To despise picky eaters?

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If you have an allergy or religious reasons not to eat something, fine obviously but grown adults who 'don't eat' something absolutely irk me beyond words. My MIL looked horrified earlier when I said I was making chicken as a part of a weekend spread because SIL 'doesn't eat it'. I have accommodated for SIL but honestly, I was bought up that you get what you're given and eat what's infront of you. It's terrible manners is it not?

Yabu - hosts should cater for preferences
Yanbu - it's rude

You would hate me then. I have ARFID.

Do you not possess any tastebuds then?

ARFID here too.

I wish I could be one of those folks who are totally insensitive to flavour or texture and so can eat anything put in front of them. It must be absolutely wonderful, eat whatever there is, never go hungry and get to be smug and twattish to anyone who can't do that.

Brilliant - do enjoy OP.

I aways offer two options:

You can make do or you can fuck off.

You sound like fun 🤔

I agree with you op. I have very little patience for adult fussy eaters.

I'm with you OP!

What about those with autism? Many struggle with eating due to texture etc.

It seems odd to prepare something that you know one of your guests really dislikes. Don’t you want her to feel welcome and enjoy herself?

It's chicken. Vegetarians aside, who doesn't like chicken?! What's not to like?!

I would always run my potential menu plans past guests unless I already knew their food preferences.

All part of being a good host imo.

I don’t understand inviting guests round for what is presumably supposed to be a nice day/evening and then deliberately serving something you know they don’t like, these are supposed to be people you like surely?

I wouldn’t want someone to come round and then eat a meal they don’t enjoy, what would be the fun in that for anyone?

I’d hate someone to be forcing something down they hated when over at mine, let me know what you can eat and I will give you that, instead of this eats what’s in front of you thing.

Funny that you thought you were brought up properly but despise people for having likes and dislikes, and that you think you have great manners when you can't be arsed to cater for your guests.

As part of a spread I can't see the issue, if it was the main part of a roast then I would avoid one that I knew a guest didn't like.

Being brought up to have no taste or preference doesn’t make you better than anyone else. YABU

one of the people coming to the meal doesnt like chicken.
hope that helps.

so your SIL doesn’t like chicken

and this is your reaction?!

I am vegetarian. Purely preference, no allergy, no religious reasons.

it’s not hard to accommodate most dietary preferences.

nearly everyone has something. Mushrooms, tofu, frogs legs, oysters. I the person who will eat and enjoy everything is rare.

Ethical considerations regarding how they are raised and slaughtered?

As said, I did accommodate SIL. It's more MIL thinking she should announce that she wouldn't like it or eat it. I'm doing a spread, there's things other than chicken there. I can't imagine going to someone's house and expecting my absolute favourites of everything. I strongly dislike pork, but I eat every bit if someone cooks it for me.

I wouldn't mind if it was just one or two things. Or if they were celiac or something. Also some people do suffer from eating disorders which can manifest in what seems like pickiness.

Like chicken is quite easy to avoid or provide an alternative to. It's also not something you'd expect a meat eater to say they dislike, but everyone's different.

I don't eat raw tomatoes. I just hate them. I wouldn't expect anyone to not serve them but I wouldn't eat the dish that had them in. Which is fine. I just politely decline anything I don't like.

I grew up with a very picky dad. He didn't really eat meals with me and my mum during the week as his tastes were so limited. And we had to eat the food he liked on weekends. Which involved overcooked steak and soggy beans exclusively. So I guess I'm used to picky eaters.

As long as the person isn't rude or demanding or complaining, then they can just not eat the things they don't like. But in a small group I'd make a bit of an effort to ensure everyone could eat something.

I've never understood hosts who don't find out what their visitors love and prepare something based around their tastes. But it's fine to cook chicken if someone doesn't like it, so long as there is an alternative main option which you know they love. DS is veggie. This weekend I'm doing lamb for everyone else and spicy tofu for him - that's what we love and he loves. Everyone happy.

I just cannot eat chicken, at all.

I'm not allergic to it, I just had a very bad bout of food poison (diagnosed) from what I believe to be undercooked chicken.

Despite that being over ten years ago, I still cannot eat it. I just cannot.

If I were served it, id probably push it round my plate, eat the rest of the meal and hope no one noticed.

But id never knowingly serve a guest something they didn't like. That would be bad manners on my part.

Yabu.

So can you honestly say there is absolutely nothing that you don’t like?

I’ve noticed that often people who accuse others of being picky are actually quite picky themselves. They are just intolerant of people who don’t eat what they do.

The only person I know who will eat virtually anything is my dh and I’d say that’s quite unusual. Everyone else I can think of has likes and dislikes.