It's gone 10pm and the neighbours are still making noise in the garden

[Donaldduck22]

My alarm goes off for a 12 hour shift in 7 hours. It's Thursday night. Why are some people so unbelievably inconsiderate.

I’ll be honest my family were all outside mucking about in the garden until about 9.30. Kids were kicking a ball and we were sitting chatting. It was still fully light outside and we were enjoying the warmth in the garden. I don’t think we were making a crazy load of noise but our neighbours probably could hear us. Didn’t occur to us to come in earlier. Past about 10pm I’d think it was a bit anti social as it would be darker then but technically until 11pm we are within our rights to enjoy our garden. I wouldn’t be upset with my neighbours if they chose to do the same.

I feel your pain OP. My neighbours kids were in the garden till after 9 tonight, keeping my DS (who is knackered and really needs a good night sleep awake). My other neighbours seem to be nocturnal and have no idea how loud they're being. It's so inconsiderate and uncool. Both sets of neighbours are late 20s/early 30s so may be a generational thing?

9 isn't unreasonable though.

As for OP, depends what the noise is. Watering their garden with the sound being water only, fine. Music, not fine.

Wow wow wow. It's the witching hour. What sort of pie heads are replying to your thread, I really wonder.

OP, you are being gaslit out of your reality by the unhappy MN mob.

Not unreasonable of you at all. It's just decent behaviour to shut it. At the wknd you'd have more understanding. I get it. Some people just don't have decent manners.

You think you've got problems?

I used to work for a newsagent and had to be there at 4.45am to open the shop for the newspaper deliveries. That meant I had to be up at 3.30.am

I used to go to bed at 8.00 and this time of year there was always some ejit moron neighbour cutting the grass.

I feel your pain.

Blackout curtains, industrial earplugs and a vibrating alarm clock kept me sane.

Rant over.

Last night I had a meeting via Zoom, the house is still extremely warm but the garden was lovely and cool so I went out there. Much cooler and I finished it just after 10pm. Well within the law, better for me too. Other people were out around the same time, enjoying the long evenings, just existing.

Tonight I've got in from work just after 10:30

Thankfully I don't live around people who want and expect people not to make a sound. And I recognise that people work all kinds of hours

In fact, I seem to recall seeing that, since Covid, more places have gone to a 4 day week so people don't work Fridays. Or that's the day they are allowed to WFH so don't have to be up so early.

Respectfully, if your health conditions and job don't align well, as this seems with you needing X amount of sleep for a physical job which exhausts you so much you can't hear your alarm (but also aren't exhausted enough to just drop off) then maybe it's time to look at a different job which may suit your conditions better

That’s not their fault

Don't use gaslit to mean people have different opinions ffs

I think there's no regulation against it but my neighbour was into mowing the garden at 10pm. I wasn't phased as the odd one off but if my son was with me and in bed I absolutely would have said something and be pissed.

I have had a few conversations with my neighbours and they're loads better. My username was created based upon this. 😆

I just wouldn't let my son fog horn out in the garden after 9. No way. It's super rural where I live so maybe it isn't so impactful in a city or built up estate. 🤷

The OP hasn't even stated what kind of noise it was has she?

@DoctorRoseReturns Gaslighting someone out of their experience is exactly what the CFs on here do and plenty a post is doing, well just that - with respect 🙏

It's not gaslighting...

Gaslighted is a prolonged mental abuse

Not disagreeing and saying you have different experience

What do you do for a living it's obviously harder than all our jobs put together

I'm hoping that they either shut up around 11 so she could sleep or she did manage to sleep despite it and she's now fast asleep

And I bet they curse the sound of your car leaving for the early shift!

There’s another thread about someone complaining about children screaming in a paddling pool at 4pm while they are trying to work. Consensus is that that’s fine, it’s what children do, and the complainers have no right to complain because they have chosen to work from home.

By similar logic, adults are fine using their gardens at nighttime and you have chosen a job where you need to wake at 5am, so it’s on you.

I live in a cul de sac and it is 11.30 pm now..most have work tomorrow and kids to get to school there is a gentle buzz of families chatting (mainly about how warm it is!) and its nice. I have just made a coffee and me and dog are off to cool down outside in the garden.sat quietly and its lovely with the solar lights going and the grass slightly damp and a lovely breeze. Yes I should be in bed I am up at 6 but its very rare anyone can do this so sorry OP your just gonna have to suck it up!

I know! Most earplugs are literally designed to block ambient background noise (i.e neighbours chatting in garden) but not an alarm blaring inches away from your head.

Put a fan on, that will block out some of their noise and most of them have timers so it will go off once you're asleep

Maybe they work on a day after your night off and say the same about you, OP?

Relax. Brits rarely have weather they can enjoy their gardens in. Put some ear plugs in.

Surely the answer was to pop round and politely say I have to be up early, I know its a lovely evening, but please could you keep it quieter?

As someone who’s recently bought silicone earplugs because of my DH’s horrific snoring, no I can’t hear my alarm, and then my DH has the fucking audacity to nudge me awake and tell me the alarm is going off. And why should I have to wear earplugs just to make someone else’s life easier?

Um you're the only person choosing to use capital letters and exclamatives to make your point?
Pot, kettle, black!
It's 10pm, and OP has only said they're "making noise" not being noisy
People talking outside in their own garden at 10pm, call the police!

Get a louder alarm going forward?

Closer to 50 than 40 and I’ll be up till about 4am tonight studying. I have music on but it’s a detached house and I’ve closed the windows. I have a fan on because it’s 29 degrees even now in this room.

We’re all night owls. Used to grind my gears when kids would be outside screaming at 7am and my daughter would be fast asleep. But that’s just the deal when you’re an owl in a lark’s world.