Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

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Bit of a rant really. We’re on a UK break with my family, just a cottage thing in Wales. Me, OH, my parents, my sister and her fella. I’m 23 weeks pregnant and just feeling a bit raw anyway tbh.

So my OH’s got a bit of a speech thing. Not a full stammer but he struggles sometimes with certain words or says stuff wrong, mispronounces things a bit. I’m used to it now and usually know exactly what he means. He gets worse when he’s tired and it’s been a long few days. We’ve been walking loads and it’s not exactly relaxing.

Last night after dinner he was trying to tell a story and got stuck on a word. Tried like 3 times to say it and my dad and sister just started laughing and taking the piss. Doing voices and repeating it back to him all wrong. He tried to laugh it off but I could see he was gutted. I told them to pack it in and they were like oh calm down we’re only joking. Then my sister said I’m just hormonal.

This morning he said he had a migraine and stayed at the cottage. Might be true but also reckon he just didn’t fancy spending the day with them after last night. Can’t blame him.

I said something again to my mum and she just rolled her eyes and said he’s too sensitive and they’re only winding him up. But I don’t think it’s funny at all. I feel really protective of him and also just really sad he’s been made to feel like that. It’s meant to be a nice time away before baby comes and now it just feels crap.

AIBU to be upset? Should I have said more?

I would be leaving and then sending a message saying exactly why, and if they ever, ever do that again they will never see you or their grandchild again.

They need to be told.

Making excuses about why you are leaving is just letting them get away with being vile bullies. Do you want you child to grow up watching your family mock their dad?

This.

and he tripped over a word and my sister laughed and said “hope he’s gonna be able to pronounce the baby’s name” like what even is that??? just felt like a punch to the gut

Yet, you didn’t say anything to her! Just let it slide. Perfect opportunity to tell her (and by proxy rest of family) what you think about their bullying and gaslighting behaviour.

Wow, they sounds fucking horrible.
I've got a stammer and people have openly took the piss out of me for it and looked at me as if I'm a piece of shit off the floor. It hurts, so I can imagine exactly how your DH is feeling.
I know you've said a few words to your family but I'm surprised you haven't left tonight and I wouldn't really be happy with the making excuses about leaving rather than just having it out with them, they're rude as fuck and need calling out to their faces, not over a text. But that's just my take and how I'd expect my DH to act in that scenario.

Has your partner not had any brain scans or speech therapy to find out what is wrong with him?

You can’t expect everyone to understand a condition that hasn’t even been formally diagnosed.

You are saying the lack of a formal diagnosis is mitigation for the bullying??

Condition? Condition?? Wtf, HOW does that excuse BULLYING? Whether he has a 'condition' or not, is completely and utterly irrelevant. I cannot believe your post, you are suggesting that unless he has a diagnosis, then the bullying is justified because if people 'don't understand it', then bullying is understandable. No one needs to 'understand' anything to not be a fugging bully!

He’s not coming between you and your family, their nasty belittling attitudes are.

I feel for him that he’s going to be stuck with them via you and his child ☹️.

Just ignore this stupidity op. Have you considered a brain scan muffinmam ?

You are a nice partner to him. And he sounds lovely too.
I wish you a happy future with your baby x

They sound thick as pigshit.....I'm cringing just at the thought of being around people Like that.

I'd put good money on him having dyspraxia BTW.

There is nothing worse in this world than mocking someone - anyone.
Remember Trump (of ALL people) mocking that disabled reporter? Unfunny.
Same thing here.
Unfunny.

I’m thinking a heart-scan might be more in order.
Or maybe a scan to see if she’s got one.

So my OH’s got a bit of a speech thing.

Has your OH had a diagnosis of his speech thing?

My husband suffers from Aphasia.

When he gets his words confused we ignore it as we know what he is meaning.
So for example, he will say “I was looking out the mirror” when he actually means “I was looking out the window”
This is very apparent if he is tired or his emotions are heightened, the sentence comes out in the wrong order.

However, If your OH does not have a formal diagnosis, I would use this opportunity to have a discussion as to why this is happening.
He needs a brain scan to identify if there is an underlying problem .

It’s so lovely to see a thread where someone is able to recognise when their family are being arseholes, and stand up to them for their partner. I hope you have a wonderful day just the two of you, OP.

Your family are horrible people. Pushing alcohol into someone who does not drink, complaining he's not sporty - in addition to the stammer thing? Uneducated, horrid cunts.

Your family sound like awful bullies, to both of you. In your position I would cut the holiday short right there and then, return home where you can pamper each other and reassess how much you want them involved in your life in future.

BULLYING IS NEVER OK. Never 😡

Well done for leaving early. Your poor partner.

I am glad you are leaving your disgusting bullying family. I feel really sorry for your partner, he is in a terrible position.

You do realise they have no respect for you at all op? You are now pregnant, and they don’t care about upsetting you.

You need to go extremely low contact for your own protection, and tell them why. They will treat your baby in the same awful way in time, I promise you, this is how they entertain themselves.

Are you the black sheep by any chance op?

Ir seems your sister’s boyfriend is treated differently, as is she.

I would stop seeing them. Protect your family from such abusive bullying. If they can do this to your dp with a speech impediment then they really are the lowest of the low.

I am so sorry op but I think you have just got used to it over the years, and growing up. This is totally unacceptable.

I said we can go if he wants and he just said “up to you babe” which is classic him, always putting it back on me. he’s not a confrontational person at all
Well he’s putting this back on you because they’re your family. I expect if they were strangers and not relatives he’d very much like to tell them to go fuck themsleves.

he’s too polite to say anything but I can tell it’s getting to him
It would get to anybody. You need to have a word with them. Though the alternative would be not to bother and just cut ties - they all sound like nasty assholes!

I hope you get home safely and have a nice day together.

All your bf needs to say to your family is "fuck off".

Did you say anything to your sister?? OP are you scared of your family? I just struggle to understand why you don’t call out such disgusting behaviour?! What’s your sisters deal, as well? She sounds nasty and maybe jealous?
You absolutely need to make it clear to them why you are leaving early and Id definitely cut back any communication with them until they apologise to your partner!

So glad you’re taking him away from your toxic nasty family.

I’d draw a very firm boundary with them around this. That you will protect your family and that what they were doing was absolutely not ok and should not be minimised.

Your poor partner my heart goes out to him.

Shocking behaviour from your family.

JFC, what a toxic cunt your sister is. I'd just say that she doesn't need to worry about people pronouncing your baby's name correctly because she will never be seeing the baby.

You seen to have gone on holiday with a load of school bullies who just happen to be related to you. Do not allow them into your baby's life. They will mock your child's dad in front of them. Do not give them any opportunity to do this. Go no contact as soon as you have left.