Partner does not want another baby but I do

[Septmum2023]

My partner (33m) and I (32f) have been together almost 6 years and we had our DS in Sept 2023. We always said we wanted 2 children and decided we would start trying for baby no2 this month. He told me yesterday he has changed his mind and only wants one now.

I am completely devastated as I always imagined myself with 2 and I want my son to have a sibling. I feel like I've been blindsided as he is telling me so late.

His reasons are: having less time, being more stressed, money and just not looking forward to having another.

He has now said, its a never say never, but equally, cant see himself changing his mind. I don't want to split up our family as I love it so much but I worry if it does not happen I will struggle to get past it.

Does anyone have any advice?

How can you compromise.isr on something like this?

Well obviously there’s no middle ground between having a baby and not having a baby- if that’s what your are asking?

But I meant compromise in the broader sense of the relationship - so they discuss their different positions on the issue and they work together to come up with a mutually agreed way forward for the family that they both feel they can be content with. Rather than one making the decision and the other just feeling like they have no choice but to accept it and then feeling resentful , bitter, and unhappy in the partnership. The first situation is more likely if they approach the situation on equal terms.

Well obviously there’s no middle ground between having a baby and not having a baby-

Goldfish.

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