Was I unreasonable to post this picture (privacy)

[midlifesharp]

DD competes in a sport. She’s ok but has never won anything. She enjoys it though. She’s trained a lot recently and had a competition I was able to attend - and she won!!! I managed to snap a once in a lifetime action shot of her doing so as well.

I have a very small private Facebook - fewer than 100 people. Family, friends and a few school parents. I wanted to post the picture, mainly for the older relatives. Now, also visible in shot was DDs friend, coming in behind her. Friend is lovely, mum is a little difficult. She’s super crunchy and quick to share her views. I checked with her before posting the picture as her child was also in it, not expecting any problems as she regularly posts her own pictures of her children. However she said that she didn’t want her daughter on anyone else’s social media -so I posted the picture with her daughter cropped out as much as possible and with the remaining half of her face blurred.
She’s now messaged me asking me to remove the whole picture as people who know the girls compete in the same team could guess that it’s her daughter. You cannot tell it’s her daughter at all! It’s half a blurred face, an arm and a leg.

Am I right to be a bit cross or have I misjudged a parenting/ privacy issue?

Oh dear. I didn’t think about that!

But this is essentially what I did. I just used the blur tool and removed her face. She’s a pink blob now.

id remove the other parent from my facebook and ignore her. Youve blurred out the other kid, so shes now just being controlling for no reason

OP, do you think that if it was a photo of her DD on a podium in 1st place, yours in 2nd place and someone else in 3rd, she’d have the issue?

Edit her out and repost. Not worth falling out over.

What kind of phone do you have? iPhones and googles have a feature where you can remove things/people! Samsung probably do too, just click edit photo then look for the clean up option :)

Just select your family and close friends and send to them. She's being a bit unreasonable, but you have to respect her wishes.

OMG - the stresses that social media creates.

What was the point of asking if you didn't actually care about her response?

She clearly did care about the response.. She made it so that the other girl wasn't identifiable, by chopping out as much as she could and blurring what she couldn't.

I'm not sure how you missed that part.

Why did you ask her permission if you weren’t intending to honour a refusal?

My daughter doesn't want me posting pics on social media, so I don't. I wouldn't dream of posting pics of anyone else's dc - especially if they asked me not to. You can do a "proud" post without a photo. And then there is no problem.

I would definitely not want my kid uploaded to chat GPT.

She won and was recognised for it. Isn’t that enough? You have the picture for yourself. Leave it at that. Unless you can completely remove the other woman’s child from the photo you have to let it go.

You really shouldn't upload photos of other people to chat GPT!

I'd never post an identifiable picture of someone else's child on social media if they weren't happy about it.

But given that you have blurred / cropped her out AND the mum posts photos of her children on public social media accounts (which presumably her business is) she's taking the piss to ask you to remove the photo and I suspect it's sour grapes because your daughter beat hers.

I'd tell her that you're not deleting it as almost no one could identify her

Why couldn't you just blank out the other kids face with an emoji or something? Or could you edit/crop the other kid out or just blur the background including the other girl?

It seems a shame but I guess I wouldn't want to cause an almighty fallout over the subject.

I do too. Poor sportswomanship!

Just crop her entirely out of it and be done with the issue.

@midlifesharp ... I have a very small private Facebook - fewer than 100 people

😂

,,,,kind of event where it’s bloody obvious that photos/videos will be taken (such as sport competitions, dance shows, plays, school award ceremonies etc), then it’s wholly unreasonable for them to expect another parent to keep their own photos private.

How sad. So you're saying that if a child can't have photos of them shared that child shouldn't be taking part in sport competitions, dance shows, plays, school award ceremonies? That's really wrong. All children should be able to take part in all aspects of school life.

You don't need to get AI to remove the other child, you've already taken reasonable steps.

I do not post photos on social media of other people's children there is no need

Set the audience to “friends except (friends name)”

So crop the other girl out or put stickers over her?

It’s not like it’s hard to do