To address some issues raised:
At no point have I said she eats out at miller and Carter monthly. She’s only ever been there with her family.
I said she either goes ten pin bowling, OR eats out OR goes round for tea at their house OR has them round to our house OR something with them like cinema etc. more than once a month. It’s about every two to three weeks. It’s not all of them all the time. It’s a variety of activities.
I am considering for birthday as I don’t know how many friends she’s wanting or who they are (which would influence if it’s suitable or not). Don’t see it as strange as I had a similar party at that sort of age. Other friends have had beauty salons or horse riding parties. Dd not into beauty as quite sporty (canoeing and swimming) so can’t have these as parties.
dd hasn’t kissed him unlike some other people have posted about their children.
some people need to read posts properly.
The girlfriend of my nephew lives two hours away. Unlikely she’ll ever be baby sitting.
I question why she’d want to come, why she’d be invited? also yes they’ve been dating for 7 months but that also means they’ve only actually seen each other about 7 or 8 times as they live far away from each other. So how well does he know her. How they met is also questionable as it was through a gaming app chat so I do think a close eye should be had rather than through school or a club etc.
SIL has confirmed since my message that she understand my reasons given to her and that they’re all still coming.
Not going into why son has never met my sister. But just to say my parents and grandparents have not had contact with my sister for nearly 7 years. Whereas I stopped contact with her 5 years ago and I still see the rest of my family.
I won’t be leaving any further comments.