To despise picky eaters?

[Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair]

If you have an allergy or religious reasons not to eat something, fine obviously but grown adults who 'don't eat' something absolutely irk me beyond words. My MIL looked horrified earlier when I said I was making chicken as a part of a weekend spread because SIL 'doesn't eat it'. I have accommodated for SIL but honestly, I was bought up that you get what you're given and eat what's infront of you. It's terrible manners is it not?

Yabu - hosts should cater for preferences
Yanbu - it's rude

I find it is as easy to make something that people will like as it is to make something that won't be enjoyed by guests. I don't like peppers as they make me ill, my DIL doesn't like mushrooms. Both of us just put some aside.

But I recently went on a trip where one member was very picky and it was a pain that she always had to be accommodated .

So? She knows her SIL doesn’t like it, so why make it when there’s other things you could do? Or do a chicken dish and something else?

Just sounds like bad hosting to me.

I strongly dislike pork, but I eat every bit if someone cooks it for me.

More fool you then.

If you can't use your adult words and tell your own family you don't like pork, you should be more like your MIL/SIL and actually say it.

She didn’t expect her absolutely favourites of everything, she just didn’t eat chicken…

Come to mine OP I’m serving tripe, chitterlings, oysters, kidneys and hare. Do you enjoy your liver rare? Escargots? Shall we follow with blood pudding and yak milk? Chicken feet? Birds nest soup? Yum!😋

Assuming it’s a true spread where a main meal can be made up of various parts, rather than it being chicken with various sides, then it’s fine to serve something someone doesn’t like because they can just not take that part. We do lots of spreads in our family because it’s an easy way to cater for everyone’s preferences and keep it really interesting still. But I do think hosts should cater for preferences. Other than my BIL I don’t know anyone who will happily eat everything. If someone hates chicken or aubergine or saffron etc I’d rather know because when I host, I like to make people happy and comfortable.

Lucky you that you like everything then! I find what you have said quite insulting if I’m honest - we are all different and we all like different things. It’s what being human is

You sound like a terrible host. I enjoy making food my guests enjoy.

Well, that’s really silly of you.

But if you had a spread and there were other things on offer then what’s the problem?

And whether someone has a limited diet due to medical reasons or pickiness the end result is the same, isn’t it?

Exactly.

Completely normal no drama situation.

Except the OP clearly doesn't like her husband's family, yet for some reason has chosen to cook for them.

She'll sit there eating every bit with a cats' bum mouth, furiously despising everybody for having the audacity to say things.

ARFID here too along with my daughter.

You really don’t have anything you wouldn’t eat? I’m far from fussy but there are things I won’t eat, I don’t make a fuss, I just don’t eat them if served to me. If I’m feeding others I always check to see if there’s anything they don’t like. Surely that’s just part of being a good host? Despising people for their food preferences, really?

Despise is a bit strong.
You need to calm down, people are different, your way isn't the only way.
Don't cook something different, if it causes you stress.

strongly dislike pork, but I eat every bit if someone cooks it for me.
as a host I’d just find this ridiculous rather than polite eating something you strongly dislike when we’re suppose to be having a fun/chill/catch up time.

More fool you for eating pork when you strongly dislike it.

You are allowed to not like things.

Well this is odd! Forcing down pork

YABVVU unreasonable.
Mildly irritated by other people's eating habits? Perhaps sometimes acceptable, if it affects you directly.
Despising people because of their eating habits? Not acceptable.

YABU - a good host would not have an issue preparing food they know thier guests will enjoy, rather than begrudge them for saying they can't/won't eat something.

Why do you keep eating pork if your strongly dislike it, more fool you. Everyone has likes and dislikes

I don't want to use adult words that are rude or ungrateful when someone's prepared me food, is rather eat it and not be like MIL- that's the point of my post.

I’m not that fussy, but if someone served me chia pudding, or cucumber or grapefruit for example I wouldn’t be able to eat it. The taste or texture would make me gag. I don’t expect my favourite foods to be served and I’ve eaten foods I don’t love to be polite, but not eating food you actively hate is fine. As a host I don’t want to put my guests through a Bushtucker Trial at the dinner table.

This weekend gathering around yours Op sounds like it going to be a truly
harmonious and joyous occasion… I bet you are a lovely host

🤔

I mean if I went for dinner and someone had made it I'd eat it out of good manners m

I can’t eat fish so unfortunately if you served me that I just wouldn’t be able to eat it. it’s probably me being picky but it’s not something I can do anything about.

I have no issue with adults not liking a handful of things but when its at a point where it effects others for e.g. not being able to find anything they like on a whole menu. Or where your having to make a completely seperate meal for one person its annoying