DH not changed bedding for 4 weeks

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He's in a separate bedroom. Flithy f**ker not changed his bed for 4 weeks, so this morning I asked him if he was thinking of changing his sheets as he's been in them for 4 weeks.....he doesn't have a clue how long they've been on....If I had not mentioned it, I wonder how long he'd have kept them on.
He's in our son's room and he's coming back end of July so have ordered some nice new bedding for him 😄

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Why are your towels getting stinky? They wipe clean water off your clean body. Are you one of those who won’t use a cloth of scrunchie to wash yourself or who only actually washes pits and bits and lets the water run over everything else?

If he will clean the room and strip the bed etc himself he’s not all bad. Just tell him when to do it. I’m sure he’ll oblige. He probably just doesn’t think.

You can set your bar as you please. Does it make you happy?

His bed, his business. I used to change sheets roughly weekly when I shared a bed. Not so frequently now I'm on my own.

I wonder how often DS's sheets have been changed while he's been away? 😆

OP said upthread she’s had an operation so she’s had the bed to herself for her convalescence.

My bathroom is a cave (literally, due to the layout of my house) so towels just don't dry in there and start to smell really quickly. But regardless of that, towels start to smell after a few days because that's what happens when something repeatedly gets wet and then dries slowly.

Do you think you'll look back with pride on this kind of comment in the future?

That’s disgusting. Bed sheets should be changed once a week.

A couple of months ago. That's some convalescence.

She needs do forget about his apparent lack of sheet washing. How does she know if she's been convalescing? Has she cameras rigged up by the washer and drier?

Yeah, fortnightly is enough (unless as I said, it's verrrrry warm,) or you have had a sickness bug/D & V bug, or been quite ill and have sweated a lot, or got vom on your sheets (or had a period leakage!) I am doing ours weekly over this past couple of months though because it's been very warm. Do them fortnightly usually. Occasionally I slip/go past the 2 weeks, and realise it when the sheets start to feel a bit icky/greasy! 😬

Do you get very dirty and grubby in your day to day life, and don't shower often? That's the only reason you should be always be changing your sheets weekly all year round.

I think you were lucky. I've had ops and so has my DH. We both sleep better in separate rooms in those circumstances. Or even if one of us has a rotten cold. No risk of one disturbing the other when we both need our sleep.
Odd thing to pick up the OP on.

'Odd thing to pick up the OP on'

To try and make her see what is important. She is focused on the wrong thing.

Well of course. Don't all MNetters? 😂

I did the same with my kids 🤣🤣

Not my experience. Not in cave bathrooms or well ventilated ones. Hang them up and they are fine for at least a week.

Agree. Many happily married people find that, as they get older, separate beds facilitate more restful sleep. Both my husband and I wake up at least once most nights, but rarely at the same time. We still cuddle mornings and nighttime - and other shenanigans still happen 😍- despite separate bedrooms…

I used to manage ski resorts. It's not always easy for the chalet staff to get personal laundry done (there might not be one laundry room for staff with a couple of machines) thus towels & bedding come wayyyy down the list of things that get washed.

many don't change them all season, which is bad enough, but what's worse is how many sleep & have sex in them over a season 🤮

the lucky staff are the ones who are allowed to use the guest laundry provision.

And yet, using soap and water for washing clothing and bodies resulted in improved health for millions in Britain as public health concerns motivated engineers and administrators to act on appalling infant mortality rates and regular outbreaks of scabies and other diseases. Use of water (and soap) for keeping oneself and one's bedding and clothing clean is perfectly appropriate.

Would you oppose efforts to provide clean drinking water and water for washing, cleaning, and cooking in parts of the world where people struggle with access?

I change my sheets once a month, there is no need to do it more often. What do you think they did in the olden days before washing machines

If it was a good enough arrangement for the late Queen and Duke of Edinburgh, it's surely good enough for the OP and her H.

Try reading the OP's posts. I know it would mean you changing a habit, but go on, give it a try!

Yes, using it sensibly is a public health benefit. Washing everything after every use, or before it’s dirty (and I don’t mean ‘used’) doesn’t help public health at all. Remember we all used to have one bath a week and that was well post those public health initiatives- right into the 70s.

I had a lodger who lived with me for over a year. She never changed her sheets in all the time she lived with me. The boyfriend stayed over in those filthy sheets, too.

When she moved out, the fitted sheet was so dirty it was fully rigid. 😱

Sounds like he's 'as happy as a big in s..t'. We're a lot more relaxed here and bedding is changed roughly 1-4 weeks. Four weeks more likely to be winter where we go to bed clean and are in pjs, don't get particularly hot. 1-2 weeks in the summer depending on the heat and if we're wearing minimal clothing or nothing if you're DH.