People who ring repeatedly when you don’t answer

[Chocolatesplease]

Aibu to think that people who ring you over and over again when you don’t answer are rude, attention seeking and a bit weird? Unless of course it’s an emergency.

If I don’t answer the first call, what makes them think I’m going to answer the 2nd 3rd or 10th time?

Sometimes I’m having a shower or my phone is in another room on charge and I’ll go to it and there’ll be 20 missed calls. Or I might be at work. Any number of reasons why I can’t answer.

It’s a certain few people who do this.

Mobile phones have missed call notifications, so it’s obvious that someone will ring back when they can.

Yeah we could never be friends it wouldn't work 🤣🤣

That would be unfortunate

But its quicker and less distracting to just send a msg saying im busy.

While driving?!!!

Do you expect them to immediately pull over on to the hard shoulder to send you a text to say they’re busy?!!

🤣

I can’t answer my phone through my car.

I use my phone as a satnav. If someone starts ringing me then the satnav doesn’t work and I have to touch the phone to either cut them off or answer.

Why the heck should I answer my phone when I’m driving? Why shouldn’t the caller just wait until a convenient time for us both.

I have absolutely no idea how to link my iPhone to my car despite reading the manual and googling it. It’s a total mystery to me - I have tried but gave up - one of those techy things I know is possible but is unobtainable for me ( and there are so many of these with all gadgets doing 1000s of things I don’t need)

So many people feel utterly entitled to other people’s time!

You can’t send a message when someone rings you over and over again.

Why should I anyway? If I don’t answer the first time or ring back within a few seconds then quite clearly I’m busy 🙄

What is to be achieved by ringing over and over and over again?

"Unfortunate"?????

Your neediness causing the deaths of people would be "unfortunate"?

FO

No driving you can answer the phone I was replying to someone who said what if their listening to an audio book or enjoying the silence which I wrongly assumed they meant at home I now realise they meant in the car.

I think its hilarious that people on here think they can fix me when 20 years of psychiatrists, psychologists, counsellors, gps, cpns etc etc can't

Because they are concentrating on driving.

Because they have had a shitty day at work, dealing with shitty annoying colleagues so have put 80s metal on full blast and are enjoying a few minutes singing along and expunging the shitty day.

Because they just don’t want to talk to you right in that exact moment and have the right to choose how they spend their time.

Because they are in the car with other people and having a conversation with them so don’t want to be interrupted.

Yes exactly what I said earlier

You were replying to my list of reasons as to why someone might not answer the phone while driving and your solution is…. They can just answer the phone. Wow. So you really do expect everyone you know to be contactable to you at all hours of the day, whenever you see fit?

You are quite right, you seem beyond help. You clearly believe that your mental health challenges are more important than everyone else’s.

Absolutely 💅

Ah I see. You’re trolling us. I did think this was a bit unbelievable.

(From your OP)
Mobile phones have missed call notifications, so it’s obvious that someone will ring back when they can.

Well, it isn't.
If there is one call, and no message left, I wouldn't call back.

I would assume that either they were going to try someone else for the answer, or favour, or a chat, or whatever they wanted, or that it was even a bum dial. Therefore I wouldn't call them back.

I don't disagree with you that it is ridiculous to call 10 or 20 times in a row if it isn't some dire emergency.
I also agree with those saying it will end in a "Little boy who cried wolf" scenario if there ever were an emergency. You'd like to hope this could be explained to them, but I suspect if they think phoning over and over (when not an emergency) is okay, they probably wouldn't listen.

It's absolutely true but it got very boring a long time ago when multiple people are saying the same things. Im under the cmht im on antidepressants,antipsychotics, mood stabilisers and benzos. I also don't like it but their is only so much help and so much medication. Not everything is fixable

It's not always a case of ignoring it. You may be at work, you may be driving, you may be attending to a baby, you may be in the shower, you may be having sex, your phone battery might have gone flat...

This seems to be the attitude amongst people who do the repeated calling: the assumption that somebody is 'ignoring' them for no good reason and how dare they.

If you look at the history of humanity as a whole, the teeniest blip at the end is the bit where most people have a phone on or near them most of the time. Right up until then, people managed perfectly well without needing to speak to somebody NOW.

The invention of the telephone obviously enabled people to speak to others who weren't present; but that doesn't mean that they are your servants at your permanent beck and call. Even people who are actually employed as servants need to go to the toilet and sleep sometimes.

I only answer calls to three people while driving and only on certain parts of my drive. It's hugely distracting and can lead to accidents.

you might be ok with that, however I am not.

Yes, this. Obviously the most dangerous thing is to be holding a phone and talking on it; but a large part of why it is also dangerous is because somebody who isn't present and can't see the circumstances of your journey is talking to you and expecting you to interact with them.

Unlike a passenger who can see the road and can pick up when you especially need to concentrate, or the radio/music that won't get in the slightest bit upset or offended if you ignore it or quickly shut it down, it's risky - especially if the subject matter of the call is serious, needs careful consideration, is upsetting, life-changing etc.

It's a bit like drink-driving limits: just because you're legal to drive up to the limit, most people understand that by far the best decision is not to drink any alcohol at all before driving.

Well clearly you know a very limited group of people then.

Many, many cars don't have the functionality to do that.
Some people put their phone away in their bag so they aren't distracted by it when driving.
Some people have phones that can't connect to a car.

My ex’s family do this! Its an absolute pet hate of mine, its so rude to just keep ringing! If someone doesn’t answer their phone their is obviously a reason, just leave a message and wait for them to call you back ffs!