To not have a stranger at my son’s party

[2cleverlovingchildren]

My son is turning 4 next week. My husbands sil has just messaged to ask if my 14 year old nephew can bring his girlfriend to my sons party at our house. There is only going to be me (mum), husband (dad), daughter (8 year old) (sister), both sets of grandparents and my husbands brother, wife (sil) and two sons (14 and 9 year old). Not even husband, or grandparents have met this girlfriend before. I just find it weird that this is the time we should meet her. So am I unreasonable to say no. Or should I let her come. Son absolutely adores and idolises 14 year old nephew and would hugely miss him if he didn’t come. Told this is only time nephew can see girlfriend as she lives 2 hrs away and so only see each other once a month for a weekend.

Oh at least 2

He's not as committed as the 8 year old

i do love a good old fashioned AIBU thread

OP - aibu?

90% of posters - well you kind of are

OP - I most definitely am not!!!!

I don’t know why you bothered posting

ETA:
8 year olds going on dates being more ‘worthy’ of a relationship than (the perfectly normal circumstances of) a 14 yr old with a girlfriend for 7 months

I can’t work out if my Summer Negroni is REALLY fucking strong or if IATA. 🤯

Maybe the 20 year old nephew won't be allowed a +1 because he'll have to help the bride open her presents and play with them 😉

I don't care if it's a troll. it's a beautiful and original thread for once. Deserves to stay

She lives 2 hours away.

Oh dear God. I’m gone🤣🤣🤣

Ah another post where the OP asks for opinion on a topic and is only interested in people validating what she originally thinks. Miserable and pointless. Why did you ask the question?

I’m astonished that you are going to refuse the nephew bringing his girlfriend.
This thread is utterly bonkers and the ridiculous statement that your 8 year old daughter could be viewed as more serious with her “boyfriend”.

There's no reason to think this. It's just as likely that they will both be happy to play with your DS together.

When my son was 15 he went to a family party with his then girlfriend. He played with all the younger cousins and they all loved it.

If they are the type to want to be together for a family event then they are probably going to want to engage with the family

This. He sees his girlfriend once a month. He's 14 and wants to be with her. That's completely understandable.

WTF is Miller and Carter?

Why would you only be considering it for her birthday if she goes more than monthly for her date nights? 😂

Today's unhinged thread.

It’s a chain of pubs with dining. Cheap and cheerful type of place.

I think it's a place for 8 year old date nights..........

This is bonkers and so unwelcoming. It’s a family gathering, just let her come! Really weird behaviour op.

I find this way more disturbing than a 14 year old boy wanting to bring his girlfriend to a party.

Absolutely not where a 9 year old goes for their birthday 😉🤣

Even more reason to be fine with her coming - he’s already had a party, this is just hanging out with family. And if I know teenage relationships, she’ll be a wallflower in the corner, not vying for attention.

Two fourteen year olds. I'd be thinking future babysitting 🤣

Chill. They're 14 & joined at the hip!

Such a weird post. 8 yos having date nights and making a fuss about a 14 yo bringing a GF to a gathering. All a bit precious and OTT IMO. We are a really welcoming family and wouldn't think anything of it, I really can't imagine having such a discussion over something so trivial.

The whole thing is bonkers, 8 yos don't have BFs, they are literally just friends. Its weird anything would encorage it, then the OP stating that 8 yos can go through puberty, WTAF!!

The after nursery party really made me 🧐
A party after nursery, bunch of knackered, tetchy kids at a soft play? Nope.