Partner spent my money and lied

[Lilly1812]

So i gave some money to my partner to keep in his savings account as he has a higher interest. I tried to open the same account but was denied. This is an inheritance given to my children by their late grandmother. I finally opened an account in their names and asked for the money back. He gave me different stories for a week. At first he said he has put some in a fixed term account so I said log in on ur app and let me see . He said no! Meanwhile he allowed me to see just a week before. This got me thinking that he has perhaps used some of the money. I asked him to tell me the truth but he insisted the money is there but he will transfer it when he's ready and he won't let me see his app either. After some back and forth and him making me very upset, he transferred some of the money. It is left with £5000. I asked him why he can't complete the transfer but he said he will do it. I persuaded him to just let me check to make sure he hasn't used it. He finally opened the app and I only saw £2000. I confronted him and he said he gave £3000 to his friend to invest in something and he should get it back by the end of the month. I'm so disappointed he lied to me for so long and also used my money without asking me. What can I do if I don't get the money back? I'm not talking to him as of now .

This is an awful idea. Her partner could easily go to police himself and tell them she logged in without consent to take money, OP could get done for fraud.

Why on earth would you give someone mon̈ey to keep in their account to earn a little more interest? I would only do this with close family- DH, DC, DM.

OP, please can I ask, how you got him to give the £10,000 back?

After reading this thread, and looking at another, I am going to set aside now the issue with the money.
Because the real issue is losing your mum, how she died, and your anxiety around why she died.
It is an awful loss, but you are now at a point where you thinking you are also going to die soon and are concerned about what happens to your children.
You are then placing your life in the hands of a man who would not care you for you if you were ill, nor is interested in your children’s welfare.
It is clouding your judgement and I’m going to blunt, it is ruining the life you do have.
You are not ill and you have many more years to go. You have gorgeous children and a family I am sure would welcome you back if you let them. You are not alone.
Often when we are grieving we fixate over another problem to bury the real problem.
You have been with this man all of your adult life and he is abusing you. If you could sit on a park bench with you for an hour with your mum, to talk, what would she advise you to do?
She did not bring you up to have you treated like this. She would be devastated to know that you feel so low.
All is not lost. You have a future, you have your children, you have your own family.
I am sure your mum was very brave.
Time to dig deep, because you have that bravery in you and you can fight an easier battle than your mum had.
It is time to set yourself free. Yes, the loss of this money is important, but you and your children matter more.
Personally, I would walk away. You can argue over it, or accept that there is £10,000 for your kids.
He has stolen from your children’s future. You can battle with him, get the police involved if you so wish. But the stress of that won’t help.
If you start again, you can replace that money over time even if it takes a good long while. But you will have done it without negotiating with this lowlife of a human.
You will have to work hard to regain the trust of your siblings but it can be done. They have also lost their mum, and feel like they’ve lost their sister.
Give yourself the gift of your own life back. Find the strength in you that your mum had. Your health will be strengthened by having your own life.
Waiting around for this man to care is a waste of your precious existence, and you deserve more.

But you didn’t send it to someone who wasn’t actually the beneficiary I’m guessing?? As that goes totally against what you’ve agreed to do as executor and anyone you’ve impacted has recourse against you for their losses.