Was I unreasonable to post this picture (privacy)

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DD competes in a sport. She’s ok but has never won anything. She enjoys it though. She’s trained a lot recently and had a competition I was able to attend - and she won!!! I managed to snap a once in a lifetime action shot of her doing so as well.

I have a very small private Facebook - fewer than 100 people. Family, friends and a few school parents. I wanted to post the picture, mainly for the older relatives. Now, also visible in shot was DDs friend, coming in behind her. Friend is lovely, mum is a little difficult. She’s super crunchy and quick to share her views. I checked with her before posting the picture as her child was also in it, not expecting any problems as she regularly posts her own pictures of her children. However she said that she didn’t want her daughter on anyone else’s social media -so I posted the picture with her daughter cropped out as much as possible and with the remaining half of her face blurred.
She’s now messaged me asking me to remove the whole picture as people who know the girls compete in the same team could guess that it’s her daughter. You cannot tell it’s her daughter at all! It’s half a blurred face, an arm and a leg.

Am I right to be a bit cross or have I misjudged a parenting/ privacy issue?

She’s clearly miffed her daughter didn’t win. I’d rise to her level of pettiness. I’d block her daughter out using a sticker. Either a “winner banner” or “1st place trophy sticker” That would be my subtle way of telling the mum I know your game. Even if it did ruin the aesthetics of the photo 😂

Her complaint is pointless.

So anyone who knows the sport etc would know it was her, is her argument? But she already knows them, so why bother hiding it from them? If her child was escaping domestic violence etc then they wouldn't know the sport etc, and wouldn't recognise the blob. Likewise AI or whatever other concerns isn't going to be stealing the blob for images Of CSA because it is a blob.

So the only reason is to be contrary, or because her daughter didn't win.

I would absolutely be posting that photo with no concerns, having blocked her from being able to see it.

That's exactly what she's done

The mum’s a fucking crackpot.

The other kid is no longer in the pic. Anyone moaning that their kids knee or left earlobe can be seen in a photo needs to fuck off and seek therapy.

I stick a smiley emoticon over other children’s faces in pictures like that.

If you really want the picture of your daughter up, pop it into Canva and edit the other girl out, then download it and upload to social media. It's really straight forward to use x

I think you were U as you had already asked her and she said no.

Maybe it’s time to spring clean your social media contacts. I did this recently and have just kept a small circle of relatives and very close friends. I decided I really don’t need to see the holiday photos or whatever from 100 odd people.

I'm normally a silent lurker on mn but had to say I'd be horrified if someone uploaded a picture of my child to ChatGPT!
If you upload a photo to ChatGPT you're giving it permission to use that photo to train it's AI models. It can then use the likenesses in the photo to generate new images for other people

If you've got Google photos you can use the magic eraser to remove the child or other background people very effectively. You can also blur the background all together.

I wouldn’t put the image in to AI either, I’d just crop and blur as OP has already done. So I do agree with you.

But… how special and unique is any given child anyway? Human faces are only so variable, I don’t really see what it matters.

Sure, and the chances of any AI-generated photos with that likeness being seen by OP or the other school mum are slim to none, but I still personally wouldn't want to risk it or feel comfortable with it.

I don’t understand why people need to post pictures of other people, particularly children, on SM. Post about yourself. If you want relatives to see a particular photo of your child send a WhatsApp to them.

This still does not give you license to post an image of her child if she asked you not to.

It is relevant because she said that some women are stalked by dangerous partners who might recognise the location of a picture. This is a good and important point.

Ignore her OP.

Considering the effort you’ve put into making the picture unidentifiable and that she regularly posts stuff without regards about her daughter’s privacy, I would not indulge her in any way shape or form.

I am of the opinion that she must get be jealous too.

If you have an iPhone use the ‘clean up’ button and you can erase the other child from the picture.

Not every parent is Jealous of the success of other people’ s children

Was it in a public place? If so you’ve done nothing wrong.

This!!!!! ^

No one in their right mind would upload images of their - or anybody else's child - to ChatGPT

What clean up button?

Cut the other girl out completely, replace her with a copy of your daughter and blur her. Then if she complains her daughter is still identifiable you know she's full of it.

I’d also send it in a WhatsApp to DH and use the draw function to ugly draw out the child then repost.

She hates that your PMM also showed her DD coming second. Good old fashioned green eyed monster.

Tell her that as her DD is only identifiable by people who were actually there (and therefore already knows what she looks like), that you will not be taking down the photo. If she carries out point on that you have broken no laws and that blurring out of children in international media publications/websites, despite their parents being very well known, is considered acceptable. Good enough for the royals!

She’s a weirdo