8 year old has to stay in to study

[Swimmingwithoutfloats]

My Dd, 7 has a best friend on the road who she loves to play with. They often play together some weekends and occasionally in the evenings in summer.
He hasn’t been able to play out at our house or his due to tests at school.
Every time my Dd has knocked on, he’s said he has to stay in because there are tests at school at the moment and he has to do work. He loves very sad
Its been beautiful weather and Dd and another friend on the street have invited him for bike rides or to play on the trampoline or to swim in the pool and he isn’t allowed.
He stays fairly late at school, then goes to clubs/football etc, comes home, does homework and goes to bed.

Often at the weekend, he says he can’t play and sits in doing video games

Aibu to wonder why he can’t just play with his friends and be a child?

I don't know what the answer to that posters guess-who is, but studies show the happiest sector of society are childfree single women 😊

Are you going to tell the kids parents that you think they should bring him up the same way that you parent?

Some of us are happy for our kids not to play in the street with any random child 😂 your judgmental and superior attitude is all about you, not other parents.

All their time is literally "being a child" but if it makes you feel better for doing nothing with your own, go for it.

yes, because it's well known, kids attending top schools, private or grammar, with all the activities they can want, who have learned to study and achieve top results, these are the kids who fail completely at life, never manage anything remotely like a career. Of course 😂

That's why kids go to top school, it's guaranteed failure later on, and divorce!

Goodness, I can see where she gets it from, you really do need everything spelling out, don’t you?

By continually knocking she’s making him feel more and more left out. Leave him alone. If you know after school is a no-no, tell her not to knock for him them and to leave it for the weekend or holidays.

From the grammar in your post, I’m guessing it’s the one with the education that’s doing well?
That is, not your sister.

It's quite a stretch to say that I'm "doing nothing" for my child because I make sure that he has got time for non structured play. It's quite the opposite. I care for him, not only his intellectual development but also his social and emotional wellbeing.
If you take the time to read what experts say on the subject instead of just posting uninformed opinions.

https://helpmegrowmn.org/HMG/HelpfulRes/Articles/WhyUnstructure/index.html

The above was for you.

Our youngest will say that we won't let him play out when actually he just doesn't feel up to it. Maybe it's an excuse?

I have a learning disability i dont see numbers and letters like others but thank you.

Thats just being rude.

You're too invested in his life.

Concentrate on your own kid

His parents are obviously happy with what they're doing.

I agree with this op this as nothing to do with you.

Seriously the amount of articles I've read from different experts.

We don't all have to read research papers before parenting.

I think Op needs to mind her own business

Wait…what?

Spending no time with my own?
Playing with random strangers/kids?
Playing in the streets?

None of the above is true

What are you even on about

Child is in a state school

She doesn’t continually knock on though? Did I say that?

100%

So how often does she knock. Spell it out, give us the full picture. Because your answers are currently really unhelpful. Use your words. They’re not rationed.

I agree, and don't understand the pile on either.

Is anyone else wondering if @ByJoyousBiscuit is the child's parent?

Could there be anything religious or cultural at play here?

DD had a friend at primary school whose free time was micromanaged by her parents. I remember her saying that she never had even one free evening at home after school and she would have loved the opportunity to just chill and not do an activity. Her mum even made her play golf at the weekend. She didn't enjoy it.

This girl struggled to keep friends and lives quite a solitary life now. They are both nearly 25 BTW.

So sad 😞

Nothing religious or cultural

Ok 😂

It's not just a great. Being able to play outside not under constant supervision and in an environment where you get to choose what happens, negotiate with friends, learn to deal with conflict without a ln adult to intervene are all huge life skills that are sadly lacking in my many young people's lives at the moment. Having worked at university and seeing how incompetent many young people are at basic life skills I would put playing outside with minimal adult supervision top of my things kids should be doing aged 7/8/9.

I do agree with you but you should read this recent thread about things that are considered normal but that MN users do not allow their children. It is eye opening and very often sad. Some children have no unstructured time even as teens.

Op you keep saying not everyones idea of living the dream. But it is some peoples idea of living the dream. Stop trying to think that imposing your values onto another family is Ok.
Your idea of some fantastic culdisac world where kids run in and out of each others houses and play in the street is my idea of a hell hole. This other family might be actively trying to keep their kid away from this rabble.

Well who?