'Use your words' GET TO FUCK

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Directed at the twats on here who patronisingly say it to posters
"Why did you not use your words"
"Use your words"
Use my foot up your arse you patronising twat

But so many women don’t.

My husband did blah blah, I told him that was fine, AIBU to be upset?

Yes, yes, you are - use your words!

It's a phrase that is deliberately patronising.

I’m with you OP, only patronising wankers say it. They deserve a fat lip.

Put it into search. There's millions!

🤣🤣🤣🤣 swearing and ignorance is not connected

I hate this too, it simply makes the poster feel big and clever at the expense of the OP. It’s patronising and a bit cringy. They’d never say it in real life to someone.

I loathe it and it is up there with ‘You do you’ as far as I am concerned.

I think it's an ironic thing to say when women are ignored and spoken over so much. You get tired of using your words and no one bloody listening.

So many people just will not communicate properly like adults. They deserve a 'use your words'.

Swearing is words. I use my sweary words. I will not fucking stop even if it makes someone on a thread faint clean away and need the smelling salts.

Nope they deserve to be told in an adult way

It’s not an expression we use in NI, but I see it on here all the time and I HATE it. HATE it. However ‘get tae fuck’ is an expression I can definitely get on board with🤣🤣

I tell my husband to use his big boy words when he's being annoying and toddler like 🤣🤣

See also “Do better” 🤬

I prefer the Scottish version, OP - ‘Get tae fuck!’ Has a slightly spicier ring to it, I feel.

It's used in an ableist way at neurodiverse adults (and by extension, is an ableist insult to direct at a neurotypical person). So they can fuck right off.

I always imagine the person saying this is a Penelope Perfect primary school teacher who's never been drunk and who always manages to catch the TA having a crafty fag outside the storage hut.

I agree so much! The phrase use your words was for young children who would point and grunt or simply whinge when they wanted something and you know that they are capable of speech. That makes sense to say 'use your words.'

For an adult it is patronising crap. And I have seen plenty threads with this phrase used on here. Annoying!

"Wow , Just ,Wow"
"Well you should nice"
"You sound like hard work"
"What did the Police say when you phoned them" (knowing fine well the OP hasn't phoned them"
"What did your DH say" (to MIL 'cos y'know you cannot have an adult conversation with a member of your extended family)
"I couldn't bring myself to get worked up about this"

A selection of GTF MN sayings
And yes "Use your words" is up there

😁

I agree. It can come across as smug and superior even if not intentional.

I hate 'Educate yourself'. Especially when said to someone who is asking a question and therefore already trying to educate themselves.

To be honest, so many of the posters who won't use their words in really simple situations, remind of children anyway.

So I think 'Use your words' is very fitting.

"My neighbour keeps parking over my drive, shall I report them?"

"Well, have you used your words?"

"Oh, no, I haven't mentioned it to them"

🙄🙄

Mmm. Also "Are you very young OP?".
Patronising.

Its nonsensical drivel, when said to anyone.
To a child "talk to me, tell me" is much better. The words are not "theirs" it's a confusing and abstract concept that is patronising and infuriating.

That's exactly the point. It's something you say to a toddler who tantrums because they don't have the vocabulary to express their frustration.

Quite appropriate for some of the wet lettuces on here IMO.