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AIBU?

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to think that whoever let my dog out last night/early this morning is v cruel and evil person who has obv never had pets or children?

419 replies

micci25 · 25/05/2008 09:44

was laying bed when i heard my dog barking at the front of the house. when she should be safely locked up in the back yard. went to look out the back window and the back gate was wide open dog no where to be seen!

the back gate is usually locked, i dont know why it wasnt last night but i cant even remember who opened it last so cant blame anyone for that.

cue me getting up immediatley and searching streets for dog. luckily she had come back of her own accord and was waiting at the back gate while i was looking round the front for her !

dp thinks that this is forgivable as who ever let her out probably did because they were sick of her barking. i think that if this is the casae they should have to come to me to complain and not just let my family out!

the dog does bark but only when she hears noises. although this noise can be just a car and usually is. on a weekend her barking is worse because she can hear people coming home in taxis and drunks walking past.

but if she is barking for more than a couple of minutes at a time i will go and see what she is barking at which stops her.

we live oppposite a bus depo and two very busy roads so there is every chance that the dog could have been run over, she is a terrier so it is her nature to hunt and kill, she could very easily have gotten hold of some ones pet bunny, guniea pig, chickens, kitten (she is scared of cats i have two and the bully her but could easily kill a kitten), for all who ever let out knows she could be a biting dog and could have got hold of a child, also who ever did do it must live in my street as we have alley gates so they would also know that i have a four year old dd who would be gutted if her dog was hurt.

am absolutely livid that some one would be so inconsiderate dp still seems to think this acceptable (but admits it is wrong he is just not annoyed by it) as the dog could have woke them up

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lulumama · 25/05/2008 19:48
fishie · 25/05/2008 19:56

that is about 7000 barking hours in 3 years.

WonderingWhy · 25/05/2008 19:58

Yes, that sounds more plausible - I would imagine it was someone trying to get into your yard, they opened the gate, dog barked, and they ran off and dog pursued them till they had gone, then came back like a good hound

Well done yapster!

hercules1 · 25/05/2008 19:59

But it's a jack russell. A well aimed kick would stop it pursueing!

micci25 · 25/05/2008 20:06

she wouldnt have persued anyway she would have been too scared. police said that the intuders arent afraid of the fact the dog may bite they are afraid of the noise alerting some one to thier presence.

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LittleBella · 25/05/2008 20:08

oh good god is this thread still going on?

micci mumsnet has spoken. YABU. Even your dog thinks you are unreasonable.

kazbeth · 25/05/2008 20:12

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WanderingTrolley · 25/05/2008 20:12

lol LittleBella

She's impervious to criticism. She is entirely blameless.

LobstersLass · 25/05/2008 20:13

Did you see my link to trainers in your area micci?

KerryMum · 25/05/2008 20:13

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LobstersLass · 25/05/2008 20:14

LittleBella, it seems that there is always a convenient excuse.

That said, you have just made me laugh out loud.

WanderingTrolley · 25/05/2008 20:16

You're right KM.

And we haven't written helpful posts.

hercules1 · 25/05/2008 20:17

The trainers you linked to dont have a very good rep.

expatinscotland · 25/05/2008 20:17

I feel sorry for this dog.

And I'm not even a dog person.

Chequers · 25/05/2008 20:20

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LobstersLass · 25/05/2008 20:22

Oops! Sorry.
Thanks for pointing this out ladies.

expatinscotland · 25/05/2008 20:26

Don't worry, Chequers, there'll be some excuse why she can't the poor animal to get the help it needs.

Yurtgirl · 25/05/2008 20:28

Micci25

I have read two of your threads now - both were asking "Am I being unreasonable?" In both threads most people said you were

It seems you have a poorly trained dog and a spoilt little girl

Assuming you a not winding us all up - (which given that you often ignore our advice I am beginning to suspect) I suggest you enroll on a behaviour management course for both your dog and your daughter.

Alambil · 25/05/2008 20:28

The poor animal needs a bed in the RSPCA centre - responsible owners don't wait TWO MONTHS - they find another trainer. My mum's training school is chock-a-block with customers and they'll fit you in within 2 weeks if you can do weekday training. A bit longer on weekend appointments but never 8 weeks; that's just crazy!

micci25 · 25/05/2008 20:35

actually yurt girl my daughter is doing just fine with her new routine. bedtime can still be an issue at times due to fact that it is light on evening now so she thinks that i lying to her when its bedtime but her distraction techniques are dealt with swiftly and there are no tantrums.

also lewis fan, you have never met me or my dog my vet has and is happy with her condition. her barking is only a problem for dp. the dog was here first he will have to learn to deal with her. the neighbours have told me that they agree with my point of view that she does not bark a lot on a night.

i would look for another trainer but this one was recommened as she is experinced in dealing with the issues that my dog has and also with her breed. so if waiting rather than getting another trainer means that her issues will be dealt with in the right way instead of her being taught to sit/stay etc (she can already do this) then i would rather wait.

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Squack · 25/05/2008 20:36

I'd have let it out only if the dog continued to bark at night after i'd shouted at you due to the sleep deprivation.

If it's a neighbour, then yes they should've spoken to you, but you should also have done something much earlier if you were aware the dog barks at night, regardless of the reason why it barks.

Also you'd have had the police at your door well before the neighbours waited,if you were my neighbour.

I'd consider yourself lucky the dog isn't dead tbh.

It's been known to happen. (just thought I'd add I would not hurt an animal)

hercules1 · 25/05/2008 20:36

No, micca - you are still missing the point. THe barking is a problem for your dog as it's a sign of unhappiness and fear. Any good dog trainer will be able to deal with the issues your dog has.

daftpunk · 25/05/2008 20:37

shall we end this thread with a song

all together

AitchTwoCiao · 25/05/2008 20:39

micci, you are being a nut about this. why do you think dogs bark? they don't, you know. at least not happy, well-trained ones who know where they stand.

two months is a disgrace. you've already waited three years. i feel sorry for your neighbours and for your poor dog.

Alambil · 25/05/2008 20:45

You're right - but I'm a dog trainer. 2 months is a stupid amount of time to wait with a nervous/scared dog that doesn't know where it stands in the pack and is playing up.

What if in these 2 months your DD gets bitten? What if in these 2 months you/DP/neighbour/anyone gets bitten and you're prosecuted?

Dogs don't bark like this if they are confident of their position in the pack. They just don't IME.

I think you should look around for other trainers - they don't need to be breed-specific specialists. A dog is a dog is a dog - they are all 89% wolf and a trainer worth their money will be able to handle anything from aggressive Rottweillers to nervy Poodles... IME