People who ring repeatedly when you don’t answer

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Aibu to think that people who ring you over and over again when you don’t answer are rude, attention seeking and a bit weird? Unless of course it’s an emergency.

If I don’t answer the first call, what makes them think I’m going to answer the 2nd 3rd or 10th time?

Sometimes I’m having a shower or my phone is in another room on charge and I’ll go to it and there’ll be 20 missed calls. Or I might be at work. Any number of reasons why I can’t answer.

It’s a certain few people who do this.

Mobile phones have missed call notifications, so it’s obvious that someone will ring back when they can.

God, I've just blocked someone (new friend) who continually called me during the day. 4 - 10 times per day. I didn't always answer, because I either was busy, and after a while it was getting on my nerves. Over and over with nothing much to say.

Urgh.

I agree. Leave a voicemail or txt.
Of course sometimes it's an emergency but you should be able to tell but due to people behaving like this you can't always tell.
I had friends before who'd do it not due to there being an emergency or even having anything mildly important to say. Drove me mad.

@Karmacamelia Same here. I give my Dad a lot of emotional support now that he’s widowed. Plus he’s got various health problems. When someone’s in their 80’s, I’m prepared to make allowances.

Spot on

They can leave a message

totally agree

Unfortunate!?! Wow…that’s a pretty self centred response. Wouldn’t you feel partly responsible?

No one is trying to fix you. They are saying why they wouldn’t engage with your self centred phone use. You are the one that won’t accept that that’s their right :)

Surely @feelingblehis trolling.

No one would say it’s ‘unfortunate’ if their loved one had a car accident and were killed because they got distracted from someone repeat calling.

Unfortunate is a pretty strange way to look at it.

Or I just think you're all ridiculous and will never understand so im being sarcastic

They wouldn't be saying anything at that point, would they?

I would hope not that would be creepy as hell

One of my friends used to do this a lot. I could not be bothered with any of the passive aggressive "solutions" in this thread, trying to work around it. I would just tell them immediately to stop doing it or else all their calls would be blocked, and that would be it.

im realising now how nsane I was to all my husband to be 45 mins late to meet me and id only ring him once

This is one of my deep hatreds. It absolutely triggers me because I had a 'friend' with mental health issues who did this to the extreme when I was younger. The nightmare went on years before I finally got enough of a grip to completely block her from my life. It was like a weight had been lifted off me honestly.
I didn't have a phone for a couple of years after just as a break.
I have one now but it is ALWAYS on silent.
I now go into all interpersonal relationships with strong boundaries from the outset as I never want to go through that again.
If someone is trying to initiate more contact than im comfortable with ill straightforwardly explain my discomfort. If they dont react well or they continue to behave the same way then I immediately cut them out of my life.

Agreed. Or when the phone rings for ages. This annoys me in the office when people leave their phone on their desk on loud and wander off somewhere and the called lets it ring and ring. FGS, press end call and try again later. Emergencies aside of course.

I struggled with anxiety for a long time, sorry but this is selfish, you try to minimise the impact on others not expect people to comply with easing your anxiety. It’s not fair on others.

This makes me stressed to think about. What is this incessant need for contact ppl have nowadays. We used to be allowed some peace before mobile phones; some time alone or just resting/focusing, whatever.

Yes MIL does this and it’s annoying. H has 2 phones so she rings mobile mobile home, mobile mobile home until someone answers. It’s one of the reasons I cancelled our home phone!