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Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

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PReggoDuck23 · 08/06/2025 15:40

Bit of a rant really. We’re on a UK break with my family, just a cottage thing in Wales. Me, OH, my parents, my sister and her fella. I’m 23 weeks pregnant and just feeling a bit raw anyway tbh.

So my OH’s got a bit of a speech thing. Not a full stammer but he struggles sometimes with certain words or says stuff wrong, mispronounces things a bit. I’m used to it now and usually know exactly what he means. He gets worse when he’s tired and it’s been a long few days. We’ve been walking loads and it’s not exactly relaxing.

Last night after dinner he was trying to tell a story and got stuck on a word. Tried like 3 times to say it and my dad and sister just started laughing and taking the piss. Doing voices and repeating it back to him all wrong. He tried to laugh it off but I could see he was gutted. I told them to pack it in and they were like oh calm down we’re only joking. Then my sister said I’m just hormonal.

This morning he said he had a migraine and stayed at the cottage. Might be true but also reckon he just didn’t fancy spending the day with them after last night. Can’t blame him.

I said something again to my mum and she just rolled her eyes and said he’s too sensitive and they’re only winding him up. But I don’t think it’s funny at all. I feel really protective of him and also just really sad he’s been made to feel like that. It’s meant to be a nice time away before baby comes and now it just feels crap.

AIBU to be upset? Should I have said more?

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RampantIvy · 09/06/2025 12:25

and my sister laughed and said “hope he’s gonna be able to pronounce the baby’s name”

@PReggoDuck23 While this is a nasty and uncalled for remark it is worth thinking about. A family member has a child called Ruth. The dad pronounces "th" as "f" so the child gets called Roof.

Please do call out your family for their bullying behaviour.
As a pp has pointed out only bullies respond that it was only a joke.

FatherFrosty · 09/06/2025 12:31

Fuck them

imagine how they are going to treat your child?

your poor partner. It’s not him coming between the family, it’s their awful behaviour.

TreeDudette · 09/06/2025 12:37

I'd have left and taken my DP with me. Your family is horrible.

BarBellBarbie · 09/06/2025 12:48

RampantIvy · 09/06/2025 12:25

and my sister laughed and said “hope he’s gonna be able to pronounce the baby’s name”

@PReggoDuck23 While this is a nasty and uncalled for remark it is worth thinking about. A family member has a child called Ruth. The dad pronounces "th" as "f" so the child gets called Roof.

Please do call out your family for their bullying behaviour.
As a pp has pointed out only bullies respond that it was only a joke.

It's fine to pronounce Ruth like this if it's your natural accent, and not a speech impediment.

uncomfortablydumb60 · 09/06/2025 13:19

PReggoDuck23 · 08/06/2025 16:15

tbh I’m kinda shocked by it all, like I knew they could be a bit much but not like this. they started on day one actually – he said something about the kettle not working right and my dad was like “eh? what’s that meant to mean” in this fake confused voice and my sis was like “english pls” and laughing. I let that slide cos I thought maybe it was nerves or whatever and they’d settle down but nah it’s been every day in little digs

I’ve asked OH just now if it was really a migraine and he kinda half smiled and said “a bit of both” so yeah reckon he’s just done with it all. I said we can go if he wants and he just said “up to you babe” which is classic him, always putting it back on me. he’s not a confrontational person at all

trip’s til tues but honestly thinking of heading back tomorrow morning. I feel like I’ve tried to stick up for him but it’s like talking to a wall. can’t believe they’ve made me feel like I’m overreacting for not wanting them to take the piss out of the father of my child

thanks for replying, appreciate it. feel a bit less mad in the head now x

Please make the decision for him, he's trying to please you, and cause no offence to the stupid twats who take pleasure in mocking him

uncomfortablydumb60 · 09/06/2025 13:23

TooSquaretobehip · 09/06/2025 02:40

Condition? Condition?? Wtf, HOW does that excuse BULLYING? Whether he has a 'condition' or not, is completely and utterly irrelevant. I cannot believe your post, you are suggesting that unless he has a diagnosis, then the bullying is justified because if people 'don't understand it', then bullying is understandable. No one needs to 'understand' anything to not be a fugging bully!

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You have all the sensitivity of a brick
Nobodys business if he's had a brain scan!!!
stammers are often caused by a psychological reason, not a Physiological one!!!

uncomfortablydumb60 · 09/06/2025 13:23

Oops meant to quote muffin man my apologies

uncomfortablydumb60 · 09/06/2025 13:26

@Muffinmam
You have all the sensitivity of a brick
None of your fucking business if he has had a brain scan
FYI Stammers usual have a psychological cause not a Fucking physical cause

MassiveOvaryaction · 09/06/2025 13:40

nomas · 08/06/2025 23:19

Why would their endanger themselves by driving at night? They could be in a rural area with unlit country roads.

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There were still at least 2 hours of daylight when I posted that Confused

CatLoco · 09/06/2025 14:10

It's just not funny. If I were you I'd tell them to apologise or you're off back home. How would they like it if they had a disability that others took the piss out of 😡

YourRealAquaOP · 09/06/2025 14:12

Hi I'm sorry that your family are so ignorant,don't they realize if someone stammers they are embarrassed and picking on them makes it worse,and your not hormonal they have hurt and disrespected your partner which automatically hurts you.Perhaps they should watch The Kings Speech.Speak to you OH and tell him how upset you are and think maybe you should both go home.

Snapandfart24 · 09/06/2025 14:15

Nope OP, your family are being right dicks. Like, riiiiight diiicks.
It can be crippling to have to struggle with these things and to have so-called family rip the piss is unacceptable. Sorry for being a bit sweary but it really grinds my gears, my youngest is virtually non verbal due to these type of "fun, jokey" reactions to speech problems.
Really feel for you being in the middle as fully taking a hard side with your OH makes it very awkward with your family which is the last thing you need.
If they can't play nice for OHs sake, they could bloody try for you and bubs. So sorry you are in this position, but it really isn't you (or OH) that are to blame at all.
Sincerely hope things improve for you all to enjoy the remainder of your break xx

LittleBitofBread · 09/06/2025 14:25

They're cunts.
If you happen to speak to them (I wouldn't be rushing to if it were me) and they bring up you leaving early, I'd tell them exactly why, and what you thought of their behaviour.

DraigCymraeg · 09/06/2025 14:25

God, they sound absolutely vile, all three of them! I wonder how the boyfriend felt?
If you can leave I would do so.
I'm so sorry.

Bluedenimdoglover · 09/06/2025 14:33

Pack up and go home. Tell them their behaviour is childish, ignorant and hurtful and that you are ashamed to be related to them. Shocking behaviour.

BrightLeader · 09/06/2025 14:44

You should just leave tbh. They have treated you both really badly.

Armydreamer · 09/06/2025 14:54

Absolutely awful. That's so disrespectful and hurtful. They're gaslighting you blaming hormones. I'd go home .

FunRubyReader · 09/06/2025 15:06

I know where your coming from, my Son has a stammer , it's frustrating and embarrassing for them not to get the words out properly. Your partner is not alone, Your family are horrible. None of my family laugh at My Son . Hope it sorts itself out. My Sons speech therapist says its all in the mind . Good luck

Tinatubby73 · 09/06/2025 15:06

I agree with everyone. Your family sound horrid. Good for you for sticking up for your OH. I would definitely tell them and do one

Psychologymam · 09/06/2025 15:24

MassiveOvaryaction · 09/06/2025 13:40

There were still at least 2 hours of daylight when I posted that Confused

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Plus cars have lights installed which is quite handy. Do they think people in the countryside stay at home after dusk?!

Safaribar · 09/06/2025 16:53

PReggoDuck23 · 08/06/2025 15:40

Bit of a rant really. We’re on a UK break with my family, just a cottage thing in Wales. Me, OH, my parents, my sister and her fella. I’m 23 weeks pregnant and just feeling a bit raw anyway tbh.

So my OH’s got a bit of a speech thing. Not a full stammer but he struggles sometimes with certain words or says stuff wrong, mispronounces things a bit. I’m used to it now and usually know exactly what he means. He gets worse when he’s tired and it’s been a long few days. We’ve been walking loads and it’s not exactly relaxing.

Last night after dinner he was trying to tell a story and got stuck on a word. Tried like 3 times to say it and my dad and sister just started laughing and taking the piss. Doing voices and repeating it back to him all wrong. He tried to laugh it off but I could see he was gutted. I told them to pack it in and they were like oh calm down we’re only joking. Then my sister said I’m just hormonal.

This morning he said he had a migraine and stayed at the cottage. Might be true but also reckon he just didn’t fancy spending the day with them after last night. Can’t blame him.

I said something again to my mum and she just rolled her eyes and said he’s too sensitive and they’re only winding him up. But I don’t think it’s funny at all. I feel really protective of him and also just really sad he’s been made to feel like that. It’s meant to be a nice time away before baby comes and now it just feels crap.

AIBU to be upset? Should I have said more?

They sound awful. Who would want to be stuck on holiday with them?! If I were you, I'd listen to them for a bit then start mimicking their mannerisms, bad habits, etc. Yes, very childish but they won't see how it is for him if they haven't been made a fool of themselves.

OneLemonGuide · 09/06/2025 17:53

nomas · 08/06/2025 23:19

Why would their endanger themselves by driving at night? They could be in a rural area with unlit country roads.

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How to say you live in a big city… without saying you live in a big city 🤣.

knor · 09/06/2025 18:07

Definitely an upsetting situation and your family are totally in the wrong. I hate when people are horrible to others and then when the person is upset, they’re told to lighten up or they’re “only joking.”
I don’t think you could’ve done more though. After the holiday, I’d send a little message to your family and just say “I didn’t like the way you joked about my partner. Please don’t do that again.”

MassiveOvaryaction · 09/06/2025 18:07

Psychologymam · 09/06/2025 15:24

Plus cars have lights installed which is quite handy. Do they think people in the countryside stay at home after dusk?!

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Missj25 · 09/06/2025 18:27

Lozza70 · 08/06/2025 15:42

Sorry but your family were being complete arseholes. You need to stand up to this and defend your partner. It’s not acceptable for adults to behave like this.

I completely agree , how horrible of them OP ..