To not have a stranger at my son’s party

[2cleverlovingchildren]

My son is turning 4 next week. My husbands sil has just messaged to ask if my 14 year old nephew can bring his girlfriend to my sons party at our house. There is only going to be me (mum), husband (dad), daughter (8 year old) (sister), both sets of grandparents and my husbands brother, wife (sil) and two sons (14 and 9 year old). Not even husband, or grandparents have met this girlfriend before. I just find it weird that this is the time we should meet her. So am I unreasonable to say no. Or should I let her come. Son absolutely adores and idolises 14 year old nephew and would hugely miss him if he didn’t come. Told this is only time nephew can see girlfriend as she lives 2 hrs away and so only see each other once a month for a weekend.

Don’t be such a meanie. Invite her.

Exactly. He has all his family there.

You don't need to monitor 14 year old interactions at a family party ffs.

I think you are thinking of this the wrong way (possibly because of your 8 year old's "relationship"). Your nephew wants to bring a friend as a 4 year old's party is dull for a teenager. What's more important? To have the cousin that your son idolises attends his party, or to refuse to have an extra child?

Oh my gawd - can’t believe you are talking in terms of your 8 DD being in a ‘relationship’. So weird! Also, I’d just let her come and enjoy your boy’s birthday - such bloody angst about it?!

You seem a bit detached from your husband's family - you refer to husband's SIL and comment on how not even husband has met her yet. Is this a contributing factor? She's not really a stranger, she's your nephew's girlfriend. It's lovely he wants the family to meet her.

The day was saved, though, by a trip to a fancy steakhouse.

What a drama over nothing 🙄

I’m not a parent but I watch how my best friend and mother of 2 young adults has navigated such situations and see how she is loved, trusted and involved in her children’s and nephews lives. She has welcomed friends, partners, waifs and strays - always a more the merrier attitude. Not once have her kids (my godchildren) felt like it wasn’t their ‘special day’ because their mother was welcoming.

Be More Mary (my best mate).

I just snort-laughed so hard at this.

😂😂😂

Please do not delete this thread, please. I just can't 😂😂

This!

Well, your posts are - all these things.

it's a 14 yo kid 😂😂going to a gathering for a 4yo.
What are you talking about?

When it comes to socialising and meeting people, I’m Mrs Odd from Odd Street, Oddtown. But I would still let my nephew bring his girlfriend to my child’s birthday party. And I would make her very welcome.

Yes. Clearly not read the post where son has never met his other aunt.

My son has another aunt that he’s never met as she chooses not to meet us or see us.

I can't imagine why.

Oh this thread is priceless

The drama over a 14 year old bringing a girlfriend

The 8 year old in a committed relationship who goes to Frankie and Benny's and whose next birthday will be at Miller and Carter

The rigid "we open the presents like this. Then the children can go here and here. People leave at this time then this time then this time. It's been like this for years... for my 4 year old"

Hello neighbour 👋🏻

This is all kinds of weird.
I hope the girlfriend doesn’t go for her sake!
Can’t wait to read the MIL threads when your son gets married 😂

I'm not usually a supporter of obviously fake posts being removed.

But this one is possibly just batshit enough to be real

MN please let it stay. If just for the 8 year oldest committed relationship

This really has made my Saturday night 😂

Maybe nephew can try and bring his latest squeeze (because he gets through girls like a right playboy) to her 14 year olds wedding 🤣

He’ll have a new one by the party next week anyway

Think he'll be too busy with the bridesmaids. though when the 8 year old is 14 and getting married the nephew will have stiff competition from the bride's 10 year old brother