'Use your words' GET TO FUCK

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Directed at the twats on here who patronisingly say it to posters
"Why did you not use your words"
"Use your words"
Use my foot up your arse you patronising twat

I can't point you to any currently, but I've seen several comments including that expression on Mumsnet as a whole.

"I can't imagine why you'd disagree with xyz, but you do you" 😡
Yes, I'll do me, thanks 👍

So many wet lettuces on here!

Me too 😂!

Gently, OP ...
Gentle reminder ...
I was today years old when I learned ...
Forever home
Hubby

Hate all these.

It's like sitting through meetings with nonsense like "blue sky thinking" and so on. Drives me mad.

Me too! I have a line manager who is always saying "gentle reminder".

I agree with OP. Its just rude really.

Also see 'Put your big girl pants on'
That phrase anywhere in life makes me ragey 😡
Once used against me (irl) when I was upset that there appeared to be items missing from my late mothers estate.
Turns out I was right, & the person I had suspected was indeed the thief.
But because I'd essentially been told to stfu it then became too late to do anything about it. (The thief was not the person who told me to put my big girl pants on)

Since when did people react positively, listen to, and take advice from people who patronise them?

It's counter productive to say 'use your words' or 'do better'. Posters who use those phrases (and other grim phrases on this thread) do so only to sounds smug, not to actually help.

Yep. And add "but that's just me"

True! 👍

I think I want you to be my friend 😂

I've never thought of that before.

I've previously found myself in situations where I've not spoken up because the situation was so obvious (to me) that speaking up seemed futile.

I hate it too.

I’ve never heard it used outside of Mumsnet in the same way I’ve never had anyone talk to me in real life and end the sentence with “No?”

”It’s very annoying. No?”

I used to get ‘just listen to yourself’
… yes I am you twat you just aren’t listening to me!

Swearing is just vulgar

I agree. It is patronising and is the sort of phrase that should be reserved for young children. If an adult is having a communication problem with someone, it's far better (and more age-appropriate!) to say "Have you spoken to them about it?"
Which has reminded me that I should start a thread about the twats who use the phrase "reached out to them" (instead of "contacted them" or "spoke to them") - WTAF?!!! 😡

Maybe they should act like adults then and use their words without being told to

I get reminders from my dentist saying that. It annoys me more than it should.

Oh yes, the whole world is ‘reaching out’ now.
Anyone who says that needs to do the world a favour and reach the f**k back in.

It's sarcasm. People use it to make the point that the OP is behaving like a small child. Calling them out for "infantilising" people is pointless because that's the intention.

oh my god this, I have always hated/been so confused by "get to fuck" - what does it mean???

But it’s intended to imply the person not Using Their Words is not behaving like an adult.

Or even worse, when someone complains about (eg) a neighbour smoking outside the lounge window, that's only 8 feet away from the OPs, and someone says 'what did they say when you spoke to them about it?' 🙄 (Knowing full well the OP hasn't said anything.) Really fucking condescending.

Oh yes! So irritating. "Well, I would have spoken to them, but that's just me. You do you ".