Why would this man ask my daughter to move out of his way?

[justactingmyshoesize]

I was in a supermarket with my 10 year old dd and we walked over to the reduced fridge and I asked dd if she could see anything in there she fancied so she went over to have a look and a man walked over and looked at my daughter looking and said excuse me and expected her to move aside so he could look, she looked uncomfortable and stepped aside.

I said quite politely I think my daughter was just looking first but he ignored me and so I said quite loudly to my daughter “ you didn’t need to move out of his way as you were there first and so could continue looking but the man didn’t allow her space to until he had finished looking. It was as if my daughter was of no consequence at all.
I explained to my daughter she didn’t need to move out of his way but in the situation he didn’t give her a lot of choice.

If he knew what he wanted and she was just standing there staring at the fridge trying to make up her mind, of course she should get out of his way so he can grab what he needs in five seconds and go. When he’s done that, she can carry on standing in front of the fridge dithering again. What were you expecting? That people who knew exactly what they need would form an orderly queue behind a child who was just standing there looking?

You’re being really weird and entitled about this. Your kid was in the way. ‘Excuse me’ is a perfectly valid way to ask her to step aside for a second or two.

I don’t think so. I might get away from her as fast as possible though as I might assume that she was “unhinged” - to use a well worn MN term.

He is entitled to ask someone to move out of the way, it's hardly a big deal.

You are making a mountain out of a molehill.

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Probably because he thought she was just standing around while you made your selection.

His actions strike me as totally reasonable.

Are you seriously upset that a man said 'excuse me' to your daughter so he could do his shopping?!

Why do people keep saying “if he knew what he wanted and she was still deciding” ??

IT WAS A DISCOUNT SHELF…… he can’t possibly have known what he wanted because he wouldn’t have known what was there……. and OP quite clearly said HE DIDNT PICK ANYTHING UP

He clearly just believed his desire to browse trumped a young girls.

Hi didn't and doesn't know how old she is. He also didn't know she was your daughter.
It's a reduced food section so you're bargain as we all do. First come first served.
Nothing wrong with this, you could have called this out on the shop and not online.

I have noticed that many people are not willing to wait in shops and take their turn. You are expected to jump of of the way regardless of whether you are finished or not. I have waited a short distance away for individuals to make their choice and then to have somebody else jump in and bellow 'Excuse me!' for the person to get out of their way. Like a car indicator, 'Excuse me,' shows your intention but does not give you a right of way. Be nice. It costs nothing.

My understanding is that reduced aisle is first come first serve, so I always wait until the person in front of me moves so I can have a look. A lot of the times there's only one item of each type, so it's unfair to ask to squeeze in. At least that's how I'll continue approaching it. It's not the same as any other fridge or aisle where there's multiple items for each product.

First come first served literally means he should have waited for the OP's daughter to finish browsing!

Nope. Never seen people queue - everyone literally barges to look.

Because he has no more fucking right to look in the fridge than she has and she was there first so he should wait his fucking turn. That’s why. Got it now?

What shop did this occur in ages what part of the country

Where I shop there is usually room for two people to browse at the same time so I will often say excuse me so that I can stand next to the other shopper and get a look at the same time.

It’s the reduced to clear. First come first served. He had no right to ask her to move. It is different if it is a full price shelf and you know what you want. You could ask someone politely could I just grab a tin of tomatoes. There are different rules for RTC! Mother was 💯 right to tell child she didn’t have to move.

Bloody MN, I’m sick to death of this nonsense.

Yup, awful projecting going on here.

I've seen threads about SEN kids in school struggling and lashing out at other kids and it turns into a debate about whether the child is male or not, nothing to do with the fact the school and LA are failing a child and not meeting their needs, just all about them being male. It's a sad state of affairs when people can only come up with dualistic conclusions to things on the basis of a post on here. Half of them aren't even genuine.

This makes no sense at all.

basically id be getting or looking at baking ingredient's and if im a while deciding other customers have said can i get x etc because they already know what item they want and im in the way via myself and the trolley.

YABU X 2

Firstly, a man doing his shopping who asks a 10 Yr old girl to excuse him so that he can do his shopping by saying "excuse me", is perfectly acceptable behaviour.

She is 10 ffs!?

Secondly, shouting at your daughter that she doesn't have to get out of his way, is just totally escalating this non incident, to be something it wasn't.

Thirdly, posting about it online reeks of wanting drama, sorry. Nothing to see here but a man keen to do his shopping asking a 10 Yr old to excuse him while he accessed a fridge. Come on ffs!!

P.s. but at least you are not the only one being unreasonable on here. I.e. Some posters are projecting this incident as "he wouldn't have asked a man to move...", "Women are people pleasers...", yada, yada, yada are obviously so deluded that they cannot simply see that this was an adult doing their shopping asking a 10 year old kid to excuse them while they looked in a fridge!?
Nuts & nut jobs all round!!