To wonder what it’s like to be with a man like this…

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One who looks after you, cooks you dinner or even makes you a drink. One who takes the mental load off you, sorts the bills etc. A man who takes care of you when you’re ill, tells you to go to bed and have a rest when you’re tired/overwhelmed. A man who you can sit and have interesting and intelligent conversations and debates with, a man who teaches you something.
To wonder what it’s like to have a man who spontaneously cuddles you and who you still love properly kissing with, to be with a man who takes the initiative and plans/books something for you both or as a family. A fun man with a positive outlook and a lust for life, a guy who doesn’t smoke or drink excessively or take drugs, a man who plays sports and has a great friendship circle. A man who makes you laugh and is witty and sharp, a kind man who loves dogs
To wonder what it’s like to be with a man who listens to you, cares and offers advice, a man who has always got your back and defends you.

To wonder what it’s like to be with a man like this..it must be like winning the lottery to be this cared for and loved

I count myself very fortunate that I have a man who truly enhances my life. The sum of the parts is stronger and all that and he's my biggest champion and I, his. We've grown together so much which isn't bad for 18 years.

Everything I learnt about heterosexuality, I learnt from Mumsnet. Blame the awful husbands/male partners of the women of Mumsnet for my 'bigotry'.

You beat me to it as I was reading made me think why so many women in later life choose women for future relationships.

Don't know why Mumsnet have took the laughing emoji away. I would use it here.

In that case, clone him and share him with heterosexual women the world over.

Yes

This is my DP, I have been diagnosed with FND and I have generally become a hazard to do anything. Also housework knackers me out infact today I walked upstairs to go for a shower, walked into the bathroom with the towels got my shsmpoo,conditioner and shower gel out and had to sit down on the floor as I was knackered. Thankfully I have a bath board now so I can sit down in the shower when I need to.

He is an angel as my ex husband left me because I was unwell.

My DH is all of these things just not all at the same time🤣

I'm not sure anyone could be all of these things 100% of the time.
If your partner is not being at least some of these things for the majority of the time, then you need to rethink if this is the relationship you want or do you deserve more.

Sorry but I just spat my drink out at this!!🤣 In agreement! My dh been together over 30 years he is amazing! 99% of these things apart from sport, bills and organisation! But works amazingly hard and worships me and our kids and will go above and beyond! But yeah still sometimes want to hit him with something heavy! 🤣🤣

Someone who also picks up the dog poo and thinks to take her out for a walk. Someone calm and relaxed, emotionally mature and able to control their emotions…a strong man.

If these things aren't true of your partner why are they your partner?

Trapped and we have a child

As I've got closer with friends I've been surprised how many husbands who seem lovely and involved are actually horrible, lazy and borderline or actually abusive. I think a vast majority of men are innately selfish.

Trapped as in physically can't leave? The child is all the more reason to leave if he's genuinely fulfilling none of this criteria.

Why don't you tell us about your situation? Instead of lamenting the lack of an imaginary man. Be your own hero and all that. What's the situation? Your child's age? Has your partner changed or always been a waster?

Where can you go. Do you have family?

Forgot to add this that he showers me on my really bad days and dresses me every day and helps put my shoes on. And he does it all with no complaints not even once as he complained at me about it. Not to say when he is with friends he doesn't have a moan as we all do when with friends

My husband is like this, I’m incredibly lucky, but I had to go through some shit with another twat before I found him.

My DH is mostly like this but he doesn't like dogs 😂 which is fine because I'm not so keen either. We have a cat and 6 guinea pigs tho 😅

My husband meets your checklist apart from the bit about booking holidays as that falls down to me. But he is thoroughly kind, decent and respectful.

There are lots of good men out there. I see them married to my friends. I am sure you deserve much much better. Sadness comes out from your post and please don’t waste any more of your life with this man who does not respect you. You must be so tired of it xx

just because you call it "humour" I dont' have to find it funny or agree with it.

Do you struggle to accept other people have a different opinion?

So bloody true 😂😂😂

the OP 's description fits profile of many men a lot better than it fits profile of women let's be honest 😂

Dh is all those things but he doesn’t like dogs - I forgive him 😄🥰

Nope.

You're presumably an adult.

Own your own bigotry.

This would be amazing but I don’t feel like I would be able to offer him the same . so how can I ask for a man with those quantities if I’m not giving him the same perfection in a woman ?

I've been with DH for 26yrs and he's everything you list bar the liking dogs. But I don't like dogs so it doesn't really matter.

He's annoyingly good to everybody, selfless to a fault, hard working, kind, generous, takes the mental load with no need to ask or remind and is just my equal in every way.

But I do agree with others, this is just expected stuff in the main.