Partner spent my money and lied

[Lilly1812]

So i gave some money to my partner to keep in his savings account as he has a higher interest. I tried to open the same account but was denied. This is an inheritance given to my children by their late grandmother. I finally opened an account in their names and asked for the money back. He gave me different stories for a week. At first he said he has put some in a fixed term account so I said log in on ur app and let me see . He said no! Meanwhile he allowed me to see just a week before. This got me thinking that he has perhaps used some of the money. I asked him to tell me the truth but he insisted the money is there but he will transfer it when he's ready and he won't let me see his app either. After some back and forth and him making me very upset, he transferred some of the money. It is left with £5000. I asked him why he can't complete the transfer but he said he will do it. I persuaded him to just let me check to make sure he hasn't used it. He finally opened the app and I only saw £2000. I confronted him and he said he gave £3000 to his friend to invest in something and he should get it back by the end of the month. I'm so disappointed he lied to me for so long and also used my money without asking me. What can I do if I don't get the money back? I'm not talking to him as of now .

Also I think you could be on dodgy ground from a legal perspective because you’re supposed to responsible when you’re looking after your kids’ inheritance money.

i also think this

No, because the money was never hers.

I don’t know why people are being so rude when on other threads it’s all about trusting your partner.

How was the money never hers?

She did trust him.

It was her kids’ inheritance money.

Obviously. I can’t see any need for posters to bite over that.

Yes but when you have UC you’re only allowed a certain amount of savings or your monthly UC amount can get slashed or taken away altogether. This inheritance would count as savings.

No, it wouldn’t because the inheritance money (or capital) didn’t belong to her.

It does, as it’s in her bank account. Any money you have in your own account that you intend on your children inheriting still very much counts as capital when you apply or are on UC.

the reality is ANYONE could say “this account that’s in my name is for my children one day, it’s not my money” to UC and could just be lying.

it may be different if this savings account was under the name of her children. But in this case it’s a bank account with OP’s name on it.

Even if it’s an account in her children’s name this still stands.

Fools and their money are soon parted.

Even a bank account in dc's names is counted under UC... Because you as the parent can access it. Ds has a junior ISA so he def has his own funds I can't touch... Suits me too!!
Your relationship should be over imo. He has scammed your dc and lied to you.

I see what you mean @sprinklesandshines and perhaps this is what OP was (perfectly legally) trying to avoid. But my point remains that the money was never hers. And I don’t think anyone could say “it’s my kids money, not mine” - presumably OP has some paperwork about the inheritance and therefore could challenge DWP. Such a shame she didn’t open up the accounts in her kids names as soon as the money came in.

Get some legal advice, obviously dump him, and pursue with small claims if needed

Agree it’s theft.

If he doesn’t return it within the week, tell him you’re going to the police.

The second you get that money back, leave his fucking disgusting self. Who the fuck does this? Absolute arsehole.

What can I do if I don't get the money back? I'm not talking to him as of now

Absolutely nothing. You just lose it.

Not talking to him or threatening with police like some are suggesting is naiive and unwise.

I'd be that man's best friend. Firm but understanding, don't make waves, keep him onside in the hope the money appears. I'd make promises of transferring him even more in future, as soon as the original amount is returned this month so you can see the interest etc.

Then, after you've hopefully got it back, dump him.

Your poor children.
He is lying, thieving scum.

Do you live together and share an account

https://england.shelter.org.uk/professional_resources/legal/benefits/universal_credit/universal_credit_capital_rules

Is he your children’s father?
it’s a strange man who is comfortable with taking a child’s inheritance. I’d play nice till the end of the month when this money should be ‘repaid by the friend’ I’d also ask for the name of ‘the friend’ who is holding your child’s inheritance and impress on them the importance of repaying this money asap as it wasn’t boyfriends money to ‘invest/lend’.
If no money materialises, which I doubt it will, I’d be being overly helpful with assisting him to apply For a loan/overdraft to repay you.
What a shitty man. Dump him at your earliest opportunity once you have recouped as much as possible.

This is really good advice. The guy’s a dick and you’ll have to massage his ego.

As an aside, please don’t listen to people saying it’s not theft. I’m a lawyer. It is. And what person gives a bf thousands as a gift…there’s your implicit proof.

Good luck, OP.

Get your money back before you break up.

If you break up with him he will justify keeping the money.

He is an utter, utter bastard.