Hello
I let my son go over to his friends house after school just for an hour and a half, they have become very close in school since him starting in September.
I see mum every single morning, I wouldn’t say class her as a friend yet, we usually have a short conversation then she goes about her day.
This afternoon whilst at pick up, she said “you can ask M if he would like to come over for an hour or so” then she looked at me and said that he has been wanting to ask him for a while now, only if that’s okay with you.
My son was happy and said yes, then asked me if it would be okay.
Bearing in mind, my son suffers from anxiety and has been going through a rough time recently, regarding being outside/new environments/ people etc.
So I obviously didn’t want to say no, because it would be a huge step for him to come out of his comfort zone.
She asked if I wanted to come with him, but I didn’t think it would be appropriate especially when I had my other two children with me, she gave me her mobile number, and I insisted that her and her son got into my car so I could drop them home, just for a peace of mind.
My son enjoyed the short time he spent at his friends house, and asked if he could come over to ours tomorrow and I sort of said yes.
The issue now is my Husband, I didn’t think he’d be home because he went out, when I got home he asked where our son was, I told him that he’d gone round to his friends and I would go and collect him soon.
He wasn’t happy and told me to go and get him, l said I would go and get him in a hour and half and that I don’t understand what the problem is, when actually I do.
He told me that my sons friends are not to come over to the house and he is not going over there, and I always let it go over my head and say to myself “whatever”
When I got back with our son, the first thing my husband said “didn’t I tell you, that you’re not to go over to peoples houses” my son answered “I know Dad, I’m sorry but I did want to go there” he then went on to say “You don’t listen, but you’re going to learn”
Neither my son or I fear him or are scared of him; he went out soon after and will not answer his phone, every time we have a disagreement he leaves the house and it makes me believe that he goes and sleeps with someone else.
Was I being unreasonable for letting my son go to his friends house? Because I don’t want to apologise to him and make things right, our son should be able to go over to his friends houses and they should be able to come here.
I will be inviting him and mum over tomorrow after school, or do you think that is going to make matters worse?