How often does your DIL visit/you visit your in laws?

[AnotherSadMIL]

If you are a MIL how often does your DIL come to visit when your son does? If you are a DIL how often do you visit with your husband?

My DIL quite clearly hates me. I’ve seen her once within the last year with my son and that was only because it was Christmas. I just don’t know if we’re expecting too much thinking she should visit more when son does. No children yet but I suspect in the very near future and I am already upset thinking about how little she will want the children to visit.

This is the same poster again! Round in circles.

Your son visits you. They have no children together. Your son moved into his wife’s home. She works from home. You have expectations of this son (and DIL) you don’t have with your other children.

Your DIL does not want a relationship with you when there isn’t one to start with. Do you nag and winge in real life like you do on here? Getting the same advice, ignoring it, then starting exactly the same thread! Always the same scenario with no acknowledgement of all the many posters who have told you the same thing before.

Your son visits you. DIL doesn’t want to and they don’t want to do lifts. It seems clear. You need to accept your son has a new part of his life and you’re not necessarily welcome to it. For whatever reason, focus on you rather than them.

You are being really unfair on DS and DIL, expecting more from them just because they don’t have children. Why is their time less valuable? Don’t you think they have anything to do with their spare time?

'They are due to move much further away'

having read several of your whinging posts since even before the wedding, I am not surprised she is willing to leave her home and move further away from you.

Until they go ' no contact ' at all, you can probably hope for a Christmas card each year with a ' family ' calendar enclosed with photos of any grandchildren taken over the year.

You would do much better to concentrate on your own daughter and not someone else's daughter.

Your son and DIL are not responsible for you or your happiness. Your Dil has no obligation to you, she tried in the early days but your behaviour has pushed her away, I doubt she is interested in building bridges with you. They have their own lives you need to stop being a nuisance and demanding your sons time.
Gone are the days of dil's having to suck it up and put up with people out of politeness, these days we choose who we spend our time with.
I have 2 disabled friends in their 60's who lead full social lives, one is paraplegic and goes out more than I do, they are fun to be with. Stop being a burden and work on building your own life.

OP will not take on board a single thing said here, and instead will be back next week under a different user name moaning about her horrible DIL again.

As others have said OP you need to back off and stop using your son as a crutch to make you feel better. Your son is your child but he is also an independent person with a family of his own that he needs to give his time to. The bridges with your son and DiL may well have been completely burned now but it is something only time will tell. If you do not give them their own space though then any chance of a relationship is gone. You need to find your own life now independent of your child and once they see you are happy with your own life they may be willing to give you a second chance. You sound a little like my DGM who had a problem with her back. DGM knew the answer that she wanted so she tried umpteen doctors who all gave the same advice gentle exercise will improve it. DGM kept trying though until she found the one doctor who told her to sit at home and not move it too much. You want the same so you keep asking as you are looking for Yes Men. Sorry OP no Yes Men here.