Wedding gift list asking for cash

[Liveandletlive25]

How much is normal to give?
We’re a family of 5 going to the whole wedding.
Thanks

urgh I know I’ll get flamed for this but I HATE people asking for cash. It’s tasteless and grabby.

i know I’ll get the line about “nobody wants it 5 toasters” but I could never dictate a gift.

anyway, depends on how well you know the couple and are you going the full day? £100?

Depends on who the wedding party is- family or friends?
Give whatever you can afford, there’s no set rules.

I agree with the first post. I don't like people asking for gifts or money but I would usually give money and £100 seems reasonable from five of you but depends on your budget and how well you know the person.

Family or friend ? How much would you realistically spend on a gift , i think 50-100 is average on a wedding gift.

I think the ‘done’ thing is to cover the cost of your meals at the wedding?
As a family of five, I’d probably give £150, but I think £100 is very acceptable.

Although we gave £150 .to our nephew last year. So I think it depends.

I prefer giving cash, I get annoyed by how much wedding gift list companies markup prices and charge commission.

I’d say £100 per adult going. Depends massively on personal circumstances though.

There is no covering of a plate thing, no bride &groom wants you to pay for your dinner.

I'd give £100 for the whole family.

Well if the “done” thing is to cover the cost of your food, then £150 for 5 of you seems very light indeed, unless the reception is being held at the local Harvester.

Id give £50.

Your presence is their present IMO.

@shortsharp it used to be gifts for the couple to set up home together. My parents only moved in together after they were married so had nothing and the gifts were useful. 1960s and Catholic.

Now pretty much everyone lives together so what do you think is an acceptable gift list? What would it have on it?

I believe that for at least 30 years people would have a John Lewis wedding gift list where guests would choose items from and then the couple could opt to have the whole thing in cold hard cash.

@Liveandletlive25 I would spend between £50 - £100 depending on how well I knew them.

Depends on how close you are (I'd give my God Child more than my colleague for example) and what your budget is.
I'd also take into consideration if it were one of the weddings where they'd booked a venue in the middle of nowhere 3 hours from home for the aesthetics, which then necessitated overnight stays for us all.

At least £50 per person. That won’t even cover your presence but that’s not required in the UK. So fam of 5 I’d say £250.

My wedding was served family style with no starter and I found it as cheap as possible at £65pp last year. Not including the booze which I bought myself. £150 for 5 people is £30pp which might cover the hire of a chair each or perhaps the dessert only.

It's really cheeky and grabby asking for money in the wedding invitation. Not sure what I'd give. Less because they asked.

If you can't afford it fine, but don't expect guests to cover your costs.,they are guests.

I would give £50 x

We went to a family wedding so both my sister and I gave them money. We went to a friend's wedding for a couple who were well off and had a special photgraph frame made for them which they loved.

I wouldn’t have a gift list. I absolutely hate the idea of any stipulations when people are already spending a fortune to attend.

It's really cheeky and grabby asking for money in the wedding invitation. Not sure what I'd give. Less because they asked.
I think asking g gor money is brilliant.
I'd rather people bought what they wanted, whether it was a specific item or money towards a trip.
Most adults will have what they need so buying for the sake if it is not only pointless but wasteful.

Money is better than buying something that will be in a charity shop within a month.

I didn’t expect my guests to cover costs. Many didn’t give any gift at all which is fine. But the above PP said the done thing was to cover your plate and then suggested a price 20 years out of date… I was just pointing out that her calculations were off by a factor of 2005

I think cash is far easier and more flexible than a list. What if nothing on the list is under £100 but you can only afford £40? With cash all you need to do is go to an ATM and withdraw what you’re happy to pay.

My best friend married in China where cash in red envelopes is the done thing. Many gave thousands of pounds… friends and family alike. We’re very stingy and uncelebratory in the UK I think. Begrudging a couple a few bob to enjoy after they’ve worked hard to create a day their family can enjoy and bond through.

To an extent I agree. Problem is previously people asked for modest household items from a wedding list so the ‘how much to spend’ Q wasn’t really an issue - just whatever you could afford from the list. And then if the couples received a duplicate they just exchanged or got refunded.

I think the next development will be be the couple actually setting a minimum contribution threshold!