

Maybe it means you don’t have to explain why you don't want to visit your mil or something but unless you are very angry at someone why would you just say no with adding to it?

😂😂

I once unintentionally upset someone by absent-mindedly responding "not for insomniacs"

Yes, and also 'educate yourself' which in curent parlance just means 'come round to my way of thinking, because it's the only correct one'

Gosh. Thanks for that.

Also what's the context for "I was today years old when I learned ..." (I assume it's not a typo.) I've never heard or read that... Even here.

Enjoyable thread, OP.

How do people feel about "It is what it is"? I like it, use it to myself and others, but I believe it's not universally loved.

I like 'No is a complete sentence'. I think it's a bracing bit of advice aimed at people who really struggle to say no to anything and end up giving long-winded reasons why something isn't really ideal for them, maybe another time but just now it's a bit tricky, I'd really love to help of course but ... and of course what happens sometimes in response to that is the other person finds all sorts of ways round the excuses and the first person ends up doing the thing they don't want to do and feeling very aggrieved.

The form of words I really like for cases like that is 'That doesn't work for me/us'. You can soften that slightly by adding 'sorry' or starting 'I'm afraid' but the key thing is just to say straight out 'No' without shillyshallying about why.

My late husband loathed that expression.