Why would this man ask my daughter to move out of his way?

[justactingmyshoesize]

I was in a supermarket with my 10 year old dd and we walked over to the reduced fridge and I asked dd if she could see anything in there she fancied so she went over to have a look and a man walked over and looked at my daughter looking and said excuse me and expected her to move aside so he could look, she looked uncomfortable and stepped aside.

I said quite politely I think my daughter was just looking first but he ignored me and so I said quite loudly to my daughter “ you didn’t need to move out of his way as you were there first and so could continue looking but the man didn’t allow her space to until he had finished looking. It was as if my daughter was of no consequence at all.
I explained to my daughter she didn’t need to move out of his way but in the situation he didn’t give her a lot of choice.

Is that based on your own prejudice?

Like most men in a supermarket I know what I'm looking for. When confronted with someone dallying and dithering in front of a cabinet making up their mind I give them 5 seconds and then say "excuse me" and get what I want.

Doesn't matter who or what age or sex they are. (I might give very elderly people more leeway).

It's more efficient for them and me

Ooh, I wonder what will happen in the next thrilling installment of "man says excuse me in the supermarket" drama. Ten pages in already......

Why are you so aggressive in your posts? Are you like this in real life too?

Wtf it’s an isle, you walk down the middle, you don’t stand in front of everything you pass in the isle until you stop and move to it.

Did you not read that he didn’t pick anything up?

“Excuse me” in a supermarket is not a reason for a complaining post, unless you like to see yourself as a victim.

Wtf it’s an isle

Actually its an aisle

I though MN was big on people being brought up "properly" and having manners. Make up ya minds! 😂

Bring back the laugh emoji!

It's actually an aisle, but spelling aside stop deflecting and answer my question. Why would you write your "DD went over" if you both went over? And why would you say the man "went over" if you and your DD were already there? It just doesn't make sense. Had you both already been there, there would be no mention of your DD going over anywhere and you would have simply written "a man came up to us while we were stood there". It's clear to me that you were still stood elsewhere (in the middle of the aisle, probably) observing your DD and the man from a short distance. Like I said, you can't get your story straight.

If this was a yellow sticker bit then it's a free for all as everyone wants a look.

So? It's the reduced section, there's no always something you want. Did you pick everything up? Maybe thats what took you so long?

But if someone is doing something first you wait your turn. Do you go up to a queue and say excuse me and expect to go in front of others?

It's not the same thing at all.

When he said 'excuse me' it was your opportunity to say 'we're just looking and will step aside shortly.'

You didn't. Your DD moved (she's not to know until you teach her).

Then you should uld have directly said 'excuse me we we're first can you please wait'.

He asked, she moved. YABU.

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There’s nowt worse when you just want to grab 1 thing and there’s someone there farting about taking their time. He probably got fed up of waiting for the fridge hoggers to move.🤣🤣🤣

yakkity

I wouldn’t read so much into it, just a comment, I just don’t think life needs to be so dramatic, but it’s not necessarily an in depth show of how I parent!

Probably couldn’t be arsed and walked off due to the escalating drama

Up to a point. I would certainly politely ask someone to move if I was in a hurry and they seemed to just be standing and gawping.

How isn’t it? The OP says her dd wasn’t being slow and he proceeded to just look around not grab exactly what he wanted.

it’s literally exactly the same thing. She was there first choosing something. He came after and should have waited. Just as in a queue.

It is if the layout means you have to stand in front of it to look at what’s on offer. Presumably he proceeded to stand in front of it and do exactly what the girls had been doing. The OP said he didn’t quickly grab something and move on.

You can’t ’make up your mind’ until you look. It’s a discount shelf. You don’t know what’s there without actually looking. And he proceeded to do exactly what the girl had been doing. Stand and look.
if there was space for two he wouldn’t have asked her to move. He should have waited his turn

Well you are the one who determined everyone should meekly back off when someone instructs them to. You seem to think not being dramatic means letting everyone metaphorically push you out of your turn. Terrible message to your dc

As someone who works in a supermarket, I can say that 99% of people become absolute dicks when it comes to reduced items. I bet he would have asked anyone to move. I get customers leaning over my head, pushing in front of me and just going crazy over a piece of cod reduced by 15%

anyway YABU and unhinged

yakkity
meekly is a bit much!!