'Use your words' GET TO FUCK

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Directed at the twats on here who patronisingly say it to posters
"Why did you not use your words"
"Use your words"
Use my foot up your arse you patronising twat

I always tell dh to use his words 🤣

No, at least not in my world. Really hate “big girl pants” (although I do actually prefer big knickers nowadays 😁).

Many people seem to think assertive and aggressive/confrontational are the same thing. Saying anything at all that shows you're not happy or outright angry at something someone else has said or done is therefore frightening.

DH has just said 'I've burnt all your belongings and emptied your bank account. I'm off to the pub now, I'll have dinner when I get back, whenever that is.' Obviously I'm not happy about it but I hate confrontation, what can I do?

I’m of that generation and I did find it hard to speak up when younger because it was deemed ‘insolent’ to have your voice. Thankfully I did learn to speak up for myself but it took me till about thirty to do so. I’ve always allowed my children to speak up and the words insolent or backchatting were never used in our house.

There's no mistaking what that means and when it's uttered its delivered with venom.
I'm from Scotland.👍😁

Beth Upton iirc

It's far less annoying than expecting people to read minds. I like clear communication and given that I have yet to read a mind, but I am picking up some vibes....

How's spit it out then?

Ask and ye may or may not receive?

Who made you the Communication Czar?

I just swirled my fingers, snapped them shut, then brought my open hand up to my mouth sideways. What did I say?

Ohhhhh I feel the same about ‘Each to their own’ which is trotted out on here with tedious regularity.

Well if it is response to attention seeking drip feeding where they dont actually say the problem or ask a question what else are people going to say to work out what is going on?

They are going to say "explain more" or "please speak up" instead of a babyfied load of wank designed to make the advice giver feel superior

I fucking love it

Yes I get it. It just makes the sarky one look like a twat cos they think they are being so clever

It could also mean someome may be projecting some issues going on?

Posters who end with "It's not difficult".

So fucking condescending.

You’re coming off as low class with some kind of attitude problem. Not a good look op.

Use your words is such a patronising expression. It sounds like something you'd say to a toddler.

I have never seen or heard it anywhere other than MN.

It ranks alongside "I was today years old: as most irritating and stupid phrases I've heard.

I agree, it's a nonsensical thing to say. However, when some posters are too juvenile to actually behave like an adult and ask/say something I guess some who respond are exasperated and resort to treating them like a child.

Its a phrase for small children, but some adults haven't emotionally matured much past that stage. Having grown up with a mother who takes great and dramatic offense when people fail to read her mind and simultaneously believes she can read ill-intent/lack of attention/etc in other people's minds, I admit I have been tempted to say it at times. I don't because the fallout would be cataclysmic. I'm seeing her today and I'm feeling very jaded with it at the moment. Hey ho.

Yeah. I use "you do you" as code for "I know I'm right and you'll find out soon enough but if you don't want to listen I'm not wasting my energy trying to convince you"

Use it all the time. It's my favourite.

Not my bit of northern - Lancashire. Well at least I have never heard anyone say it in real life.

It's meant to be. No one who says "use your words" to another adult is trying to be nice.

Wet lettuces who don't communicate properly and expect others to read minds are not behaving in a proper adult way, hence people will speak to them as if they're not proper adults.

Exactly.

I think that's the point, isn't it? Paraphrased, it's "You're acting like a five year old about this, all it would've taken to resolve it is having a conversation like a grown adult".

I don't know if the OP is Scottish but Get to fuck is definitely used here.
I once heard a police officer say it to a very mouthy drunk in Glasgow. It was a very effective way of getting rid of him.

But my Love Language is not using my words 🙁