Why would this man ask my daughter to move out of his way?

[justactingmyshoesize]

I was in a supermarket with my 10 year old dd and we walked over to the reduced fridge and I asked dd if she could see anything in there she fancied so she went over to have a look and a man walked over and looked at my daughter looking and said excuse me and expected her to move aside so he could look, she looked uncomfortable and stepped aside.

I said quite politely I think my daughter was just looking first but he ignored me and so I said quite loudly to my daughter “ you didn’t need to move out of his way as you were there first and so could continue looking but the man didn’t allow her space to until he had finished looking. It was as if my daughter was of no consequence at all.
I explained to my daughter she didn’t need to move out of his way but in the situation he didn’t give her a lot of choice.

It’s because she’s a child. Children aren’t generally in charge of purchasing decisions and often they are idly looking whilst the parent shops. I expect that’s what he thought was going on. He probably would have been less likely to ask an adult to move because there’s a valid expectation that the adult is doing grocery shopping, rather than just looking around like most kids. I think he was therefore reasonable.

I was standing with her pointing things out to her that she might like, she wasn’t just standing there alone, we were actively discussing what she’d eat, I was next to her with the trolly and she was leaning in looking at what they had, until he came along. Hence why I heard what he said and spoke up about it.

YABU.

The reduced section isn't something you queue up for and look at one by one. So if he said excuse me, he probably wanted her to step step slightly aside so he could also look or take something. I'd do the same. It's not like he told her to stop looking, or move away.

Someone asked my daughter to move in the supermarket...cue making a post about it.

I've just read this after posting my above comment.

If you were both standing there having a discussion, I can perhaps see why it would be annoying for someone if they felt they couldn't access the area because two other people are having a chat in front of it. It's definitely not unreasonable him to say excuse me in this case.

I do think perhaps you were being a little unreasonable yourself by blocking the space and talking while other people were trying to get to it.

Maybe he would. I have and so far It's never been an issue (I am polite about it).

In this case I would also have (wrongly) assumed the child is just hanging around.

So you both stood in front of the small fridge having a chit chat about what she fancies eating? One of you should have moved before being asked.

Sounds like you were taking a while then. It helps to be more aware of what's going on around you and not block up space for too long. One of you could have moved out of the way.

Just read your update. One of you should have moved out of the way.

So you were fannying around discussing stuff and getting in people's way then.

Sounds like a polite excuse me was more than fine.

He didn’t know what was there until he asked her to move and when someone is already looking it’s customary to wait while they look and then go in for a look yourself surely?

Up to a point, minutes of browsing nope

So if you are looking for something and someone says excuse me you think you should move and let them look instead?

why? You were still looking. Why does saying excuse me mean you have to stop looking so they can start looking.

bet you were one of those parents who thought if a child was playing happily with a toy for 1 minute and your child wanted to play with it you could insist the other child ‘share’ and let your dc play with it instead. That’s not sharing. That’s taking something off one child who barely has it and give it to another.

If someone is arsing about wasting time then sure. But if someone is doing something first you wait your turn. Do you go up to a queue and say excuse me and expect to go in front of others?

so so weird.

In your OP you wrote: "I was in a supermarket with my 10 year old dd and we walked over to the reduced fridge and I asked dd if she could see anything in there she fancied so she went over to have a look and a man walked over and looked at my daughter looking and said excuse me and expected her to move aside so he could look, she looked uncomfortable and stepped aside."
So first of all you say you were both looking in the fridge, then you say your DD "went over to have a look" (went over where if you're both stood in front of it?), then you say the man "went over to have a look". Surely if you and your DD were already stood together there in front of it, your DD wouldn't be going over anywhere and the man would be coming over to join the pair of you already there? This latest post makes it sound like he expected both of you to move. You can't seem to get your story straight OP.

Could he have ADHD?

WTF? Does neurodivergence have to be suggested for everything?

I am only taking the piss, this thread is so unreasonable I'm just adding a few MN unreasonable responses.

I think OP should LTB instead

Saying "excuse me" if somebody is blocking your access or view of something is not rude.

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Sorry! It’s so difficult to tell on here these days

Shame there wasn't a poll on this.

I suspect the answers weren't the ones you were hoping for.

I'm with most people - I'd have no issue saying 'excuse me' if someone were standing in front of something I was after in the supermarket and I wanted to crack on. Equally, I'd have no problem someone saying it to me if I was having a ponder / trying to make my mind up on a day I wasn't in a rush.

I was going to say you are making a mountain out of a molehill but I actually think you are trying to create an issue where there is no issue.

I don't think you handled that well OP. YABU.

So you were browsing & he was trying to actually buy something? Very rude of you to hog the space. Step aside till you've made up your mind.

Because it isn't just someone standing in front of someone. It is someone who is taking their turn at shopping in front of you and you should wait your turn.

How is a Young Carer a "ridiculous exception"? Can you hear yourself?

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