Why would this man ask my daughter to move out of his way?

[justactingmyshoesize]

I was in a supermarket with my 10 year old dd and we walked over to the reduced fridge and I asked dd if she could see anything in there she fancied so she went over to have a look and a man walked over and looked at my daughter looking and said excuse me and expected her to move aside so he could look, she looked uncomfortable and stepped aside.

I said quite politely I think my daughter was just looking first but he ignored me and so I said quite loudly to my daughter “ you didn’t need to move out of his way as you were there first and so could continue looking but the man didn’t allow her space to until he had finished looking. It was as if my daughter was of no consequence at all.
I explained to my daughter she didn’t need to move out of his way but in the situation he didn’t give her a lot of choice.

Its funny my local supermarket is full of 'young carers' especially during the Summer holidays. These carers tend to stand in front of fridges then side step to another fridge or display. Many of them wander off aimlessly when queuing for the till.

Yes young carers do exist but 99.9% of kids in the supermarket are just in the way. I think we all know that

100% agree, film rights coming up next.

Because he’s an adult and she’s a child and she should have respect for her elders in this situation. Goodness get some standards.

Speak for yourself! I can't move in our supermarket for all the children doing the weekly shopping for their families 😂

Yes you're absolutely right but there's always one who has to throw some ridiculous exception in to try and make people feel bad 🙄

You're way over thinking this. Nearly all children in supermarkets aren't actually doing the shopping, he just said excuse me as he probably assumed she wasn't actively looking to get something from that area. It's really not a big deal.

Would have loved to seen a vote on this one.

The over important misogynist decided an inconsequential girl should move out of his way. I'd have told him to get stuffed. I have no time for this.

I did, but we all know that no 10 year old is being sent to the reduced section to ‘pick something’ and we all know that the OP has reacted in a really weird way.

FWIW I read all of the OPs posts on this thread before commenting and it paints a very clear picture of someone making a problem where there didn’t need to be one

Bonkers take, have a word with yourself. You know nothing about the situation and it's clear from the responses that things almost certainly didn't happen the way you are painting them - let alone trying to label anyone who disagrees. Pathetic.

They’re the same ones who go as a whole family to collect their luggage - you need 2 per family at the most. One to pull the case off, and one to take said case back to the rest of the family before coming back to grab the next one.

Because generally primary school children aren’t usually the ones deciding the family menu, checking expiry dates, looking at the quality of the reduced food, and paying for the shopping etc. ‘would he have said that to a man?’ (that age old pointless remark often used on here) is a mute point, another ADULT (male or female) is more likely to be shopping, not having a look for anything a child ‘fancies’.

If that person is a 10 year old or someone else who doesn't normally do that thing by themselves, then probably yeah.

Honestly OP you need to get a grip, this is an ADULT talking to a CHILD how on earth was he meant to know she was doing some shopping? I'd have done exactly the same as him.

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Both were looking. One person's needs don't trump another's. Man, elderly person, another child, women. The man was rude and entitled.

You were right to tell her she doesn't have to move.

Couldn't she ha e just shuffled sideways to make room for them both to look. I feel as though adults are the main spenders in supermarkets not primary school children.

Possibly overthinking this? I ask children or adults to move all the time if they’re just stood staring, shops, at school, wherever. If, as pp say, he knows what he wants or wants a quick look and someone else is completing blocking the still tasty bargains, I’d feel no compunction in asking them to excuse me.

That's just the thing though isn't it as PP have said many times most people would assume that a child was just perusing rather than choosing and buying so the initial interaction and him saying excuse me was not at all wrong of him. If she had turned to him and politely said that she was choosing something then maybe he would have waited how was he to know you had instructed her?

Though him not apologising or at the very least acknowledging the both of you was rude but you then went on to be quite passive aggressive. So I don't think any of you showered yourselves in glory IMO

And what would it be if I (an adult female) said excuse me to to a 10 year old boy to get past him (which I absolutely would do)?

The OP corrected him though and said DD was there first. In that scenario, wouldn't you apologise and explain you didn't realise they were looking?

Assuming it was an honest mistake, that is.

Because he’s a yellow sticker weirdo? I don’t think I’ve ever not experienced a weirdo in the reduced section, there’s always someone lurking over my shoulder. The worst was one Sunday at Morrisons, there were about 15 people milling about near the warehouse doors. Me and my kids were nearby choosing some fruit and didn’t have a clue. As soon as the big green crate came out, all of them ran and pushed past my young kids nearly knocking over my youngest, scrabbling in the boxes like it’s a zombie apocalypse. I avoid that section now despite my love of a bargain😅

And yes I know some people really need the reduced stuff but no excuse for pushing people or being rude!

Fuck me ive never known anything like MN for turning things like a perfectly normal event into a thing.

She was standing where he wanted to get something. He said excuse me - perfectly reasonable and OP makes a thing of it at the tine and is still thinking about this non event of an exchange long enough to make a thread on here.

What was he supposed to do, just wait til she'd moved away? Then he'd have been the weird pervert standing too close to her

Saying excuse me in these circumstances was perfectly reasonable.

Unless ofcourse you're a MNer 🙄

Blimey, this thread hasn’t improved. So many people not understanding the reduced section rules - comparing it to browsing in Waterstones FFS.

I’m still Team OP’s Daughter all the way.

I would have done the same. Nobody minds. You both sound a bit entitled tbh.

The reduced section is a very different sort of area of a supermarket since it changes (so not the same as just being in front of the tinned prunes or whatever) where someone else can just grab what they need. You need to look. BUT a 10 year old is not the purchasing decision maker. Did you also intend to go have a look when you were done with what you were doing OP? Or was your DD's assessment of if there was anything worth getting enough? I assume he assumed that she was just taking a casual look to keep her busy and out of the way while you were doing something else and certainly would expect her to move since she would not be making a buying choice. Even if she had spotted some bargain steaks I would doubt she would have picked them up before whom, so makes not difference. You can't compare a 10 year old to say of you had sent your adult partner to have a look. They are shopping, not just browsing.