If you have young adults living at home, what does their rent cover?

[Brunocatmon]

My ds is 21, almost 22. He's worked in hospitality his whole working life ( he started work 2 days after he turned 16 ).

Recently he changed jobs to a more secure job with decent contracted hours with more regular pay than before.

Ds's gf ( same age, 21) also lives with me.

Then I have dd who is 14.

The 2 young adults pay rent. £200 a month. This is all in.

In a couple of weeks my eldest dd (30) , her fiance, and 2 dc are moving in from overseas until they find themselves a house to buy. Realistically this could be a good few months.

Dd ( 18) is also moving back in from overseas.( she lives with them at)

I was talking to eldest dd and she said so if we give you X rent then we'll get groceries but if people want expensive extras they get it themselves is that OK?

I said their rent is inclusive of groceries unless expensive treats etc.

It just got me wondering. If your adult dc pay rent what does it include?

I hope that makes sense and I didn't mean to post in aibu 🙄

Good god. Do you really need to take in all their partners? So there are going to be 6 adults 1 teen and 2 children living with you?

Yes.

How big is your house 😂 mine is 22, he doesn’t pay rent.

My son is 22 in between jobs at the moment but we still take rent £300 a month off him that includes everything. I bank his rent for his future but he doesn’t know that.

I have my 2 adult DC living with me on and off. They don't pay rent.

I don't and will never allow any partners.

£200 a month for a couple seems pretty low.

I have 5 large double beds, the children are small and sleep in with dd and her fiance. It's temporary so it'll be fine. All of the adults work different hours so we won't always all be around at the same time ( not like Christmas day when I had all 6dc, partners and dgc 😁)

Its £200 each person.

Where does he get money from for rent if he isn't working atm?

My DD lives here and doesn’t pay rent.
she has been saving for a deposit for a flat and will be moving out soon.

my DS will move back after uni, we won’t charge him rent, but would expect him to work and save and have a plan to buy his own place.

I think it's ok for you to say the rent does not include expensive treats or toiletries etc. Just basics.

My ds is 18 and pays £200 a month, covers everything but we are actually saving it for him - we don't tell him that though lol

DS (26) still lives with us. He pays £175/month. This covers all normal family food. If he wants something special/different then he provides this himself.

OK then my system seems fair then. If they want expensive treats they buy them.

Thank you

DD pays £300, this covers her phone contract (£30), food and vet payment for her cat (£50ish) and then food and bills. I buy shampoo and conditioner and tampons as well and if she wants fancy stuff she buys it.

£50 per week is extremely cheap. I would expect all of the working children and partners to pay the electricity bill on top of that as well as the difference in council tax. There's no way I'd have them costing me more money - the electricity bill will shoot up. Between them it's manageable.

I'd say that food would be pretty basic and absolutely any luxury food should be bought by them. It goes without saying none of my alcohol could be drunk by them!

I would also ask all of them to pay for one hour of a cleaner's time per week, to cover all shared downstairs rooms and bathrooms. They would have to clean their own bedrooms.

My 22 and 25 year old sons pay £80 a week each. That includes everything ( they also pay their own phone contracts). If they have takeaways they cover that themselves.

That's up to him to figure out, surely? If his mum is paying for everything he wouldn't have an incentive to find work quickly. (Not saying this young man is lazy, but a lot are!)

I take as much as it costs me.

the extra council tax I pay.

the extra groceries etc

a bit for water etc.

she actually chooses to pay me more as she is better off than me

@Brunocatmon

why does your sons’s girlfriend live with you? Why can’t she live with her parents or her mates?

My eldest is living with me and working in hospitality. I don't charge rent, she's saving to learn to drive and I'm lucky enough to not need the money. She cooks, gardens, does laundry, cat sits, tidies so absolutely pulls her weight. She buys her own treats and luxuries (and regularly some for me too).

30 years ago I paid £40/ week. That covered household bills and some food, I bought a fair bit of my own. £200 feels pretty low on that basis, but I guess it depends on whether you need the money etc.

She's not from this country, they met when ds was working in her country so she has no friends or family here. I did ok this, 2 years ago.

My daughter and son in law lived with us for much of last year. They both have a completely different diet to my husband and I and so bought their own food and did their own cooking. We didn’t charge them any rent because we didn’t really incur much in the way of extra costs when they were here.

We have never charged rent, our parents never charged us rent so it’s weird concept to us.

We have a 22 year old still at home. He’s got his first grad job and only earns 28k, he does manage to save a bit though.