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Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

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PReggoDuck23 · 08/06/2025 15:40

Bit of a rant really. We’re on a UK break with my family, just a cottage thing in Wales. Me, OH, my parents, my sister and her fella. I’m 23 weeks pregnant and just feeling a bit raw anyway tbh.

So my OH’s got a bit of a speech thing. Not a full stammer but he struggles sometimes with certain words or says stuff wrong, mispronounces things a bit. I’m used to it now and usually know exactly what he means. He gets worse when he’s tired and it’s been a long few days. We’ve been walking loads and it’s not exactly relaxing.

Last night after dinner he was trying to tell a story and got stuck on a word. Tried like 3 times to say it and my dad and sister just started laughing and taking the piss. Doing voices and repeating it back to him all wrong. He tried to laugh it off but I could see he was gutted. I told them to pack it in and they were like oh calm down we’re only joking. Then my sister said I’m just hormonal.

This morning he said he had a migraine and stayed at the cottage. Might be true but also reckon he just didn’t fancy spending the day with them after last night. Can’t blame him.

I said something again to my mum and she just rolled her eyes and said he’s too sensitive and they’re only winding him up. But I don’t think it’s funny at all. I feel really protective of him and also just really sad he’s been made to feel like that. It’s meant to be a nice time away before baby comes and now it just feels crap.

AIBU to be upset? Should I have said more?

OP posts:
Pinches · 08/06/2025 15:59

I would be having words and explaining why your dp is 'so sensitive' and that theyre never to behave like that again if they want to continue a relationship with you both. If they laugh it off or dont take you seriously then Id pack up and leave

Gyozas · 08/06/2025 16:00

Your familiar are a despicable mob of classless bullies. Jesus.

HelloDaisy · 08/06/2025 16:02

They sound horrible, certainly not a joke and I’m sure they wouldn’t like it if situation was reversed.
dh’s family are like that and they call it banter. We had one evening when they were teasing him about his disability and carried on even when he was in tears. I saw red and told them exactly what I thought of them and their behaviour. It was an awful situation but they have not done it again..

Since then we have gone for minimal contact and life is much better.

WomenInSTEM · 08/06/2025 16:03

I have a stammer. If my DHs family had mocked me about it I would have left and come home.

Please be on your DPs side with this. Not being able to speak fluently all the time is difficult, especially with new people and their reaction was unforgivable.

TheFormidableMrsC · 08/06/2025 16:04

What a bunch of cunts. I’d be taking myself home.

AluckyEllie · 08/06/2025 16:04

God I hate people like this. Bullies or just self centred arseholes who say ‘it’s just a joke’ when pulled up on it. What if your child has a stutter- are they going to be so rude to them?

Thunderpants88 · 08/06/2025 16:05

Honestly? I would leave and then link them this thread to let them see how others view their “humour” see who’s laughing then

CassandraWebb · 08/06/2025 16:07

Yanbu.

What awful people. I have slurred speech sometimes due to a neuromuscular junction disorder and I haven't had anyone be nasty yet but if they were I would think very little of them

It is really hard even speaking when you know it might not come out how you meant it to.

Bobthepotplant · 08/06/2025 16:08

Sorry but it’s bullying pure and simple. I would be horrified if someone did this to my DH or anyone. To mock and laugh at someone’s disability however minor it is, is not funny. I’d be packing my bags and heading home. Your poor DH deserves much more respect from your family.

I have a permanently damaged vocal cord from thyroid surgery so my voice is weak, it is something I am very self conscious about and if someone started mocking me I would be mortified.

SamphiretheTervosaur · 08/06/2025 16:10

I'm another who'd tell my family to pack it in... and I would also pack my bags

That's nasty, crude, belittling. Not a joke, not funny

godmum56 · 08/06/2025 16:11

Baseline for me is you dis my partner, I am going NC unless he gets a proper apology RIGHT NOW. You do it again and that's the end.

ThePoshUns · 08/06/2025 16:12

You family are twats . How nasty of them.
no decent person would do that to someone.

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 08/06/2025 16:13

I hope you back him if he doesn't want your dc around such bullies... What if your dc copies their df? Will you still allow them around your dc?

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PReggoDuck23 · 08/06/2025 16:15

tbh I’m kinda shocked by it all, like I knew they could be a bit much but not like this. they started on day one actually – he said something about the kettle not working right and my dad was like “eh? what’s that meant to mean” in this fake confused voice and my sis was like “english pls” and laughing. I let that slide cos I thought maybe it was nerves or whatever and they’d settle down but nah it’s been every day in little digs

I’ve asked OH just now if it was really a migraine and he kinda half smiled and said “a bit of both” so yeah reckon he’s just done with it all. I said we can go if he wants and he just said “up to you babe” which is classic him, always putting it back on me. he’s not a confrontational person at all

trip’s til tues but honestly thinking of heading back tomorrow morning. I feel like I’ve tried to stick up for him but it’s like talking to a wall. can’t believe they’ve made me feel like I’m overreacting for not wanting them to take the piss out of the father of my child

thanks for replying, appreciate it. feel a bit less mad in the head now x

OP posts:
Doctorkrank · 08/06/2025 16:15

That’s horrible of your family. Are they often like this?

WestwardHo1 · 08/06/2025 16:15

This is so horrible Angry. Your poor partner.

Your family sound like utter bullies.

skyeisthelimit · 08/06/2025 16:16

YANBU. Your DH is not oversensitive, and it is not down to your hormones.

Your family were extremely nasty. People with disabilities of any sort, struggle enough without people taking the piss out of them.

They need to understand how they have made him feel, and apologise for their actions.

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 08/06/2025 16:16

What nasty bullies. I’d be going very low contact to be honest, that’s completely unacceptable. What if your baby ends up with a speech impediment, are they gonna bully a small child too?

Gloriia · 08/06/2025 16:18

Just go home op. To mock anyone like this is absolutely not ok.

LBFseBrom · 08/06/2025 16:21

Your family are rude, they are not little kids and if they were, they'd be corrected! Speak to them about it. I am so annoyed at them on behalf of you and your partner. Any one of them could develop a speech problem, you never know what is going to happen in life. Honestly! Words fail me.

Theroadt · 08/06/2025 16:21

Honedtly your family were being vicious, and you need to stand your ground, if necessary going non-comm. bullies of any sirt are vile, frankly. Yes your OH would have noticed and been hurt by it. Deeply. But he’ll also notice how you react to it. Do you really want these peopld in your baby’s life??

PiggieWig · 08/06/2025 16:21

You aren’t mad in the head or hormonal. Thats gaslighting.
Your family have behaved in an appalling way towards your partner. I’d find it hard to get past that. I’d leave with him - they haven’t listen to your words, so show you won’t stand for it.

LiveshipParagon · 08/06/2025 16:21

PReggoDuck23 · 08/06/2025 16:15

tbh I’m kinda shocked by it all, like I knew they could be a bit much but not like this. they started on day one actually – he said something about the kettle not working right and my dad was like “eh? what’s that meant to mean” in this fake confused voice and my sis was like “english pls” and laughing. I let that slide cos I thought maybe it was nerves or whatever and they’d settle down but nah it’s been every day in little digs

I’ve asked OH just now if it was really a migraine and he kinda half smiled and said “a bit of both” so yeah reckon he’s just done with it all. I said we can go if he wants and he just said “up to you babe” which is classic him, always putting it back on me. he’s not a confrontational person at all

trip’s til tues but honestly thinking of heading back tomorrow morning. I feel like I’ve tried to stick up for him but it’s like talking to a wall. can’t believe they’ve made me feel like I’m overreacting for not wanting them to take the piss out of the father of my child

thanks for replying, appreciate it. feel a bit less mad in the head now x

Well done for making sure he knows you're on his side. Don't wait until tomorrow, go home now. You'll be able to have a lovely day together tomorrow then, go out somewhere nice, because you both deserve it after what sounds like a truly shit "holiday".

Theroadt · 08/06/2025 16:21

LBFseBrom · 08/06/2025 16:21

Your family are rude, they are not little kids and if they were, they'd be corrected! Speak to them about it. I am so annoyed at them on behalf of you and your partner. Any one of them could develop a speech problem, you never know what is going to happen in life. Honestly! Words fail me.

Not rude. Bullying.

butterdish93 · 08/06/2025 16:22

Gross. I’d leave. How vile.

as a side note, I often begin to muddle my words when a migraine is imminent. The two can be very connected