DH not changed bedding for 4 weeks

[peachescariad]

He's in a separate bedroom. Flithy f**ker not changed his bed for 4 weeks, so this morning I asked him if he was thinking of changing his sheets as he's been in them for 4 weeks.....he doesn't have a clue how long they've been on....If I had not mentioned it, I wonder how long he'd have kept them on.
He's in our son's room and he's coming back end of July so have ordered some nice new bedding for him 😄

5 months is my experience of STBEXDH 's case...

Unless he shits or pisses the bed it's not that big a deal.

get off your high horse.

Eh, I do every fortnight but occasionally I miss a couple of weeks if I'm busy/away and am probably at a month before it's changed. Nobody dies.

I change my sheets every week so I feel your pain. You sweat through the night, spread body oils etc that feed dust mites.. that are linked to several skin conditions and can cause allergic reactions. YMMV of course

I think it depends if you're a "shower in the morning" or "shower in the evening" person. If you shower before bed so that the bedroom is a "clean space", 4 weeks is a bit of a stretch but not horribly gross. If you shower mornings then you're bringing the day's grime to your bed every night, so I'd be changing bedding every week or so.

At lest my high horse will have clean sheets. most cogent adults do not 'shit' or 'piss' in bed. 4 weeks of stale, sweaty sheets. Honestly revolting.

Gosh I'd gross most of mumsnet out with how little I change my sheets. I'm not gonna say. They get changed more often than if DH was left to his own devices though hahaha.

I set my bar a lot higher than yours

Bars so high your husband sleeps in another bed haha

It won't kill him, it's fine.

We wash bedding every 3 weeks in the winter and 2 weeks in the summer. I say we, but DH does all of the washing (he has the dates in his calender the sad git!).

I don't know how long my XH left the sheets on the bed but they were heavily stained and quite smelly. The pillow, too.

He's the one happy to sleep in it so why should you care?

It’s not great but tbh op is tell you bugger off and leave Me alone if I were him.

You are being ridiculous. We are heading towards a country wide water shortage, not to mention damage to planet with overuse of detergents. I think people who push an agenda to constantly wash things (washing towels every week!) are utterly selfish with the planet’s limited resources. But worse they then start to try and make the rest of us feel ‘unclean’. Ridiculous.

How often do you wash your towels?

Eh, it's a bit gross but it's hardly the end of the world.

You're not sleeping in them, at least.

Why is he in the other bedroom? Are you separated? If so, it’s none of your business

That's disgusting imo. I do all 5 beds each week. 10 days maximum

Four weeks is too long. I aim for weekly but if it’s pissing down and likely to be sunny the next day or day after I’ll wait. But never four weeks.

Erh...yeah it's gross. Personal hygiene, self-respect and all that. Particularly in the heat...Bet the room stinks too.

Be grateful that he's not in your bed OP!

This thread is astonishing. I thought I was bordering on slovenly by changing bedsheets every fortnight because it’s as often as we can manage.

One a month. I am clean when I come out of the shower, dead skin cells having being rubbed off and washed away in the shower.

any comment on the more important point on water usage and the state of the planet? And that there is zero scientific evidence that washing sheets/towels weekly makes one iota of difference to your health?

Do you not wash towels because you use paper ones instead to recycle and save the planet?

I'm guessing you must do because the substantial water consumption of growing cotton is very widely known, so you couldn't possibly use cotton towels. Or bedding.

When I had to wrestle with the king sized duvet, bed linen was washed fortnightly. Now that my cleaner does the wrestling, I launder it weekly!