Feeling wounded by DP's comment about a fitness video I sent him.

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Today I achieved a big personal fitness goal I've been working towards for about a year - squatting 1.5x my body weight for five reps.

A woman I train with videoed me doing it. In the video, the gym instructor is stood a step or two behind me, has his hands level with my armpits and is squatting along with me. All very standard practice for spotting someone when they're lifting.

I sent the video to DP.

At the end of the session, the gym instructor gave me a creme egg and was really effusive in his praise. The woman I train with was also full of hearty congratulations. I came away feeling completely pumped and proud.

When I got home, I did a muscle man pose for DP as soon I was through the front door and said "Well, what did you think?" I hoped expected some kind words or congratulations. He knows how hard I've worked for this and has been supportive.

But he just said "Tom's a bit handsy isn't he?"

It completely took the wind out of my sails. I know I'm probably overreacting but I just felt so gutted that's the first thing DP said. No "well done" or "great work", just a comment about the instructor. Even if DP had legitimate concerns about the gym instructor being handsy (which he's not at all), surely he could've saved them until later or tomorrow.

Sorry, I just feel deflated. I'm probably overreacting.

What was so funny about that? He said a bit handzy anyway, not 'shady.'

It’s just what you do isn’t it?!

normal to video a PR
normal that if you have fuck all interest but your partner is into trainspotting and comes home excited they saw a train you say “that’s fantastic, bet you’re so pleased!”

isn’t it?
I mean my DP goes to AA 3 times a week and I still ask every time if he had a good meeting

My word some people do not cope with the heat well do they.

Have you eaten the crème egg OP? They're lush after a few hours in the freezer, if not...

1. Congrats op. That’s a great achievement and should have been acknowledged by your dp. Is he usually that jealous?

2. Wherever you are in the UK today, you can’t tell me that your creme egg wasn’t all melty. Is it one your instructor had left over from Easter, do you think? (I’d love a crème egg straight from the fridge right now!)

3. To the poster who gave up her hobby because her dh wasn’t comfortable with it - please tell us what it was! If it was several years ago it won’t be outing. (And you shouldn’t have given it up).

All this videoing is a bit weird so YABU.

Disappointing but he obviously felt a pang of jealousy seeing a fit man’s hands on your fit body and he couldn’t help blurting it out. Not the worst crime!

Tease him for being jealous and demand your proper praise. Well done!

Basic buffoon.

Go and shag Tom the gym instructor, lick melted Creme Egg off his pecs, film it and send it to DH. Simple.

(Well done on lifting whatever it was you lifted. It sounds impossible.)

Isn't every fitness goal a random personal goal? It's very normal to video yourself achieving a goal, and very normal to share success with a partner. How miserable would you have to be to know your wife was working up to something over a year and not celebrate the video of her doing it?

If you managed to lift 1.5x your body weight for 5 squats I bet you'd feel proud of yourself and want to remember it on video as well. I would, but the closest I'd get is AI generating the video

YABU for having a creme egg when I'm on a diet and haven't got one.

Your husband clearly feels a bit threatened by the fit new you. What you do about this is of course up to you. It was rather a mean comment, though.

I love all this drama and massive storm in the proverbial teacup! Keep on posting girls! 😉

Well done OP what a great achievement! You deserve your creme egg.

Unless DP is an absolute lump you can probably lift him and deposit him anywhere you want. Pop him in the garden next to the bins until he turns nicer and more supportive.

I think you’re over reacting I thought you were going to say he made rude comments over you taking the chocolate or something, I think let this one go op

Congratulations OP!

Is your partner always this unsupportive and jealous?

You should be proud of yourself, OP and your husband should be, too!

Unfortunately, as evidenced by some of the comments you have received on this thread, some people just can't be happy for other's success and achievement. Whether it's interesting to them or not is irrelevant and honestly, it just makes them look pathetic and miserable. Be proud of yourself and enjoy your Creme Egg!

Thanks all. It hadn't really occurred to me that DP might be jealous. He's not usually at all.

And just to clarify - the instructor didn't have his hands on my body at all. He was a couple of steps behind me, hands braced ready to catch me/the bar if something went wrong. Pretty standard practice for weightlifting.

And keep up with your fitness goals, looking after your body helps with your overall health and how you feel about yourself which should always be positive

Tell Tom to put his hands under your arse next time he spots you and send your dick of a DH that video.
well done on your PB, that’s a huge achievement 💪

I don't recommend this approach as good relationship advice.

My first question would have been ‘Have you eaten that Crème Egg or can ‘ave it?’

But don't fuck Tom whatever you do

What a strange thing to be proud of.

…goes off to buy crème eggs 🚶

What was the hobby?