51% of men in favour of having weight filters on dating apps

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theres an article in the guardian today following Tinders decision to add in height filters as a premium feature. Quite a few men are upset saying it is going to make dating harder (despite the stats saying many routinely lie about their height anyway).

But what shocked me, was that 51% of men were in favour of a weight filter. Presumably in their heads they all have such great physiques that a weight filter wouldn’t negatively impact their prospects 🤣. But I was genuinely shocked, I really didn’t think the numbers behind weight was a big deal (obviously body type-yes. But not to be able to say she’s over 10stone so that’s a no!)

Men dont understand bra sizes at all. Some of them think the number is the cup size

Are you assuming that most men would restrict it to under say 10st?

Why would people need to make stuff up when there is a ton of studies out there reporting on the statistics and the use of filters on OLD sites ?

OLD isn't responsible for forcing people to make particular choices.

You may argue that OLD does enable a choice whereas otherwise there would not be one, bringing the possibility of applying a filter, whereas before OLD existed it was harder/less easy to apply.

36% of women are in favour

In which case, I want a "size" filter!

Perhaps BMI would be more useful than weight?

You’d be amazed at the pictures men send. If you’re not careful you will have a very good idea of that before you’ve even met them.

Fitness fanatics aside, I'm not convinced the average man understands BMI either.

I've read all your posts but not all the other mumsnetters so sorry if this has already been asked. Why did you put 10st as an upper limit? Do you think that anything over that is an unacceptable weight for a woman?

It’s wild, isn’t it? Height filters cause an uproar, but over half of men are apparently fine with a weight filter—as if they’re all walking around looking like Greek statues. 🤣
It really shows the double standard: height is "shallow" when filtered by women, but weight is "reasonable preference" when filtered by men. And you're right—body type may matter to some, but an arbitrary number on the scale? That’s just absurd (and let’s be real, most people have no idea what someone actually weighs based on appearance).
Dating apps already reduce people to stats and snapshots, and this just adds another layer of judgment. It’s giving “she better look like a model while I wear cargo shorts and live with my mum.”

1. People should adjust the weight in their profile as they should keep their photos, working status, etc, current.
2. So what? People apply all sorts of unrealistic standards to their dating preferences. They either learn or stay single.

Oh I know!
(I've had my "share" of such pics.)
I'm being funny really - if there was some guaranteed way of knowing, WITHOUT seeing a pic of it, I'd support that!

Got a feeling the men will drop those filters like a hot potato (if it doesnt work and they are still single as they get older) and look for a nurse with a purse.

Having a weight filter doesn’t exclude having a height filter too.

Doesn’t everyone lie on those apps anyway. To the point of such questions being meaningless.

It's gender wars click bait really. Everyone is allowed to have a preference, some people lie but ultimately it only negatively affects them when they meet.

My real life observation is most reasonably open minded people who aren't avoidant are able to date....if they're out there actively dating and meeting and socialising for a couple years, they find someone.

(When someone says "there's no-one out there" they normally mean "I'm not attracted to people who are attracted to me").

If apps really wanted to be super accurate, I think they should require new joiners to have a recent video clip on their profile saying something. Or make people have a video date before exchanging contacts

But I guess they're businesses, the model is they prefer people paying to use the apps for longer.

This really makes you sound like a nasty piece of work on a few levels.

So only weirdos can find larger people attractive?

Did you also see the post I was replying to?

I think from memory in school that was the number we would use as the weight of a woman. I don’t think it was an average, but made for a simpler sum.

Weight doesn’t work due to varying heights!

bmi I suppose is more honest.

Because not all of us are shallow. HTH.

I'm in favour of it as it will whittle out men who can't do maths and men who are extremely shallow.