Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

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Bit of a rant really. We’re on a UK break with my family, just a cottage thing in Wales. Me, OH, my parents, my sister and her fella. I’m 23 weeks pregnant and just feeling a bit raw anyway tbh.

So my OH’s got a bit of a speech thing. Not a full stammer but he struggles sometimes with certain words or says stuff wrong, mispronounces things a bit. I’m used to it now and usually know exactly what he means. He gets worse when he’s tired and it’s been a long few days. We’ve been walking loads and it’s not exactly relaxing.

Last night after dinner he was trying to tell a story and got stuck on a word. Tried like 3 times to say it and my dad and sister just started laughing and taking the piss. Doing voices and repeating it back to him all wrong. He tried to laugh it off but I could see he was gutted. I told them to pack it in and they were like oh calm down we’re only joking. Then my sister said I’m just hormonal.

This morning he said he had a migraine and stayed at the cottage. Might be true but also reckon he just didn’t fancy spending the day with them after last night. Can’t blame him.

I said something again to my mum and she just rolled her eyes and said he’s too sensitive and they’re only winding him up. But I don’t think it’s funny at all. I feel really protective of him and also just really sad he’s been made to feel like that. It’s meant to be a nice time away before baby comes and now it just feels crap.

AIBU to be upset? Should I have said more?

This is exactly what they need to be told. Tell them you won’t be attending family events or joining family holidays until this attitude changes. Point out the comment regarding your sister’s loud partner and say that sadly, if they can’t change their behaviour, your child will never get to spend time with this side of their family. They are just unpleasant, bullying idiots!

I’ve had this when l was waiting for the hoist to lower my wheelchair to the driver door. Told the busybody that it wasn’t the number plate she needed, but the serial number of the badge, and offered her that and the number of social services !!

I misread it initially, I thought it was his family. Your family should be better than this, how awful of them. I'd leave, or if you've paid for the accommodation get them to leave. Why didn't you say anything to them at the time?

Your family are bullies, OP. You now also need to decide if you are going to allow them near your child when she/he is born. Bullies pick on the vulnerable, and their apologies mean nothing.

How do you think people who live in the countryside manage, @nomas? Do you think they don’t go out driving after dark? Headlights exist.

That is almost equivalent to making fun of someone with a disability.

"Then my sister said I’m just hormonal."

That is the sort of patronising twattery that I really hate and makes me wish I could just punch the perpetrator hard in the face. It is precisely because you can't do that that they have free reign to inflict it on people.

That’s a really horrible thing to do. I am very sorry you and your husband had to put up with that awful behaviour. Go home after reading your family the riot act.

This is just awful. Would they mock him if he was in a wheelchair, or was blind or had any other disability?? Vile behaviour.

I wonder how funny they would find it if you kept laughing and commenting on their belly, fat rolls, balding head, bad teeth, jowls, neck wattle, bingo wings or any other thing they might be sensitive about.

Your family were completely out of order and they need to know that. Show them this thread so they can't accuse you of making an issue of it!
Let them see how you stand by your husband and you tell them you're both prepared to leave unless they can show you how they understand how wrong this behaviour is. If they're willing to change then give them a chance to show you.

It's my guess they're somehow jealous of your happiness at this time as you expect your baby.

Most families show support and kindness towards their loved ones - not spite! It's really not normal.

Really nice to see someone so supportive of their partner. Seriously, well done you. They were being complete aresholes and they know it x

Don’t they know how rude it is to make personal remarks? Are they like this Normally?
looks like they have shown their true colours
you don’t need to be‘tainted’ by association people like them usually have low self-esteem and are always trying to make themselves look superior at the cost of others
you can be thankful for seeing their attitude and you can decide what you want to do with the relationship
what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger

Funny isn’t it, because if you put all the comments together….too sensitive, you are just hormonal, don’t be silly, eye rolling, etc…..reminds me of a post I have just seen about domestic abuse……your family are a load of gaslighting arseholes. I would be distancing myself from them.

Totally disgusting behaviour from your family, you and your DP deserve a lot better.

Are you for real? Sheeeesh!!!

I’m so sorry you and your partner have been subjected to this awful behaviour. I would make an excuse and leave. You and your partner deserve better. It would be understandable if you chose to limit contact with them to shorter meet-ups for the time being.

I'd say any of you ever make him feel this way again and get yourselves out of it by saying it was a joke you wont be spending time with them.
Your mum making comments that he is too sensitive has totally dismissed yours and your OH feelings .
Sadly families are like this they're thoughtless and haven't shown much intelligence.

They are not laughing with you, they are laughing at you.
They are adults and have made their choice.
You must make yours.
And believe me leaving them will be liberating. If you choose not to They will split you both up in the long term.
You are having a baby and children need two parents, put your child first.

Well done for standing up to him OP, hope you had a wonderful day.

I feel so sad for him, op. This is such nasty behaviour. What were they trying to achieve, other than make him feel utterly embarrassed and awkward and crap? YANBU.

Well it depends on what their intentions were and how good the impressions were....only joking they are a bunch of twats. I'd be fuming. Im also quite good at ripping ppl apart based on their biggest insecurities so the night would have ended with a lot more fireworks. Let's see who is being overly sensitive then. Lol

Tammy Wynette => stand by your man

What twats! What sort of adult does that?!

I'm not sure why class or income are relevant.

Bullies come from all class backgrounds.

Pack your bags and leave immediately. There is no excuse for this kind of behaviour and if you put up with it, they will never stop. Your OH needs your support over this, no need for a row, just go, you can tell them when he is not there to feel bad about it.
Wishing you lots of happiness in the future with your new family.

If he is "too sensitive" why are they not being respectful of that? Why are they making him the butt of the jokes?

My child has a stammer and I can kinda of understand how he feels. I would be up and away home. I do not respect anyone who feels comfortable mocking anyone for something they can not control.

It seems like he isn't confrontational because he has been shamed far too many times. He just retreats and needs support whilst in a vulnerable state. He might be an adult but when we are triggered and deeply hurt we all retreat back to a child state. Your family are assholes, plain and simple! I would hate to see how they would behave if this was your child